Twelve Essential Life Lessons and Human Relationships. Steve Rother
Every significant event in your life is part of one or another life lesson planned by the soul.
There are events that bring joy, but there are also those that cause a lot of torment and pain.
Is it possible to avoid them and get only positive experiences? Is it necessary to suffer in order to gain wisdom, or are there other ways?
We will try to understand these and other questions today.
Before incarnating on Earth in a human body, the soul chooses what it will learn in the current life. She makes up thousands of scenarios for the development of events.
It's like a computer game. When a programmer writes it, he comes up with a bunch of options for developing the game at every step.
If the hero goes to the left, a certain chain of events will occur, if he chooses something else, the development of the game will take a different branch.
Wherever the hero goes, there is a continuation. All options are calculated in advance.
Life is also a game. Every time we are faced with a choice: to get married or not to get married, to have an abortion or give birth to a child, to stay in our hometown or to go to another country for permanent residence.
There are hundreds of thousands of options. Which path will you take? depends only on you.
The soul does not plan every step, but only major milestones- key events or decisions that unfold a certain scenario for the passage of a life lesson.
There are not many such events in life. You will see this for yourself if you scan your past and present.
Everything is predetermined or key points can be changed
It is immediately difficult to wrap your head around the fact that life lessons planned by the soul and free choice can exist simultaneously.
Whether you learn this lesson is up to you. You always have the choice to go in any direction and stop anywhere.
"On the planet of free choice There is always a predisposition, but there is no predetermination.
It should be noted here that very few events happen by chance, since our Higher Selves always orchestrate life experiences to help us learn our life lessons.
How we react to experience and what we do with it is our own business. That's what it is free choice in action." —Steve Rother, Spiritual Psychology
Let's look at this with an example.
The soul has a plan - to learn the ability to take responsibility for life. Develop the belief that a person is able to find his place in life, provide for himself without the help of parents and loved ones.
The soul has countless options on how to achieve this, starting from the betrayal of a loved one and ending with the death of all relatives.
When a person is left alone, he realizes that he has no one to count on. Then he begins to develop the courage to live on his own.
In this case, a series of misfortunes are key milestones. These are events that seem to be directly independent of a person. But his soul created them.
And even in this situation, a person has a choice - to find strength and climb out of this hole or to give up and complain about life.
Note that the second option is also a free choice.
The importance of contracts in learning life lessons
If a soul needs the help of another person to develop, the souls among themselves conclude contracts.
When it comes time to take the lesson, you are sure to run into the right person. If you choose to turn the other way and don't meet, life will still take you there when you're ready to take the lesson.
Surely it has happened to you that when you met your chosen one, he seemed already familiar to you. It's like you've seen him before.
Sometimes this really happens. You may have encountered it more than once, but were busy with other tasks.
But when the time came, you met and “got to know” each other.
As a rule, souls, in order not to miss this particular person, agree on some identification marks how they recognize each other: smile, voice.
Something you will definitely pay attention to.
That is why, when you first meet someone important to you, it seems to you that you have known him for many years, as if there is something familiar about him: gestures, gait.
This is no coincidence.
If you are not ready to learn, you turn around and leave. This may be a conscious choice or an unconscious behavior. In the latter case, it’s as if something is leading you away.
But if this life lesson is important to you, you will still return to learning it sooner or later. Just the form of training may be different.
From the article you will learn how to make wise decisions and make the right choice.
How to tell if you're taking a lesson
One of the most common signs of experiencing a life lesson is recurring events. They are also called "keys".
Each such event has something in common.
For example, a woman is constantly abandoned by men; when changing jobs, a person often encounters tyrant bosses.
These situations can be united by a key - the same names for men, bosses, acquaintances occur on the same date.
More examples.
Throughout life, a person repeatedly faces the betrayal of friends. The clue may be that all these people look similar to each other or have a similar personality or gestures, even voice.
A person often gets into accidents and breaks limbs. Such situations can be united by the fact that this happens on the same date, or this number is present in the date of such an event (year, month or day).
Or does it happen at the same frequency, for example every 7 months.
If going through a specific lesson is the main task of your current life, There can be several combining keys: and coincidence of dates, and names, and more.
Try to remember what recurring situations happen to you and find the clues. Perhaps this will help you determine what life lesson you need to learn or are already learning.
Why the soul plans misfortunes and how to avoid them
The soul doesn’t care whether it learns what it planned to do in one life or several.
On the subtle plane there is no such calculation of time as on Earth. Everything exists here and now.
First the soul chooses positive experiences. But if for several lives she cannot learn, then she makes a choice in favor of negative experience.
The presence of misfortunes, failures, and suffering in your life indicates that your soul has been trying to figure something out for more than one life.
If you want to stop this vicious circle, learn to listen to the signs of the universe. No negative event happens suddenly. It is always preceded by softer signals.
When you finally see what your lesson is, gifts and opportunities will be revealed to you that will completely change your life.
We will be glad if this information helped you understand yourself and your life a little.
Have you ever asked yourself whether there are certain patterns in your life, one might even say life lessons or tasks that you need to solve in order to again be able to become happy and develop further. Or do you still think that life just happens to us, without any noticeable patterns, karma, divine plan, fate and similar incomprehensible words.If the second answer about the randomness of human life is correct, then why then are some people quite happy and satisfied with life, they are often lucky, and it would seem that insoluble problems never arise on their path in life. Whereas for other people it’s exactly the opposite, it’s as if they are in trouble, literally around every corner.
And even almost incredible misfortunes that happen to ordinary people with a probability of a maximum of one time in a million, while with others these terrible misfortunes happen 7 times out of ten. Why is it that some people in life are accompanied by good luck and unreal luck, while others only face a new streak of failures?.
Losing streak
Indeed, as we already discussed in the previous story, many people consider themselves losers, and cannot understand in any way: “why such bad things happen in their lives.” It seems like over and over again life, with its lessons, tries to hurt them as much as possible, and in all possible sophisticated ways, to disappoint and offend them, to take away something dear from them, or even worse, someone dear.
But that’s not all, because in addition, this whole set of misfortunes and life lessons also manages to be repeated with very enviable frequency. And especially, of course, exactly what is most painful, unpleasant and offensive for us. And so streak of bad luck repeats itself over and over again, as if confirming the hypothesis that life is failure and suffering.
After all, someone has probably been abandoned by their third wife or girlfriend, someone has been abandoned by their fourth friend, or even by a new business partner for the fifth time in a row. And someone has been getting bullied at school for more than a year now because of his shyness, and this is not the first, or even the second school.
In general, this is exactly what is called bad luck, or a streak of failures and bad luck. And it would seem that no matter what you do, the result, plus or minus, remains the same. Even if you try to fall in love this time only with brunettes, and not with blondes, change school, gym, job, line of business, and possibly country, and even continent of residence. All the same, things like this that are unpleasant for you are systematically starting to happen again.
No luck in life
And at the same time, if you think about it and start paying attention to it, then they somehow suspiciously remind each other, directly "Groundhog Day" some kind. Unlucky in life, and unlucky quite often. Sometimes even these similar problems occur periodically every year, every winter or summer, and sometimes the situations are almost no different from each other, down to the same names and similar dates.
It would seem that everything is a complete paragraph, even if the greatest spiritual leaders of all time, Buddha and Jesus, hinted more than once that life consists of suffering, about the law of karma, etc. Then to an ordinary person, in general, there is nothing to think about a happy life and the absence of cruel, constantly disappointing life lessons.
But Buddha and Christ themselves were quite happy and satisfied with life when they said this about life. Yes, notice for yourself The saints never complained about their difficult life lessons, which fell to their share in more than a fair amount.
And if you look at it objectively, then there is a lot of happiness and happy people in the world around. Although sometimes, happy people have less material wealth than unhappy people. Although this does not happen very often, when it happens, it once again shows that in reality happiness is in our heads, and not in your pockets.
After all, sometimes happy people don’t have such a good job, don’t have many friends, and perhaps even have some physical disabilities, and there are even happy disabled people and poor people. They are happy no matter what, they believe that they are lucky in life, even despite all their possible shortcomings.
At the same time, other people who have many times more may also be unhappy. What is the matter, why does this happen, what do these life lessons come from, and what does this most ephemeral happiness depend on.
Why am I unlucky
How do you even know if you are lucky or not? After all Before asking the question: why am I unlucky, you need to make sure that you are unlucky. At a minimum, you need to at least understand whether you are happy or not.But even here everything is not so simple, everything is natural it's just about our attitude towards our life, and to everything that happens in it. After all happiness is not an objective quantity, it is just our attitude to what is happening around us. Roughly speaking, it is an indicator of whether we are satisfied with our life or not.
But how do we know whether we are satisfied with our life or not? Naturally, we need to connect the state of happiness with something more objective. After all, we, as people who love to constantly think and compare, naturally need some kind of material, real indicator of happiness.
Everything is very simple here, there can be only two such indicators of happiness, so you are unlikely to get confused in them. First the worst indicator of happiness is external material objects, and our personal internal state. The second is our theories, attitudes and beliefs., and some would even say our inner core and self-confidence.
Why am I unhappy
And this is where disappointment sets in, it turns out that over 95% of people use only the first erroneous indicator of happiness, which is just the same never leads to happiness. And exactly this is the reason more than 95% of people are unhappy, or happy for a very short time, and the rest of the time naturally asking myself a strange question: why am I unhappy?
But we all love to constantly tie our happiness to external material objects and tie it to other people. But these objects suddenly quickly disappear, and people unexpectedly leave our lives. And then the state of happiness of course goes away with them, well, we can only sit and ponder the question of why I am unhappy, and why I received such cruel life lessons.
But think about how it could be otherwise, how happiness could remain, because we ourselves, of our own free will, tied it, this our personal state of happiness, to impermanent people or things. This means that happiness leaves when they leave too, because happiness is attached to them by your own will and strange irrational logic. But happiness is yours, and it cannot but obey your will, even the most stupid one.
Why do troubles repeat?
But the universe, like a loving mother, gives us its life lessons, at least she always tries to teach us not to use stupid things, n don’t think bad thoughts, and of course don’t tie your happiness to an external source. Constantly giving and then taking away again certain valuable things, and various good people, so outwardly for us troubles are repeated again and again.
Or herself life, with its lessons, is trying to develop in you some quality necessary to fulfill your destiny. She wants you to do the right thing at least once in your life, and not the way you always act..
And we, as always, act as we always do, and stubbornly do not want to develop, and then we ask questions, get offended, and wonder why troubles are repeated, and the same life lessons happen in our lives so often.
AND Naturally, until you learn what the universe wants from you, these unpleasant moments from which you cannot find the right way out will continue to repeat themselves. But when you notice such a life lesson, and If you do everything right, your life will immediately change, and the old trouble will disappear without a trace, and will never bother you again.
Evil lessons of fate
And only after overcoming all these evil lessons of fate, you you will finally easily move to the next, higher level of your self-development. On which, of course, new surprises of a spoiled fate, trials, life lessons and offensive recurring troubles will also await you.
But even this It’s good that troubles repeat themselves, which means sooner or later we will find the right way out of them, A from overcoming obstacles, we in turn receive even more happiness, become wiser, more experienced, more successful, and develop even more. After all, in in life it is important to enjoy not only the result, but the extraordinary process of achieving it.After all, we do not live until we achieve some ephemeral result. We always live only today, which means today we should be happy.
Of course, we must also develop today and every time as the wise and fair lessons of life require. In general, as I always say: “self-development, self-development, and self-development again.”
And if you decide to become, I won’t hide it, far not an easy, but very happy and correct path of self-development and self-improvement, then move on to the next article . In which we will finally begin to consider how we can get out of this seemingly terrible situation of repeated grief, troubles and other life lessons and become winners, which is what I wish for you with pleasure.
When we recognize ourselves as eternal spiritual beings, gaining experience in the human body from life to life, our experience of difficulties and problems changes. But even realizing that we planned this for ourselves before the next incarnation, sometimes we want to figure out: what did our soul really want to learn? How to recognize your lessons and the keys to completing them? How to gain Mastery?
We see ourselves as human beings seeking spiritual awakening, when in fact we spiritual beings trying to cope with human awakening. At the “planning meeting” that precedes each incarnation, each of us decides what life lessons we will work on. We assign roles and make specific contracts for future life experiences.
Through the experience of human life, we work to achieve Mastery in twelve basic life qualities. In every life we choose to work one main lesson and we continue to work on it in subsequent lives until we reach the level of Mastery in this one quality. Then we choose another main lesson for the next incarnation. In the past, we usually worked with one lesson at a time. There are certain cases in which we may work on two or more lessons, but most of the time we are limited to just one.
One important human quality that is not included in the Twelve's list is responsibility. The point is that responsibility is actually result actions, not actual quality. It is the result of achieving (or not achieving) Mastery of life's lessons. In other words, a person either takes responsibility for working on the lesson or does not. The action of responsibility usually manifests itself in the life lessons of Being, Creation, Trust and, most often, Truth.
Basic Life Lesson№ 1
Adoption. Self-esteem, Adoptionyourself andArtGracefulAcceptance. People most often learn this life lesson while incarnating in a female body. Energy blocks in this area can manifest themselves as “self-sabotage”: a person “seems to be doing everything right, but nothing works out.” Such people may well learn to create, but as soon as the energy they emit begins to return, they have problems accepting the reward. Acceptance is an art, the essence of which is that you allow energy to flow through you. Look for areas where energy may be stuck and work to release it. Another important aspect of this tutorial is taking responsibility Responsibility is what balances personal power. The equation here is simple: if you want to create more success in your own life, you must take more personal responsibility for your happiness.
Basic Life Lesson№ 2
Adaptation. Changes. Our natural psychological makeup is capable of enormous changes in a very short period of time. But our physical form often resists change, so we don't cope with it very well. The life lesson of Adaptation teaches us to adapt to change and be comfortable with it. Very few of us can do this because change carry with them unknown. If we don't know what's going to happen, we feel like we have no control. And we equate the inability to control with powerlessness. When faced with change and the natural fear it creates in us, we can remember - and this is what will help us - that it is impossible to reach a higher vibrational level, unchanged. The paradox is that the feeling of comfort that we are looking for is most easily achieved by getting used to the very process of change!
Basic Life Lesson№ 3
Being. Integrity. The illusions of the polarity space in which we reside seek to make us believe that we not complete. People who choose the life lesson of Genesis have special difficulties with this. The Basic Life Lesson of Genesis often implies addiction. Because the main principle of this lesson is that people are looking for beside myself things that should make them whole.(Not only “bad habits” can become addiction, but also relationships, and even the desire for self-improvement). This does not mean that every addictive person learns the basic life lesson of Genesis, but addictive behavior is often brought into existence by this lesson. As a facilitator, I help people with this life lesson by encouraging them to find that sacred place within where they can just be, rather than try become something they are not. The art of “just Being” is unfamiliar to most of us, but by practicing it, we will see real changes - first in the energy sphere, and then in life.
Basic Life Lesson№ 4
Mercy. Harmony. Now the life quality of Mercy is not very popular in our society. This, however, does not mean that it is not important. On the contrary, the lesson of Mercy contains the key to the next level of development on our path to becoming Human Angels. The word “mercy” has become synonymous with the word “charity” in our society. However, although charity may be one of the manifestations of Mercy, true Mercy is not only an art give, share. True Mercy in the meaning of a quality of life is honoring in all our actions the connection that connects us with all people. Depending on where a person focuses these qualities, the lesson can look very different. If they are directed inward, we see people working on the lesson of Mercy being selfish and looking out only for their own interests. Otherwise, if these qualities are externally focused, it will appear as if the person is overzealous in the relationship. These people can be annoying with their constant attempts to get your attention and make you like them. Mastering the quality of Mercy lies in strengthening the connection that already exists between everything that surrounds us.
Basic Life Lesson№ 5
Communication. From the depths of my soul. The lesson of Communication from the depths of the soul is defined within the sphere of relationships. While this can be applied to relationships of all kinds, loving relationships are the main area we are focusing on as we work through this lesson. However, it must be said that learning this lesson has eluded many people, since the goal is not (as many believe) to complete the Self. others, but rather to learn to walk near with others and share life with them so that neither of us leans on the other too much. Being sincere with each other is the essence of a good relationship. Very often, people working on the Communication lesson have difficulty expressing themselves in words since childhood. After solving a problem at an early age, many choose situations in which they have to communicate, to earn a living. If they succeed in mastering this lesson, they usually feel quite comfortable in the communicative sphere. And even in this case, it is often difficult for them to say out loud what has accumulated in their souls, to sincerely voice their feelings and needs. When we master the art of always saying what we feel, quality Communications from the depths of the soul will be the basis of all our relationships.
Basic Life Lesson№ 6
Creation. ManifestationPowershis"I". Being in the space of polarity, we cannot see that we are creators and that only we have the power of creation in our own thoughts. We all have this blind spot to one degree or another. But it is even greater for people who are working to learn the life lesson of Creation, for often they are not only blind to their own creations, but also blind to their very ability to create. Although these people have enormous creative abilities, they often have equally enormous difficulties in translating ideas into practical works. Belief in insufficiency and perfectionism often serve as an excuse for these people not to even try to create something themselves. Somewhere along the way we acquired the belief that have your power as creators means we can't make mistakes. The truth is that we incapable make mistakes for the simple reason that if we are unhappy in the reality we have created, then all we have to do is claim responsibility for our creation and then undo it and start over. The key to learning this lesson is to find the counterbalance to PERSONAL POWER, which is RESPONSIBILITY. Finding an opportunity to take on more personal responsibility will increase a person's sense of personal power, thus helping him or her learn the life lesson of Creation.
Basic Life Lesson№ 7
Definition. Expressing individuality across boundaries. This basic life lesson currently especially popular among women. Most of the people working on it are potential healers with huge reserves emotional empathy. They connect to the emotions, thought patterns and energy of other people so easily and spontaneously that they often don't even realize that the energy they feel is Not their energy. Because of this, they inevitably have difficulty setting proper boundaries for themselves. The key to learning this very popular but difficult life lesson is to learn putting yourself first. Are you shocked by this call? But understand: there is a huge difference between someone who puts himself to the center, and to those who put themselves forward. Yes, both place themselves first in the flow of energy, but that's where the similarities end. The intention of the one who puts himself first is to fill first of all his “I” - so that he has even more what can be given to others. To achieve Mastery in the Definition lesson, you must define your boundaries and become accustomed to putting yourself first in all situations. There is another aspect to this quality. People with this lesson have no concept of where their energy field ends and another's begins. The paradox is that it is this extreme sensitivity that makes these people such powerful healers. If they can learn to identify their energetic boundaries, they will find that they can use that same sensitivity intentionally - to connect to other people's emotional energy fields and promote healing. Those who have learned the life lesson of Definition become very powerful healers. And the most powerful word they can learn to use is the word “no.”
Basic Life Lesson№ 8
Honesty. INharmonywithhis"I". Have you ever watched someone give a speech on TV and felt that although every word he said was correct, you couldn't agree with what he was saying? Have you ever had a clear feeling during a conversation that the other person is saying one thing, but feeling something else? If so, then you have most likely dealt with a person working on the life lesson of Honesty. In each person's field there are four lines of vibration of honesty. These are subtle vibrations that we emit without realizing it. Learning the life lesson of Honesty depends on our ability to harmoniously integrate these four lines.
These are the Four Vibrational Lines of Honesty:
1. What we are we talk.
2. The way we we act.
3. What we are we think.
4. What we believe we believe.
If one or more of these lines is not consistent with the others, the vibration we transmit will be blurry and unclear. When this happens, a blurred result returns in all our creations, which in turn makes it difficult for people to understand or believe us. This is not only confusing, but also makes us doubt ourselves, which, of course, blurs our energy field even more. Aligning our personal vibrational lines is all that is required to enter a state of vibrational Honesty. While in this state, we interact well with others, which not only helps us in our relationships with them, but also facilitates the process of contact and unification with our Higher Self. Mastering conscious movement in complete harmony is the most important step in mastering Honesty.
Basic Life Lesson№ 9
Love. LoveToto yourself. The key to learning the life lesson of Love is to learn to love yourself unconditionally and first of all. Love is the basis of what we call Universal Energy. All energy comes from the foundation of Love. Since we are in the space of polarity, we humans need to experience one polarity to understand the other. The most powerful of all emotions is Love, and the polar opposite of Love is Fear. That's why those who work with main life lesson Lovers often fall into a vicious circle of fear. Fear is at the root of all negative emotions. But just as darkness disappears when light shines on it, so fear can be overcome by the presence of love. Darkness is just the absence of light. Fear is only the absence of love. The very first manifestation of love, the most difficult for those who learn this lesson, is love to yourself. Taking the next step is possible only provided that a person loves another to the same extent as he loves himself. God is inside, not outside. This is why we must learn to love first myself. The manifestations of love that we find in the New Energy will be a direct reflection of this simple truth. Many people say they are looking for love, but what they really mean is that they are looking for someone who will... love them. They would achieve success much faster if, instead of looking for someone to love them, they focused on finding ways give love. Because only through the act giving love we can tune the energy to be love and thus, get love.
Basic Life Lesson№ 10
Confidence. BelieveVmyself. The life lesson of Trust is simple to understand, but very difficult to master. The ultimate goal of the life lesson of Trust is Learn to trust yourself first. People working with the core lesson of Trust often have great difficulty learning to trust themselves and accept and hold their own power. However, once they have learned this lesson, they often go through life guided by their inner self. sense of direction and always look and act as if they know exactly where they are going. In the end these people must learn so much trust themselves so that they no longer need know. If we talk about Trust, then here's an interesting thing: most of us have no difficulty trust God. But almost all of us have a big problem when we need to accept the fact that we and there is God. Trust is an extremely important life lesson; this quality allows us to become part of the whole, placing us in the flow of Universal Energy. When we don't have Trust, we don't have Faith. Once we have learned Trust, we can allow ourselves to be vulnerable. By allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, we turn our weaknesses into strengths. In fact, as we will soon learn from the Crystal Children who are now coming into this world, Our vulnerability is the source of our greatest strength!
Basic Life Lesson№ 11
Truth ("I").Responsibility. The life lessons of Truth and Trust are very close and they are often confused. When a person chooses to master Truth, their energetic makeup will cause them to have trouble discerning and standing up for their truth. When a person finds it difficult to adhere to his own truth, he tends to accept the truth of others. He will always be looking for the newest book, the newest concept, the coolest idea to follow. When a person works with Truth at a higher level of Mastery, he often becomes a teacher or leader who is able to embrace many different shades of truth without being tied to any one. Learning this life lesson also leads to the understanding that truth is based solely on personal perception and that only by changing perception can one see many other truths, and not just one’s own. Mastery of this quality can only be achieved through absolute honesty with oneself. This means taking full responsibility for your thoughts and actions. I'm not saying that actions and thoughts have to be perfect - they just have to be their own. When you begin to take responsibility for your reality, your mastery of Truth will begin. People who are just beginning to learn this lesson tend to see themselves through other people's eyes. They are good at seeing others' points of view, but when it comes down to it their vision - a “blind spot” is revealed. These are people who always judge themselves by what they do. They think others think about them. Truth is a very complex quality. Even if it takes several lifetimes, learning this lesson advances all of humanity as a whole!
Basic Life Lesson№ 12
Grace. GoBylifeVharmonywitheveryoneexisting. Grace is the last step on the path to Mastery. By learning this lesson, one learns that it is not the final destination that really matters. The main thing is the path itself and the grace with which we walk this path. To understand the importance of this lesson, you can ask yourself: How often do I wake up in the morning and say, “I love my life and want to know what today will bring?” Do you find yourself missing Home? Do you feel that one day you woke up in this uncomfortable body in which you live here, and now you spend most of your energy looking for a way back Home? If the answer to these questions is “yes,” then you have not yet learned the life lesson of Grace. Grace is connecting to what the Group calls Universal Energy - the energy that connects all things. Grace's life lesson strengthens our connection to the energy that flows between all things. Those working with Grace's core lesson always want to see the biggest picture. They are eager to find out how everything in the world is interconnected. They are not at all interested in the secrets of earthly life: give them the secrets of the Universe! They communicate with other people without any problems, but they also see those parts of each of us that are in other dimensions, and internally recognize the truth in everything they hear, see or experience. When in Spiritual Psychology seminars we begin to identify the life lessons of those present, everyone immediately decides that his lesson - Grace. But please remember what I already told you: you will see yourself in every lesson in life, but it is very difficult to independently determine which lesson is your main one, because it is for this lesson You have a built-in and configured blind spot. Everyone sees some part of themselves in Grace, but still, cases when a person works on this lesson as the main one are extremely rare.
To understand the bigger picture of our experience spiritual beings in human form It's good to remember that we're not here to learn lessons. as such. This is not an end in itself. In fact, one might even say that the Twelve Essential Life Lessons are just a distraction. We need something to occupy us while we master the larger quality that surrounds us on all sides. Even simpler: in fact, what we come here for is the Art of Craftsmanship itself. “Mastery”, to give a precise definition, is the ability to find positive applications for all energies in all situations. Having achieved this, we will finally remember our true power as Creators.
Excerpts from the book “Spiritual Psychology: Twelve Essential Life Lessons” by Steve Rother / Transl. from English - M.: LLC Publishing House “Sofia”, 2006.”
Of all kinds of human experience relationship can be the most challenging and stimulating experience. Holding someone so close that you can see every detail of your own reflection in them is both extremely important and extremely difficult. In this chapter I will not attempt to deal with relationships in general, since that is the topic of a future book. We will simply look at how the Twelve Essential Life Lessons influence the establishment and development of our relationships.
As already mentioned, the general external manifestation of a person is directly related to the level of the process he is in his lesson. For example, people working with the Trust lesson appear shy and withdrawn in the early stages. However, as they gain Mastery, they begin to carry themselves much more confidently. The same rule applies to relationships.
If two people work on their lessons at the same time, they will grow together. But if they work on lessons at different speeds, they will likely begin to drift apart from each other. Yet the chasms that often divide people in such difficult times can be bridged if people can communicate openly with each other.
Some life lessons tend to complement each other.
For example, I have seen a combination of Definition and Communication lessons within couples many times. The real challenge for a relationship occurs when one partner begins to develop intensely and the other does not move forward, or, worse, protests against the growth of your partner. And although all other aspects of such a relationship may be completely healthy, the difference in development will place these people on completely different vibration levels.
This will almost certainly cause enormous tension and very often lead to a complete breakdown of the relationship. Even where partners' commitment to their relationship is strong enough to keep the union from falling apart, external forces will do everything to pull these people in different directions if they remain at different vibrational levels for a long time. This, in particular, is the goal.
The truth is that not all relationships are meant to be long-term from the start.
This applies to both “successful” and “difficult” relationships. I have seen many relationships end, but neither party was willing to walk away from what was so familiar and face the unknown. Take, for example, the case of Vera.
At the first session, Vera told me that she had been married for forty-one years. “Congratulations,” I said. "No. “Don’t congratulate me,” she replied. “Forty-one years is twenty years too long.”
From Vera's story it became clear that the sexual relationship between her and her husband ceased about twenty years ago. Emotional intimacy had disappeared even earlier, around the time Vera gave birth to her youngest daughter, now thirty. Vera's children had already advised her to end the relationship when she decided to consult with me.
Vera worked on the core lesson of Trust and the additional lesson of Determination. This means that the hardest thing for her to do was put herself first, and the hardest word to say was “no.” Vera knew what she wanted. But she considered it unthinkable to take the first step and oppose herself to her husband.
Eight months and two sessions later, Vera finally left her home and her husband. At first she was terrified. But the support of those around her filled her with joy. Three weeks later, her husband even called her to congratulate her on being able to “speak her truth.”
A month after this, another interesting and significant event occurred.
One day, when Vera’s husband was at the office, she returned to their former common home to pick up her things. Suddenly her husband returned home and she came face to face with him. After several minutes of talking about nothing, Vera mustered all her courage, took a deep breath and, as politely as possible, told him that she was finally learning to stand on her own two feet and put herself first.
For the first time in her life, Vera truly “spoke her truth,” and the words came from her heart. She no longer cared about what others might think. This was her life, and she was going to live it for herself as best and as fruitfully as possible. It's interesting that when Verafound and strengthened in her new sense of self, she suddenly became very attractive to her ex-husband, and they made love that day!
This was unlike any intimacy they had had in the past; for the first time in a long time, their souls connected completely freely. But Vera still never returned to her husband. As far as she was concerned, their contract was completed and now they had to move on. Even today, when she is asked about her ex-husband, she only smiles mysteriously.
Twelve Essential Life Lessons
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3. (integrity).
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5. (from the depths of the soul).
6. (manifestation of Power).
7. (centering your energy).
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11. (“I”).
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As you read this list, you may have felt affected by one or more of the qualities listed. Most likely, these are the areas that you yourself are working on in this life. Until recently, we worked on one life lesson at a time, and sometimes worked up to a hundred lives in a row without achieving Mastery.
Thanks to the acceleration of our development in recent times, it has become possible to master the main lesson immediately, in one life. In fact, now it is even becoming the norm: a person works on one or two lessons for just one lifetime. Regarding the two lessons, it is necessary to clarify: this is similar to how students choose one subject as a “major”, as the focus of their scientific work and future career, and another subject as a “second specialty”.
In the case of life lessons, many of us choose to focus most of our energies on learning one lesson and less energy on working on a secondary lesson.
However, in most cases the learning of the secondary lesson is not completed in one life.
As you read further, you may feel that some qualities are “painfully familiar” to you. These are the life lessons that you have already learned in this or previous lives. It rarely happens that a person feels like he has completed all twelve lessons.
Moreover, since we have absolutely free choice in everything, a situation is possible when we regress regarding some already developed qualities, in which case we will need to go through this lesson again. However, since this will secondary lesson, this quality will be learned much faster than the first time.
At this point I must warn you that you will almost certainly see yourself in several - perhaps even all - Essential Life Lessons. It is important to consider that when we work on these lessons, by their very nature they are experienced as something so personal that it is almost impossible for us to be objective about the experience.
Our own current lesson prevents us from seeing the so-called "blind spot", built into our energetic design. Therefore, to recognize your life lesson, it is helpful to seek help from an objective observer or facilitator. Once you have identified your lesson, you will easily see how all the major events in your life lead to this one (or sometimes two) blind spots.
What follows is a description of Twelve Essential Life Lessons, each accompanied by one or two examples based on real stories from my clients. This will help you appreciate how these lessons can be played out differently. For reasons of professional ethics, I have changed all client names.
If you feel like any of these qualities keep popping up in your life as Problems, know that it is quite possible that this is the lesson you are learning now.
To master any of these twelve qualities of life, you need to discover their highest meaning.
When reading the description of each lesson, first of all try to determine whether it feels for you How . If this is a stamp, then the key to it is healing And letting go you will find in the life experience that gave rise to it. If this is a matrix, then you cannot use this quality heal; they can only master.
In selecting examples, I tried to alternate between men and women to illustrate the polarity. We have all played the roles of both men and women in our various lives. The gender we choose for each incarnation is dictated by a number of factors, not the least of which is the quality of life in which we wish to achieve Mastery. There are women who have more masculine energy than most men, and vice versa.
In the future we will see a mixture of these energies: the closer we get to unity consciousness, the smaller the gap between the sexes.
To understand the bigger picture of our experience spiritual beings in human form It's good to remember that we're not here to learn lessons. as such. This is not an end in itself. In fact, one might even say that the Twelve Essential Life Lessons are just a distraction. We need something to occupy us while we master the larger quality that surrounds us on all sides.
Even simpler: in fact, what we come here for is the Art of Craftsmanship itself. “Mastery”, to give a precise definition, is ability to find positive applications for all energies in all situations. Having achieved this, we will finally remember our true power as Creators.
We are going through an evolution on a scale never before seen. I am deeply convinced that when we look back at the present time in two hundred years, we will clearly see that humanity has gone through an exceptionally rapid evolutionary leap. We are now in the middle of this leap. These are indeed exciting times, and they will become even more exciting as we move forward.
It's easy to see that although this information and these lessons have been here since the very beginning of this amazing game we play, they were so obscure and strange that it would have been useless to manifest this information earlier. If a soul spent an average of 60 lifetimes learning one life lesson, it would be pointless to apply that knowledge on a daily basis. We were so caught up in our need for survival that they showed no interest in life lessons.
What's next?
Since our evolutionary process is now moving at such a high speed, it is only natural that we would like to look ahead." Where are we going? What will happen to these Twelve Essential Life Lessons in the future?
I believe that the Twelve Essential Life Lessons will remain largely unchanged. They have served us very well from cave times to this day. Where I see changes is in our attitude towards .
Obviously, as we extend our longevity, the age parameters for each stage will change. More importantly, I think another change is starting to happen. In “spiritual circles” it is called the Ascension. From the Group's point of view, Ascension does not mean that we leave our physical body to move to a higher plane of existence.
Rather, Ascension requires us to begin the life process all over again while remaining in physical form. I see that we will move in the direction of living all seven stages of life within one incarnation.
I won't talk about it any more in this book. However, I will tell you what it might look like. Imagine taking each of your life experiences, one by one, and deciding which ones you want to keep and take with you into your next life, and which ones you want to “let go.” Until now we have always done this in the seventh stage of life, which comes after death.
Imagine what it will be like when it becomes possible to plan the next incarnation, prepare all the necessary contracts and at the same time not leave your current life.
Wouldn't this be the most delightful evolutionary turn?
This is not nonsense and not empty fiction. This is what I fervently believe in as the next step for humanity. I'm even willing to bet that we'll see the first signs of it in my current lifetime.
Moreover, I also believe that the children now coming into this world with qualities at a higher level than previous generations are the ones who activate our full potential. They will achieve what I just talked about. There can be no mistake: the Indigo Children and Crystal Children who are now entering our world will give humanity such a push forward, about which we can now only make vague assumptions.
Yes, this truly is the most exciting time to be on Earth!
In this book, I have presented a wealth of information to help you see life from a different perspective. I approached the human experience from a spiritual point of view because this knowledge was thus given to me by the Group.
Please remember that the point of all this work is gaining strength. Therefore, I really hope that you will not accept everything presented here as the only truth. I ask you to pass everything through your internal “filters” and take only what resonates in your heart. This is the essence and basis of all information that comes from the Group.
Even if you take only one piece of information that will help you and your mentees dance in your passion and play in your joy, my purpose in writing this book will be fulfilled. And please always remember (and again remember) that life is a beautiful game and its purpose is to give us a chance to experience passion and joy!
Twelve Essential Life Lessons and Human Relationships. Excerpt from the book - Steve Rother Spiritual Psychology: Twelve Essential Life Lessons / Transl. from English - M.: LLC Publishing House "Sofia", 2006. - 256 p.
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