Human life priorities. How to learn to prioritize your life
Did you know that 99 of the 100 richest Russians according to Forbes magazine have children?? I will tell you more about this below.
Are you satisfied with your job, family relationships, health, internal state? There are various problems in the life of every person, but many difficulties can be avoided if you act in accordance with the correct values of life.
Now I will talk about 8 life values and how their satisfaction affects the level of happiness.
8 Life Values
1. Spiritual development. This is your moral state and actions, understanding of life values.
2. Family, loved ones. Your relationship with your soulmate, relatives, friends.
3. Health, sports. Your well-being. Regularity in general examinations can also be attributed to this section, since many diseases can be asymptomatic until the very last stage.
4. Financial situation. Satisfaction with financial position.
5. Career. Career and finances are separated because for many, self-realization in a career is more important than income, for some it is the other way around.
6. Rest, emotions.
7. Self-development.
8. Environment. People you interact with frequently, at work and in other public places.
If you want, you can supplement with your other life values.
Priorities in life values
The maximum efficiency and level of experienced happiness is achieved under 2 conditions:
Your values in life are correct;
You are as close as possible to the uniform satisfaction of all life values.
Now let's analyze these 2 conditions a little and start with the first: Correct life values. Each life value has its own priority.
The main life value is spiritual development, i.e. your moral state. The importance lies in the fact that negative actions have a bad effect on all areas of life: health, recreation, finances, etc. The reason is that bad deeds create conflict with yourself, or rather, with your conscience. Think back to how you felt after the fight. Irritability, headache, stress, etc. are the result of any negative emotions.
All bad deeds are in conflict with your conscience, as a result, stress hormones are produced., which lower immunity, worsen your mood, etc. If, from a moral point of view, you do good deeds, then happiness hormones are produced that strengthen the body's strength and improve mood, which, in turn, affects all other areas of life.
Let's designate the main vital value from above.
The second most important value is family. Problems in the family, as well as in the value of "spiritual development" strongly affect all areas of life, the principle is about the same.
3rd most important value: health, which also affects everything else. Priorities for other values may vary depending on your personality type.
Supporting facts from forbes about success
Many may have doubts about the above priorities, so I will give the facts. Everyone knows Forbes magazine, which annually publishes lists of the richest people in the world. In one of the magazines, I found the following interesting fact: In the list of the 100 richest Russians according to forbes, I counted only 9 divorced men, 1 unmarried, the rest are all married. But the most interesting thing is that 99 out of 100 have children, even those who are divorced, adopted or their own. At the same time, the average data for all married men in Russia is much lower, you yourself understand this.
It turns out that the most successful men are married and who have children. This is a fact of statistics.
How do you like this arrangement? It seems to be the opposite, according to the logic of a modern person, the more you work to achieve success, the less time you have for everything else. Why is it so difficult for single men and women to succeed? Why do they have to work harder and achieve less?
So, according to the statistics in marriage, you are more likely to realize your desires. But let's try to understand why this happens, because a family and children require time, care, and effort!
We are so arranged that when good deeds are released into the blood hormones of joy (dopamine, serotonin, etc.). Remember how you felt when you provided invaluable help to another person. You can look at the faces of people who work in charitable foundations, even from photographs it immediately becomes clear that they feel much happier than others.
Taking care of others, in particular, family, children, greatly reduces susceptibility to stress, because our brain cannot think about several situations at once, it works sequentially. What does this mean? And then, when we want to help someone, positive thoughts of help do not allow negative emotions to develop. If there were no thoughts about how to help your neighbor, then experiences and negative emotions would fill the void.
This is why after a divorce, so often people start drinking and fall into other harmful ailments, they just become more susceptible to negativity. And family people, on the contrary, are less proud, offended, sick, this happens because when a person takes care of someone, his morale improves.
That's why the family can help not only get the release of happy hormones: endorphins, but also reduce the production of stress hormones, replacing negative thoughts with positive ones.
Success and morale
The foundation of success is your morale. Everyone understands that people avoid cooperation with proud, arrogant, evil people and, on the contrary, are drawn to interaction with calm, polite, kind people. Therefore, the most important value is spiritual development, which improves your morale and reduces negative actions. As a result, there is less conflict with conscience and less negative thoughts that negatively affect through the release of stress hormones.
I will share my experience, I go to an Orthodox church, regularly go to confession and receive communion. It helps to improve morale, remove negative thoughts and feel happier.
The family gives a person the opportunity for faster spiritual development, because caring for one's neighbor makes a person better, his moral condition improves, and his actions become correct. Therefore, family and relationships with loved ones are the 2nd most important life value.
Priorities allow you to make a more accurate analysis and help you better understand what needs to be done to change your life for the better. For example, satisfaction with financial position should not be higher than satisfaction with spiritual development. Or satisfaction with a career should not be higher than satisfaction with family relationships. That is, on the wheel of life, you need not only to tighten up your sagging needs, but also to ensure that lower priority life values do not rise above higher priority ones.
Often people work where they do not like. And every day unloved work brings more and more disappointments and spoiled mood. Often the reason is not a bad job or even a bad employee, but that they do not fit together. If you approach the choice of work and lifestyle in accordance with your life values, then you will be more successful in any area.
How to evaluate life values
The criterion for success in life is the level of happiness experienced. Perhaps everyone wants to be happy. The more you satisfy your life values, the happier you will feel.. But in order to understand where to start, you need to know at what stage of satisfaction your current life values are.
Now is the time to evaluate your life values. First, take a piece of paper and draw a circle, then divide it into 8 parts by drawing 4 lines through the center. Put zero in the center of the circle - this is your starting point. Divide each of the 8 axes into 10 parts, grading with risks. There will be zero in the center of the circle, and 10 along the edges at the intersection of the lines with the circle.
Label each intersection of the line with the circle described above with 8 life values.
Ask yourself: Are you satisfied with how you have worked to improve your health, relationships with your family, etc. For each item, rate your degree of satisfaction on a 10-point scale and mark on each axis.
It is important to add that the question should not be asked related to satisfaction in general, but to how you have worked on each area. What matters is not the end goal, but your desire and movement towards it.
I'll explain why: Life constantly limits us in some way and there are situations when the desired cannot be achieved, but you can achieve satisfaction from the work invested. For example, a person does not have a leg, of course, everyone would like to have full-fledged limbs, but so far this is not possible, so if such a person always indicates a low result on the health axis, this will demotivate him, because he wants, but cannot .
And if you put your movement towards a goal on the wheel of life, for example, a person without a leg trains every day to feel as natural as possible on an artificial leg and indicates high numbers on the health axis, then this will motivate him to further training. Therefore, 10 points on each axis is the value of the maximum result that you can achieve, and not someone else in this life situation.
As a result, you should get a figure similar to a circle. If this did not work out, then look at all the sagging areas of life. First of all, it is necessary to satisfy the most lagging vital values, because. it is always easier to saturate the base level than the higher one, i.e. to get a uniform circle. In addition, balance in life is extremely important for a person. Only a balanced life will bring happiness.
Now you know how much your life values coincide with the real state of affairs and what needs to be changed in the first place.
You need to determine life values regularly, draw a circle of life at least once a month, preferably once a week.
The figure to strive for is a circle. When you determine your life values and the degree to which they are realized, it will be much easier to prioritize things, your life will become more balanced, you will feel happier.
P.S. If you have any difficulties or questions on the article you read, as well as on the topics: Psychology (bad habits, experiences, etc.), sales, business, time management, etc., ask me, I will try to help. Skype consultation is also possible.
P.P.S. You can also take an online training "How to get 1 hour extra time". Write comments, your additions;)
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Ask yourself, what do you really want in life? You can even write down your desires on a piece of paper, then analyze them. Desires may be different, but they have one thing in common - having achieved your goals, you will feel truly happy.
It is happiness that is the main goal of any person - even if he himself does not realize this. Therefore, the prioritization in life must necessarily take this moment into account. If what you are doing now is not bringing you closer to happiness, something needs to change in your life.
The mentioned point is very important. The road to happiness is hard and there is not much time. Therefore, every step should lead to your goal. Everything that takes you away from the chosen path, moves you away from the goal, must be discarded. Or at least relegated to the background.
Other people's interests
For many people, the most important priorities in their lives are the happiness, health and well-being of loved ones. At a minimum, many will say that they have everything the way it is. However, this is a mistake. Yes, people should take care of their parents, brothers and sisters, children. They must be ready, if necessary, to give their lives for them. At the same time, you need to understand that even the people closest to you cannot, have no right to deprive you of your dream - whatever it may be.
A person can live for others - if this is his way, his choice. If it makes him happy. But if, because of a sense of duty, responsibility, a person deprives himself of his dream, this is already wrong. People come into this world to be happy. To deprive yourself of happiness means to live life in vain.
That is why do not let anyone, including people close to you, manipulate you. You have your goals, your path. Help loved ones, take care of them. But don't let them deprive you of your dreams.
Prioritization
Some people have a list of priorities with many items. This is wrong - you can not embrace the immensity. If you've made such a list, cross off all but the top three items. Which items to leave is up to you. But there shouldn't be more than three. It is on these three priority goals that you focus all your attention.
Why only three points and not more? Because these are the realities - a person cannot effectively work on more than three tasks at the same time. If there are more of them, work efficiency drops sharply, as a result, it is not possible to achieve a good result anywhere. So something has to be sacrificed. Learn to discard the superfluous for the sake of the main thing.
Change of priorities
It is important to note that priorities may change over time. This is normal - a person grows up, his values \u200b\u200bare changing. At the same time, a change of priorities, if it occurs, must be of an evolutionary nature and correspond to the spiritual growth of a person. And it is very bad when a person just rushes through life, not knowing what he really wants. In this case, you need to go back to the very beginning and ask yourself: what do I need to be happy?
Never forget happiness. You can acquire a huge fortune, and at the same time be a deeply unhappy person. Money provides opportunities, but cannot replace happiness. Therefore, consider them as a tool, nothing more. Do not chase prestige, career, fashion - look for your own path. The one on which you will feel inspired, full of strength and energy. If you are happy to meet every new day, if you clearly see the goal and go towards it, no matter what, then you have set your priorities correctly and are on the right track.
The concept of "priority" is used in various spheres of life. Quite often it is used by employers in the call: "Set priorities!" This means that the activities of a specialist in a particular professional field should be permeated with a single idea and serve a specific goal.
The meaning of the word "priority"
The word "priority" has Latin roots and means "senior" in translation. Its presence in life allows a person to separate the main from the secondary, to choose the right direction in a career, to correctly approach the definition of the main values in the personal sphere.
If you look around, you can see that the philosophical meaning of the concept of "priority" is constantly present in everyday life. After all, every event, regardless of scale and importance, occurs due to the preferences of the relevant persons, that is, those people whose decision-making determines the direction of movement of a particular process.
The main priorities are also in the state policy of each country (the directions of economic development, agriculture, education, etc. are determined). In relations concerning the mutual activity of people, it is also impossible to do without preferences. It is they who become the reasons for the formation of sympathy and antipathy, cooperation and rivalry, friendship and hatred. Without the presence of priorities, it becomes impossible to draw up business plans that determine the direction of development of entrepreneurial activity.
The ability to prioritize is one of the most important characteristics both for a separately developing personality and for public policy.
Life priorities
If we apply this word to a single person, then priority is a set of interconnected life statements, reflection on which and following which takes a lot of time. Moreover, the individual, on his own initiative, prefers a specific type of activity or train of thought, since for him this is valuable and determines his entire life path as a whole.
The priority may be family well-being, material security, a certain type of hobby, moving up the career ladder. Preferences of this kind determine the character of a person, his way of life and behavior.
State Legal Policy Priorities
In legal policy, a priority is a set of priority tasks, the solution of which must be carried out without delay and in the very near future.
One of the most important properties of legal policy is its authoritative-imperative nature, due to the fact that it is based on law and all processes are subordinated to activities for its implementation.
Due to the frequent violations of the fundamental rights of the individual, today the main state priority is the creation and preservation of optimal conditions that allow every citizen to receive all elementary rights (to life, health, security, etc.) with a guarantee.
The most important priorities include the development and implementation of measures to restore order in the structures of power.
The task of strict observance of the rule of law can be called unconditional. It must be carried out at the level of all bodies, institutions, officials and citizens.
An important priority is the development of activities to overcome the phenomena of legal nihilism and idealism. They equally serve as a serious obstacle in the formation of a legal culture in the state.
Why do we need priorities in life? Imagine that priorities are your landmarks, buoys in the ocean of life. Relying on them, you stay on course and do not “move” in directions you do not need. If there are no buoys, you may not notice how you swam into dangerously deep waters or ran aground. In practice, the question of prioritization arises when a person is interested in. Each of us periodically spends time on activities that are not essential or not included in his plans, taking it away from really important things. By setting priorities, you can organize your life, effectively manage not only your time, but also your efforts. Knowing what is worth investing in and what is not, you will optimize your activities, which will speed up and allow less distraction on the way to them.
Human life consists of several important areas, they may vary, but, in general, are the same for most of us:
Family. Includes relatives, children and personal relationships.
Job. This is the direct performance of duties, communication with colleagues, part-time jobs.
Studies. Education, trainings and seminars, advanced training.
Society. with friends, associates, neighbors and acquaintances.
If you find it difficult to determine which areas are high priority for you and which are low priority, use the prioritization method using the diary. It consists in the following: at the end of each day, it is necessary to write down the main event of the day in a notebook or notebook. Just remember everything that happened during the day, you do not need to assign negative or positive ratings to events, just select the most significant of them and write it down. Next, put the sphere of life to which it belongs. Keeping a journal for a month, choose the main event of the week, and then the whole month. The areas of life in which the largest number of major events took place (2-3) are priorities for you.
In order to identify weaknesses in how you manage your time, we also advise you to choose the most meaningless activity of the day, week and month. A pointless activity is one that fits the definition of "waste of time." So, in just a month, you will receive priority areas and sub-areas of life to which you need to devote the maximum amount of time and effort, and less significant areas from which time can and should be “taken away”. How to do it?
Learn to procrastinate things
It's a strange start for a material about how to spend time and effort wisely, but believe me, this approach, if applied correctly, brings noticeable results. It's about postponing less important things in order to attend to more significant ones, and not about messing around. For example, you spend a lot of time chatting with friends and acquaintances on social networks, email and instant messaging services. If this correspondence is not related to work, it simply eats up your time without bringing any significant benefit. How can you get that time back and use it to your advantage?
- Do not go to Skype and ICQ, unless, of course, you are teaching. :-) If you are offline all the time, no one will be able to write to you, and you will not be tempted to greet the next pen pal.
- Make it a rule to respond not to all messages, but to every fifth message that came from one person (if you cannot not answer at all). So you will not lose contact with people and let them know that you do not have time for chatter.
If you have activities that do not bring any pleasure and benefit, but have become a kind of duty, such as weekly visits to relatives or attending “subbotniks” in the yard. Just stop doing it. Putting those responsibilities in a drawer they can't get out of, and you'll free up a lot of time and energy for the things that really matter. We do not advise you to “score” on the family, but elderly relatives who have nothing going on in life can be visited even once every three weeks, this will not significantly change anything.
And the last thing: if you are caught and are ready to work day and night on some project, giving it all your time and energy, but daily routine duties are trying to distract you - do not give in. Partying with friends or cleaning windows isn't going anywhere next week, and inspiration is valuable and doesn't come on schedule.
