Question to the psychologist: the child refuses to sleep during the day. Reasons why the baby does not want to sleep during the day Serious changes have occurred in the life of the child

Around the age of 2, a natural leap occurs in the development of the baby and he begins to refuse daytime sleep.

I have several friends who have decided that since the child does not sleep during the day, then he does not need it.

A couple of days passed and the accumulated lack of sleep began to affect the baby: nervous, crying, irritable. That's when they immediately remembered me and began to ask what to do to return the dream.

Therefore, today we will analyze daytime sleep at 2 years old and how to cope with the rejection of it?

Why is it important to keep daytime sleep?

Daytime sleep is useful in that it makes it possible to compensate for lack of sleep after a night (if this happened);
The nervous system of the baby is still immature, and he receives a lot of impressions during his wakefulness. During sleep during the day, information is processed and structured, which means that “places” in memory are freed for new knowledge and impressions;
Most children at 1.5-2 years old become even more mobile. And too long wakefulness is undesirable for a small organism. This leads to rapid fatigue and impaired coordination of movements. It is important to take a break and sleep;
Refusal of daytime sleep at 2 years leads to overwork. As a result, the child may fall asleep worse at night. And in an overtired state, it is impossible to completely relax and rest;
Sleep during the day has a positive effect on strengthening the immune system. The defenses of the baby's body increase.

What should be the duration of rest for children during the day and at night? The total sleep for a child aged 1.5 to 2 years should be 12-14 hours (average 13 hours). But it can be distributed differently in babies. For example, if a child slept for 11 hours at night, then during the day his sleep will be about 2 hours.

Until the age of 4, sleeping during the day is a must. Daytime sleep is by no means an obstacle to nighttime sleep, but, on the contrary, only improves its quality. After 4 years, you can smoothly move away from the tradition of sleeping during the day. Although in moments of overwork, such a rest will always be useful.

Reasons for not taking naps

So why does a child stop sleeping during the day, so in need of rest?

The reason is most often a new leap in the growth and development of the nervous system. It is still quite difficult for a baby to cope with overexcitation and calm down in time;
The banal reason is that the child “slept out” all his norm at night;
The child has not yet had time to get tired. Perhaps you are trying to put him to bed too early, or he got up late in the morning and has not played enough yet. You can try to shift the time of daytime rest;
The kid becomes more and more independent and begins to realize it. Often, with the help of such refusals, children test their parents for strength;
Termination of breastfeeding and the lack of the child's ability to fall asleep on his own.

This is one of the most common problems mothers come to me with for individual advice. They want to excommunicate as soon as possible in order to start getting enough sleep, but a miracle does not happen.

The child may sleep a little better at night, but in the afternoon with bedding, real hell begins.

If you are still breastfeeding and plan to end feeding, be sure to first teach your baby to fall asleep without breastfeeding, and then wean completely.

Technologies for teaching self-sleeping are waiting for you in the online course How to teach a child to fall asleep and sleep without a breast, nocturnal awakenings and motion sickness >>>

How to help your baby fall asleep during the day?

Of course, first of all, you need to take care of observing the daily routine. It is important to put to bed, feed the child at the same time (plus or minus half an hour). If the baby goes to kindergarten, then try to stick to the same schedule on weekends as on weekdays;
The room where the child sleeps should be fresh. It must be regularly ventilated and monitor the temperature and humidity in the room. The air should not be very dry;
Before going to bed, try not to play outdoor games with your baby. Do something calmer with him: read a book, tell a story, give a relaxing massage, sing a melodious song;
Walk more with your child. Fresh air improves the quality of sleep. The most favorable option is to take a longer walk with the baby before lunch and daytime rest;
The quieter and darker the room, the easier it is for children to fall asleep;
If a child refuses daytime sleep at 2 years old, explanations will not help much. Of course, it is worth saying that rest is very important for him, that in a dream he grows, becomes stronger and smarter, gains strength for new games.

If you have already stopped breastfeeding, you can watch the workshop where I give practical tips and tricks to overcome the refusal to fall asleep: How to put your baby to sleep quickly ?>>>.

Don't scold your baby if he can't sleep. Control your emotions and try to remain calm (relevant article: The child falls asleep for a long time, what to do ?>>>);
Give your child the opportunity to choose something before bed, such as what book to read, what song to sing, or what clothes he would like to sleep in. Children love to take the initiative, are happy that they can express their preferences like adults and thus respond more positively to your requests and instructions;
You will be assisted by the creation of a sleep ritual (a benevolent phrase, a fairy tale, a massage, dressing up, putting toys to bed, pulling curtains, a lullaby, etc.) The main rules of the ritual are constancy, a relaxing effect, maintaining close contact between mother and baby.

Almost every milestone in a child's development has its own moments of crisis. For daytime sleep, the crisis period occurs just about 2 years. But it all depends on the individual characteristics of each baby.

The main thing on the part of parents is to adhere to the position that the difficulties that have arisen are temporary, it is impossible to refuse daytime sleep at this age, but, on the contrary, everything possible must be done to save it.

Often, many mothers are helped by strengthening their authority. This has a positive effect on the behavior of the child, on his obedience, including laying down for a daytime sleep.

How and what you need to do to increase your authority, see the course Mom is the main one!>>>

A two-year-old baby does not sleep during the day - is this a cause for concern or a physiological feature of the child? What should parents do? Our article, based on the recommendations of Russian pediatricians, will help to understand the reasons for the sleepless state of the crumbs and solve the problem with the daytime sleep of the baby.

Sleep norms for children 2-3 years old

It should be remembered that all children are different. Time that is optimal for one baby, another will not be enough or too much. Therefore, listening to the stories of other mothers that their children sleep for 2-3 hours during the day and fall asleep early in the evening, you should not think that if your baby sleeps less, then this is wrong.

A deviation of one or one and a half hours from the given norms is quite acceptable. The main criterion for a good sleep is the well-being of the crumbs, his cheerfulness and desire to play.

If the baby is naughty and sluggishly reacts to your offers to play, then most likely he does not sleep enough. In the first few days and even weeks, lack of sleep may not manifest itself in any way, but then it becomes more and more noticeable.

Why can't a 2-3 year old child fall asleep during the day?

Reluctance to sleep during the day is a fairly common phenomenon among children who do not yet go to kindergarten. And not all children sleep during the day.

It depends on a number of reasons:

Late rise in the morning . There are babies who can sleep until they are woken up. As a result: getting up at ten o'clock in the morning, by two o'clock the child simply does not have time to get tired.
Toddler doesn't get enough outdoors . Walking and outdoor games on the street require a lot of energy, so after them, children, as a rule, sleep much better.
The child is very excited . In this case, the baby cannot calm down in any way, does not want to go to bed. This happens when the situation changes when guests arrive.
Baby is uncomfortable in the room . Very hot or cold, dusty, bright daylight interferes with sleep. In addition, the baby can be distracted by untidy toys and extraneous sounds (if your neighbors, for example, started repairs).
Uncomfortable crib . Perhaps the baby is cramped in it, the blanket is too warm or the pillow is not suitable.
hyperactive child . Frequently used term. Such children sleep little and restlessly, and during wakefulness they are in constant motion.

Commentary of Anna Yuryevna Pleshanova, a pediatric neurologist:

It is very desirable that the child still sleep during the day.

Adjusting the regimen to daylight hours can help here, as the most physiological option is to go to bed early and get up early. This is not always convenient for parents, but it is important for the child.

The best option is a child’s sleeping place in a separate room, the ability to organize complete darkness there for the duration of sleep.

Most children, even those who need naps, usually do not like to go to bed - after all, there are so many interesting activities and games. Therefore, it is wrong to offer watching a cartoon as an alternative to sleep, the child will then definitely refuse to sleep during the day, even if he really wants to. It is better to invite the baby to choose a fairy tale that his mother will read to him before going to bed, with the condition that after that - be sure to sleep.

Well, if it doesn’t work out at all with daytime sleep, while the baby behaves well during wakefulness - he doesn’t act up, doesn’t look sleepy, tired - or, conversely, excited and irritable, parents should accept this feature of the child and not turn the absence of daytime sleep is a cause of stress for the whole family.

What to do if a child 2-3 years old does not sleep during the day?

As with many difficult situations, reevaluate your behavior.

According to child psychologists, difficulties are mother's problem, and the baby is not to blame for anything.

That is: you can not scold a child for something that is not done intentionally. And the inability to sleep during the day is just such a case.

Many mothers get annoyed if the baby suddenly stops sleeping and deprives them of the opportunity to do chores around the house or get some rest. But after all, the baby does not understand this and perceives his mother's strict tone as a punishment.

What should be done so that both the baby and the mother get the opportunity to have a good rest without unnecessary scandals and insults:

Increase the duration and intensity of walks before lunch . Try to offer your child active activities as much as possible. You can play ball, climb in labyrinths, teach your child to pull up on the horizontal bar or swing on a swing on their own. Riding a scooter, a balance bike or a bicycle is very good. Now in many yards they began to place small children's climbing walls.
You can also invite your child to jump on a trampoline. . If there is one in the yard, that's great. If not, you can take your baby to a children's maze or a trampoline center. Not only outdoor activities will be useful, but also a swimming pool, rhythm in fitness centers.
Rethink your daily routine . Perhaps it will be possible to shift the night's sleep and raise the baby early in the morning. If a child wakes up at 7 in the morning, then by one in the afternoon he will have played enough to have lunch and go to bed without whims.
The environment is also very important. . The house must be cool. The optimal temperature for sleeping is about 20 degrees. The room should be ventilated before going to bed. Regularly carry out wet cleaning. Bedding should also be pleasant to the touch. The curtains are thick enough to dim the light. All this will soothe the baby and tune in to a healthy sleep.
To relieve excessive excitability, you can read a book before going to bed. , consider toys, choose those with which the child will sleep. One little girl, before falling asleep, for a long time with her mother lists everyone who also goes to bed (a wolf from a cartoon, a plush fox, dad, grandparents). Such rituals also help the baby calm down and fall asleep.
Do not threaten and blackmail the baby . Also, psychologists do not recommend forcibly forcing a child to lie in bed. Such actions lead to even more nervousness for both the baby and the mother. In some cases, things take a very bad turn and the child develops a fear of the crib and the rituals associated with it.
If you still can’t put the baby down, try to calm down and offer to read, draw or watch a cartoon . You can also turn on quiet pleasant music, this will return a positive mood to mom. And the baby, seeing that the mother has calmed down, will also be able to calm down and play on her own, while the mother does the necessary things or lies down a little.
Do not forget that there are children who, by the age of 2.5, completely refuse daytime sleep. . One mother said: “I’ll put my son to bed, he seems to be breathing calmly, his eyes are closed, I’m going to the kitchen to cook dinner. After 10 minutes, he comes with the words: "I slept already." In this case, both pediatricians and psychologists agree that it is worth replacing daytime sleep with calm games. In the evening, the baby will go to bed earlier. By 9-10 o'clock the child will be asked to sleep by himself. A good long night's sleep compensates for the lack of daytime sleep.

Alarm call. When is it necessary to see a doctor?

Unfortunately, not all sleep problems are solved by a long walk and reading books. - a phenomenon in which activity and excitability exceed the norm. Only a pediatric neurologist can make such a diagnosis for your child.

If you are concerned about the duration and quality of your baby's sleep, you should consult a doctor. Tell how the pregnancy and childbirth went, how the child developed, what diseases he suffered.

After a comprehensive examination, passing the necessary tests, the doctor will prescribe the necessary therapy.

It can be a relaxing massage, exercise therapy, a swimming pool, mild sedatives. But self-medication in this case is unacceptable. You can only do harm.

The child's body is a very complex mechanism. Children's nervous system is mobile, small changes in the environment can cause large changes in behavior. Try to show your baby your positive attitude, create a comfortable environment for him to live. After all, children are a reflection of ourselves, they, like a mirror, show what they see. A dream indicates how well all organs function.

It is important for a baby to feel love and care, then he will grow up healthy and self-confident.

Have you ever encountered a situation where a child refuses to sleep during the day, and laying down for a daytime sleep stretches for a long time, takes a lot of strength, nerves and time? A reader came to us with this request:

Good afternoon! The child is 1 year 10 months old. Generally refuses to sleep during the day or falls asleep after my nerves run out(this is after about an hour of bedtime), I get up and leave. The son begins to scream heart-rendingly, so he never screams. Of course I come back and then he falls asleep almost immediately. But this is not the way out. We now live in the country, all the time in the fresh air, running, playing, there is physical activity. We live by the rules. We follow all the rituals before going to bed. What am I doing wrong? And how to deal with it? Now we have a period of myself. We are on GW. We fall asleep with the breast, but now the breast does not help either. The same situation in the evening, until we re-read all the books and exhaust the nerves of our mother, we will not calm down. Help with advice. Thanks in advance.

Iya Tsoi, practicing psychologist:

The first thing I noticed in your letter was your insistent desire to put the child to sleep during the day. Apparently, this is because you are convinced of the need for daytime sleep for him. But all children, just like adults, are very different. Today, neither in medicine nor in psychology there are any strict standards for the regimen and time required for a child to sleep. There is only approximate, average numbers. So, the famous doctor E. Komarovsky believes that at the age of about 2 years this about 13 hours. And daytime sleep for a child of 2 years is optional at all. True, you are a little smaller, but all children grow at different rates!

I would recommend that you first try to cancel sleep during the day. And put the baby to bed early in the evening. Of course, the mode is very important, and it is good when it has some flexibility. Sleep rituals are great too. By the way, are any of them such as lightly stroking the baby's face with the edge of the fabric(you can take a handkerchief and, holding it overhang, hold it in the direction from the forehead to the chin)? If not, you can also try this method by including it in some calming game. For example, imagine flying birds that “touch you with their wings”, one after another.

You write that now your baby has a period of “I myself!”. Usually such behavior is referred to as a crisis of 3 years, but, of course, this is very conditional, and many of its features can appear in children much earlier. In general, drastic changes in a child’s behavior are a good reason to observe him and answer the question: “what, in fact, does he need now?” and “how are they satisfied?”. After all, human needs are not only about “eat”, “drink”, “sleep”. For example, where he can show this "self", except in the fight with his mother against daytime sleep? Does he have some kind of territory where his own rules work; their duties at home or at least self-care? In general, it would be interesting to know how you communicate with him. It is clear that you cannot write everything in a short question. But I was a little confused by your word "fight". Usually, when parents use military metaphors to talk about upbringing, I expect them to mention their fatigue (this is also in your letter). It's all right, because in any confrontation, the child usually finds himself in a stronger position. Maybe this happens because he defends his right to do what he WANTS, and adults what, according to some experts, SHOULD be done.

Of course, a child is a rather complex being, and many factors influence his behavior. At consultations, I usually find out the whole context of family life: what parents are doing, how satisfied they are with life, what kind of relationship between adults - all this is important. Often problems with his behavior is a way to communicate something to a spouse or grandparents, that is, such an indirect version of communication. In this case, the best way out is to teach adults to express their desires and claims directly (and at the same time correctly), without involving the child.

1. Experiment with the cancellation of daytime sleep. Do not torture yourself and the baby. See what happens for at least a week. If he sleeps normally during the night, then do not put him down during the day and in the future. Perhaps sometimes he will ask to sleep himself. Make several mode options for him so as not to worry when something goes wrong.

2. Do you think you should continue breastfeeding? If so, to whom and why? Is it more beneficial or harmful for mother and child? (I am aware of the WHO recommendations, but again, they are based on some of their own considerations, and your case may be far from them).

3. See what the child is doing. Does he have activities that allow him to show independence and responsibility? Does he realize himself as a creator or only as a consumer?

4. Very useful practice: start a diary with 2 columns. In one column, write how he behaves during the day, especially those actions that are incomprehensible to you, annoying, etc., and in the other column - the need that was behind it. This is a good key to understanding your child.

5. Analyze relationships between adults in your family. If there is tension in the relationship, disagreements, irreconcilable contradictions, they are almost certainly reflected in the child. In this case, you can contact a family psychologist in order to establish normal communication.

Ksenia Ilyanovich, author of the project “Motherhood is a joy”:

I am in favor of Most kids still need daytime naps.. Because it is very difficult for a baby to stay awake for 10 hours, the nervous system needs a break during the day and rest. You can check the need for daytime sleep like this: if the child still falls asleep, how much does he sleep? If it’s 2-3 hours, then you really wanted to sleep, if half an hour or an hour, then you can probably do without daytime sleep. My son is 3.5 years old, he sleeps during the day for 2 hours. In very rare exceptions, when there is no daytime sleep, by the evening the child is no longer recognized, he is very tired and easily irritated.

D A long bed may be a signal that the child has "transitioned", already too excited and now he cannot calm down and fall asleep on his own. It is believed that it is worth putting to sleep until the so-called signs of fatigue: someone rubs their eyes, someone yawns, someone begins to “lean against”. I would try to put in an hour earlier for example. Or, on the contrary, an hour later - if he does not have time to get tired and want to sleep.

Other the important thing is the mood of the mother. The good news is that it depends only on you 🙂 However, it is usually very difficult to calm down on your own, pull yourself together, get rid of the thought “fall asleep soon!” and keep calm. Difficult, but possible if desired. Good luck to you! And patience 🙂

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Daytime sleep is very important for the baby. Rest in the afternoon contributes to normal development. But what if a child at 2 years old does not want to sleep during the day? And how does this affect his well-being? The article will discuss the reasons for refusing sleep and the ability to quickly solve this problem.

Why does a child sleep during the day

Experts say that a good afternoon nap increases efficiency and concentration, improves the emotional and mental state of the crumbs. A well-rested child is balanced, calm, entertains himself on his own and does not require the constant presence of an adult next to him. Pediatricians note the benefits of daytime sleep not only for babies, but also for older children. For the prevention of neurological and behavioral problems in children after a year, daily afternoon rest is important.

Many parents make the mistake of thinking that a child who does not sleep during the day will fall asleep easier in the evening. Most often, a different situation occurs: an overexcited baby cannot fall asleep in the evening, and at night it constantly spins and wakes up. This is indicative of fatigue.

It is important to remember that in infancy, babies sleep as much as they need. And starting from the age of 2, their psyche changes a lot. So why does a 2-year-old child not want to sleep during the day? The fact is that from this age, the crumbs have a feeling of anxiety, fear, excitement, so the quality and quantity of sleep is significantly reduced. If he is constantly in a state of lack of sleep, then his ability to learn decreases, the state of the immune system worsens.

One of the main tasks of parents is to properly organize daytime sleep for the baby. This will help him develop well both intellectually and physically.

How many hours should a baby sleep

There are no strict norms in the matter of sleep, the baby independently determines how long he wants to sleep. For some children, a long rest is considered normal, while for others, a short one.

How many hours does a 2 year old baby sleep? So, according to the research of Dr. Komarovsky, there are such norms for the average daily need of children for sleep:

up to 3 months, the baby should sleep from 16 to 20 hours;
up to 6 months - at least 14.5 hours;
from 1 to 2 years - no more than 13.5 hours a day;
at 2-4 years - at least 13 hours;
at 4-6 years old - about 11.5 hours a day;
at 6-12 years old, the daily norm of sleep does not exceed 9.5 hours;
after 12 years, the child is enough to sleep 8.5 hours a day.

If a baby under 3 years old sleeps less than 12 hours a day, then most often he compensates for insufficient daytime sleep at night. Experts draw the attention of young parents that if the baby has not slept for a long time, but remains calm, inquisitive, cheerful, then there are individual norms for him.

Usually, newborns sleep from one feeding to the next. And the older they get, the less rest. First, the baby begins to wake up after dinner, and sleeps no more than 17 hours a day. Then the child goes to 2-time daytime sleep.

Each age has its own characteristics. The sleep pattern of a child at 2 years old changes, and he sleeps only 1 time, and the duration of such sleep does not exceed 3 hours. Closer to 3-4 years, he can completely abandon daytime sleep. However, some children retain the need for afternoon rest until the age of 6-7 years. And pediatricians advise preschoolers up to this age to rest during the day.

What to do if the child does not want to sleep during the day

Daily routine, food, clothes, walks greatly affect the quality of a baby's sleep. In order for the baby to go to sleep with pleasure, you need to establish the correct sleep pattern at 2 years old, and parents also need to provide:

Proper and balanced nutrition.
Constant walks and games in the fresh air.
Regular wet cleaning in the children's room.
Comfortable, clean and soft bed.

Usually, children who have their own schedule do not have whims about daytime sleep. They are used to going to eat, play, sleep at a certain time. Of course, you do not need to be too careful to observe the daily routine. If the child looks tired before the due date, then it is better to put him to bed and not wait for the right time. However, if he is still playing or watching the last cartoon before going to bed, then you should not interrupt the process and drag him to bed by force. It is better to let him finish what he started and calmly go to rest.

Parents should not put the baby back to sleep if he woke up early. Also, do not wake him up if the time allotted for daytime sleep has already ended. It is better to pay more attention to the condition and well-being of the child than to the clock.

Reasons for not taking naps

Not all two-year-olds have a need for daytime sleep. Therefore, if the child sleeps soundly at night, he has sufficient physical activity and tantrums do not occur, then he does not need an afternoon nap. Instead, at this time you can play calm games, lie down and read an interesting book.

There are times when parents notice that the lack of daytime sleep leads to poor health of the crumbs. Therefore, the answer to the question of what to do if a child at 2 years old does not want to sleep during the day will be a recommendation to study the most common causes and ways to solve them.

Cause	Cause Description	Solution
Wrong daily routine	Scientists have proven that there is a certain time when a child is ready to fall asleep and get high quality sleep. At this time, the body temperature changes, the metabolism slows down and, if necessary, the body falls asleep.	The optimal time for going to bed for a two-year-old child will be between 12:30 and 13:00 in the afternoon. Provided that the baby woke up no later than 7 o'clock in the morning.
Abrupt and frequent change of activity	Children are naturally very curious and active. Therefore, the daytime is filled for them with games, laughter, tears, songs. And if at this time the mother starts to put to bed without completing the process, then, most likely, she will face an unwillingness to go to bed and cry.	It is desirable for parents to form rituals that will help the child tune in to daytime sleep. Do not use a too long procedure before a night's rest. However, some elements can be taken. Knowing the sequence of actions will help the baby emotionally prepare for the afternoon nap and avoid protests.
Wrong situation in the sleeping room	It is very difficult to fall asleep when the room is flooded with sunlight, the laughter of playing children can be heard from the open windows, and I still remember a recent walk. Children, like all adults, find it easier to fall asleep in a dark and well-ventilated room. Parents should not open the windows wide open or turn on the lights, it is better to create a dim atmosphere in the room. This will help the baby's body to produce the hormone melatonin, which is responsible for a good and sound sleep.	To create a sleepy atmosphere in the room, you can use blackout curtains or cassette blinds. If the street is too noisy and the sound penetrates even through closed windows, then you can turn on white noise in the room. The background in the room can be the noise of static between radio stations, the sound of rain or surf. Such sounds are not addictive. But classical music is not suitable for these purposes.
Negative associations with sleep	While the baby is small, parents do everything possible so that he sleeps as long as possible. And rightly so, up to 4 months it is very difficult for a child to go to sleep on his own. But it happens that this situation lasts up to 1-2 years. And the only way to put the baby to sleep is to hold him in your arms or breastfeed.	The solution to this problem will be two methods: sharp and gradual. Few mothers will agree to the “fall asleep when crying” method, although it is considered one of the fastest and most effective. In the second method, mothers will need patience and perseverance. The room should have partial shade and fresh air without unnecessary noise. To begin with, the mother should pump the baby not until she falls asleep completely, but until she is in a deep sleepy state. Then just hold on. After the baby gets used to it, you can rock and put the baby who has not yet fallen asleep in the crib.

Only the most common causes are listed here. Sometimes the baby refuses sleep due to insufficient physical activity. Therefore, you should carefully study the daily routine of the child. This will help determine what should be excluded from it and what should be added.

How to put your baby to sleep without tantrums

Do not spend a lot of effort on laying the child. A few proven ways to put a 2-year-old to sleep during the day:

Parents need to create comfortable and calm conditions in the sleeping room. Nothing should scare the baby.
Before going to bed, you need to read good non-terrible fairy tales, children's poems or sing a lullaby.
Some babies are soothed by a gentle, light pat on the back or head.
The parent can lie down next to the child, citing fatigue, and ask him not to make noise.

The kid, wanting not to wake an adult, will be able to fall asleep next to him. Such methods should work within the first half hour. If laying is delayed, then parents need to urgently change tactics and not insist on their own.

Effect of daytime sleep on nighttime

If a child does not sleep during the day, this does not mean that he will not sleep well at night. The main thing is to follow a few rules:

Parents should not play noisy and active games with the child before a night's rest.
It is better to avoid watching cartoons before going to bed.
A leisurely walk in the evening, swimming, a good fairy tale will help you fall asleep soundly. Fairy tale therapy will help for a good sleep. It will help not only to realize the child of all the events of the past day, but also to fall asleep faster.

And what about kindergarten mode?

Many parents force their child to sleep just because the kindergarten has its own regime. Even if a child at 2 years old does not want to sleep during the day, then you should not scare him with a children's educational institution.

He should know that there is exciting, fun and interesting. And the educator in the first place is his friend, not the warden. Most often, children are easily included in this mode and with pleasure go to bed, eat and play with their peers.

How to captivate a child instead of daytime sleep

Instead of daytime, you can offer quiet and calm games. For example, sculpting and drawing do an excellent job of restoring the nervous system.

Also, the parent can offer the baby to lie down on the bed together and read their favorite fairy tales, poems or stories.

Conclusion

Parents need to be patient and take into account the individual needs of their baby. So, if the baby does not want to sleep during the day and looks all the same cheerful, joyful, then you should not force him to go to bed. For such a child, a night's rest is enough.

Like many behavioral disorders, in children are initially detected on the basis of complaints from parents, and not objective criteria. Many of the behavioral sleep disorders are the result of an interaction between the normal changes in sleep as the child grows (as noted above) and the parent's response to them. For example, one of the most common sleep disorders in infants and young children is a sleep disorder.

In these cases child gets used to falling asleep only under certain circumstances, such as when he is rocked or fed, and he does not develop the ability to fall asleep on his own. At night, during short-term awakenings (which normally occur at the end of the sleep cycle - every 90-120 minutes) or waking up for another reason, the child is not able to fall asleep again unless the usual conditions for this are created.

Baby signals to parents by crying or comes to parents' bedroom (if the child is not already sleeping in a crib) and cannot fall asleep until certain conditions are created. Thus, there is a problem associated with long nighttime awakenings in the child, which lead to insufficient sleep (for both the child and the parents!).

Treatment of the disorder associated with falling asleep, in typical cases, includes a program aimed at eliminating the participation of parents in the process of falling asleep a child, including at night (systematic ignoring). In older children, it is possible to establish new sleep associations that help the child fall asleep on their own in the event of a nocturnal awakening (for example, using items that the child will always have at hand at night, such as a blanket or toy), in addition to positive reinforcement ( a small reward for the fact that the child fell asleep on his own, such as stickers). The goal is to help the child develop the ability to fall asleep on his own when waking up at night, as well as in the evening when going to bed.

« fading away"- this is a slower process of weaning the child from his dependence on the presence of parents during the period of falling asleep, it includes periodic "checks" by parents at gradually lengthening time intervals. If the child is accustomed to waking up for nighttime feedings (“habitual hunger”), then such nighttime feedings should stop gradually. Parents should be consistent in the implementation of the therapeutic program and not involuntarily provoke the child's nocturnal awakenings. Parents should also be warned that at the beginning of treatment, the child may cry more often at night (“flash after fade”).

Against, refusing to lie down disorder sleep apnea is more common in preschool and older children and is characterized by difficulty falling asleep and reluctance to go to bed (“drawn curtains scream”) rather than nocturnal awakenings. Delayed sleep onset results in inadequate sleep duration.

Most often, this disorder develops as a result of the inability (or unwillingness) parents establish fixed rules related to putting the child to bed and insist that the child go to bed at the same time, which is often exacerbated by the child's oppositional behavior. In some cases, however, a child's refusal to go to bed is due to a problem (eg, illnesses such as asthma, certain medications, sleep disorders such as restless legs syndrome or anxiety) or a mismatch between the child's internal circadian rhythm. (night owl) and the requirements of the parents.

The course of therapeutic measures, which, as a rule, allow to achieve good results, usually includes a decrease in parental attention. in relation to the child's behavior(aimed at delaying the time to fall asleep), creating conditions in the child’s bedroom that set them up for sleep, and positive reinforcement (for example, stickers) for the correct behavior of the child before bedtime. For older children, it can be effective to teach relaxation techniques to help them fall asleep easier and faster.