Overcoming difficulties in life: one good piece of advice. The myth of overcoming difficulties
Marina NikitinaIt is difficult to find a person who does not know what the difficulties of life are. But there are millions of people in the world who do not know how to overcome these difficulties. They lie to themselves, denying the existence of difficulties, give up, stopping all attempts to solve problems or understand them. What does this lead to? Nothing positive. A person falls into a prolonged depression or gets nervous, mental illness.
If you are a strong-willed person, accustomed to face the truth, then this information will not be useful to you. If you do not have the courage to solve problems, work on yourself from today, because you have already taken a small step in this direction - you have decided to learn how to overcome difficulties.
Problem Diagnosis
To fight the enemy you need to know him by sight. Therefore, we first determine the presence of difficulties and see which category they belong to. Life difficulties:
Serious problems from the outside (loss of the most expensive property, a house burned down, a large amount of money was stolen, the death of a loved one, an incurable disease).
Difficulties of medium difficulty (kicked out of work, wife, you got sick, no means of subsistence).
Difficulties in self-identification, psychological problems (feelings of inferiority or worthlessness, depression, panic).
Domestic difficulties (tired of cleaning, cooking, quarreling with her husband because of his carelessness, plumbing is out of order, not enough money, the phone crashed, difficulties in family life).
The problems described in the first two paragraphs are not necessarily the most difficult. The third type of problems - psychological - can be of any complexity. It is difficult to analyze the subtle world called “psyche”, therefore, in order to deal with this kind of problems, one must try. Everyday difficulties from the last category are only at first glance inferior in complexity to the previous ones, they drag you into a pool of sadness, fear, sluggish destructive hatred for yourself and the rest of the world. Therefore, any of the problems is serious, especially for the one who has it.
Making a willful decision to fight
Giving a clear name is a must, because vague complaints like “I feel bad, my soul hurts, it’s hard, but I don’t know why” and it’s impossible to “cure”.
After realizing the problem, you already have a formulation. It is not always easy to take even this step, but you should not think about it, do it in order, so to speak, in small steps. Thus, you will go through the whole long, albeit difficult, path. Don't forget: "Great things start small."
After looking into the eyes of your difficulty, the problem will already decrease in size. Now it will not pulsate in your exhausted brain every day or seem like a black bottomless abyss. No, after the bold step of identifying the problem, you have already seen your enemy and know his size. It turns out that this is not a bottomless abyss, although it is very deep in some particularly serious cases.
How often does it happen that a person knows a problem that has been bugging him for a long time, but does not want to fight, he is disappointed in life, does not believe in himself and walks like a psychological corpse - Homo Sapiens lives, eats, breathes, but interest in anything has disappeared , life is disgusting only by the fact of its existence. What is there to advise?
Strange as it may sound, but if it seems to you that the end of the person you previously saw in the mirror has come, it’s good because there is nothing to lose in such a situation. It remains only to decide to fight, to solve problems.
You ask, what to do if it is completely incomprehensible in which direction to move? Do you need to do something, even if you are not sure of the correct path? Of course yes. Here is an example. Imagine that you have a small wooden box in front of you. It is filled with balls of the same size, but of different colors: first, a handful of black balls are poured, and the same number of white ones are on top. The box is closed.
Now we draw parallels: one of the black balls is you. The ball lies at the bottom of the box, there are black balls around, there is also a large layer of balls on top and the situation seems completely hopeless, since there is no way to get up and there are no known ways to solve the problem.
Now imagine that you take the box in your hands and start shaking it. Yes, at first glance you are doing actions at random. You do not know what is happening inside, you know one thing - when you shake the box, at least something happens inside. And now let's reveal the cards: in the process of such shaking, the balls in the box begin to mix. It happens randomly, but everyone has heard the theory of probability.
So, according to this theory, the balls in the box will eventually return to their original position with almost zero probability. So to do at least something is, with decadent moods. And there, you see, during the shaking you will understand in which direction you need to tilt the box and your ball will be pushed up by other balls.
Difficulties in a person's life
Imagine life without hardship. It seemed like it could be better. You will be surprised, but it is the presence of difficulties that shows us how good life can be, gives us food for thought, makes us, like the balls from the example above, move. If the difficulties in a person's life disappear, then there will be nothing to compare other events with, no one will even imagine what difficulties are, nor what joyful events are. They will not be, because everything will be painfully the same.
To maintain vitality, to maintain self-control, you must always remember what was written on the ring of King Solomon. It said, "This too shall pass." When he had, he looked at this inscription and calmed down, because there was an installation that everything would pass. But he was in no hurry to rejoice, so as not to be upset later, because even in this case he looked at the inscription and was convinced that this too would pass, that everything in the world was passing and passing.
Ways to overcome the difficulties of life
Overcoming the difficulties of life is organized in many different ways. The first way: repeat the example of King Solomon. You can really engrave the ring in a jewelry store and always wear it on your finger. Another way to look at this wise expression is to make a beautiful sign that will hang in a conspicuous place in your home.
Let in your head not a picture of a sad development of events for you, but this useful phrase. In the meantime, you will begin to take any action, at least to divert attention, then you will understand what to do to directly solve the problem.
Don't be afraid to think about your enemy - about the problem that poisons your existence. It is better to muster up the courage and analyze whether the grief is as great as his tortured brain represents. Analyze it. Ask yourself: “Yes, I have a problem. And what follows from this? What are the consequences of an unresolved problem?” You need to represent honestly: choose not only negative consequences, but also a positive outcome of events. After all, you must clearly understand that there are always several options for the outcome, and excluding the positive ones, you do not leave yourself a chance to change something.
Remember that you need to be sure to break the repetitive cycle of negative thinking. This is difficult because thought patterns (the paths that thought takes through the neurons of the brain) are already well-worn paths: the more they are walked on, the bigger they become. It is already difficult to think differently, but you do it. All events in life follow your thoughts. That is, first you give an assessment of the event in your head, coloring it in some color, and only then look at everything else through the prism of your assessment. Throw away at least for a while black colors from your palette of thoughts. Any event for the universe has no emotional color, neither good nor bad. So for one person the event will be bad, and for the other it will be good. Only people evaluate events, only you decide whether you will learn a lesson from what is happening or it will crush you with your own permission.
If your problem came from outside, for example, a loved one died or you were left homeless, then the positive thinking techniques described above will come to your aid. In the case when the problem concerns your psyche and worldview, the “pattern break” technique will help. The mechanism of the passage of thoughts (nerve impulses) through the neurons of the brain has already been described above. It is much easier for a lazy brain to let its thoughts go along already known paths - patterns of behavior. Will have to make an effort of will to "blaze" a new path.
In fact, this way looks like this. Experiment with any thought (it is not necessary to immediately reflect on the problem that bothers you). For this exercise, any statement that you have no doubt about, that is already firmly stuck in the brain, will do. Usually it is from such thoughts and behavioral reactions that a pattern is formed.
Next, try to doubt this statement. This will be difficult to do, because it has been fixed many years ago and it seems that there can be no other opinion. When you try to convince yourself that long-familiar things may be completely different from what they seem, you will feel a kind of resistance. It's like cutting a path through the impenetrable jungle with a machete, sweating, despite the fact that there is a path already cut in the thickets nearby.
If you work on yourself so regularly, you will definitely pave new paths. It cannot be otherwise, this is how you once formed ideas about the world that you are now guided by without subjecting them to analysis. But it is precisely for a conscious life, and not a semi-automatic one, that we are given the opportunity to be aware of ourselves, along with which we need for thoughts and actions.
There is another plus: when you look for new variations (logical connections), new connections are formed among the billions of brain neurons, even if such thoughts seem fantastic at first - it doesn’t matter, the main thing is to cover the brain with a network of connections. Then one day a brilliant idea or an amazing solution to a problem will come to you that you could not have thought of before, because the overwhelming number of neurons are now connected to any of them, even a distant neuron (although the word “remote” does not fit the description of instantaneous neural connections). ).
“If you cannot change the circumstances, change your attitude towards them” - stick to this rule.
March 23, 2014The strength of the human spirit lies in the ability to look with interest and optimism into an unpredictable future. This is the belief that there is a way out of any predicament, and all disagreements can be resolved. Beckett Bernard
If you lowered your hands - do not despair, there will definitely be something wonderful under your feet, do not be afraid to raise it. If it will be difficult and scary, it is important to feel how it becomes easy and clear for you what to do now. Serge Goodman
There is a striving force in the human will that turns the mist within us into the sun. Gibran Kahlil Gibran
Man is like a brick; when burned, it becomes hard. George Bernard Shaw
Happy, thrice happy is the man who is tempered by the hardships of life. Genre Fabre
A person achieves something only when he believes in himself. Andreas Feuerbach
The highest distinction of a person is perseverance in overcoming the most cruel obstacles. Ludwig van Beethoven
Avoid those who try to undermine your faith in yourself. A great person, on the contrary, inspires the feeling that you can become great. Mark Twain
The greatest test of a man's courage is to fail and not lose heart. Ralph Ingersoll
Only when his soul forces surge in a person is he truly alive for himself and for others; only when his soul is red-hot and burning does it become visible. Stefan Zweig
I often tell myself when things are bad
And there are obstacles along the way.
The road is not always smooth,
On it there are both stones and potholes.
That I will be able to survive any troubles,
I am strong, and tears suit my face.
I'm not afraid of the vicissitudes of the weather,
I can overcome everything in the world.
Allow yourself to breathe deeply and do not drive yourself into a framework. Strength belongs to those who believe in their strength. Elchin Safarli
Fallen face down in the mud? Stand up and convince everyone that she's healing.
I became strong because I was weak
I'm fearless because I was afraid
I am wise because I was a fool.
By confessing his weakness, a person becomes strong. Honore de Balzac
All our muscles are not a guarantee of strength, someday such a day will come that will simply put a person on his knees and the one who rises and continues to live and becomes even better - that's the strong one!
I have me. We'll manage somehow.
Don't be afraid to face the truth - let it be afraid of you.
Do not be afraid to be not perfect - have you met a lot of ideal ones yourself?
Do not be afraid of criticism - it means NOT indifference,
Don't be afraid of the future - it's already here.
Even if it rains, tomorrow it will be sunny. I will move forward as long as my heart is beating. Max Lawrence
A man is what he believes in. Anton Pavlovich Chekhov
If you think you're broken
You are really broken.
If you think you won't dare
So, don't decide.
If you want to win but you think
What you can't
You will almost certainly lose.
The battles of life don't always win
The strongest and the fastest
But sooner or later the one who wins
It turns out to those who considered themselves capable of it!
Are you concerned about the future? Build today. You can change everything. Grow a cedar forest on a barren plain. But it is important that you do not construct cedars, but plant seeds. Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Desire expresses the essence of man. Benedict Spinoza
A person is driven primarily by motives that you cannot see with your eyes. The spirit guides the person. Apuleius
What is in a person is undoubtedly more important than what is in a person. Arthur Schopenhauer
Ten plus years ago
I decided to choose this path.
At first randomly
But over the years, seeing the essence deeper.
Who always goes forward
Let sometimes the road is not easy,
Fortunately, he will come
Even if the chance is one in a hundred.
Without a shadow of a doubt
Don't hide your face
Go to your goal
Dear fighter.
Go to the end!
To end!
In order to move forward, a person must constantly have glorious examples of courage in front of him on the peaks ... The future has several names. For a weak person, the name of the future is impossibility. For the faint-hearted - the unknown. For the thoughtful and valiant - the ideal. The need is urgent, the task is great, the time has come. Forward to the victory! Victor Marie Hugo
Human capabilities have not yet been measured. We cannot judge them by previous experience - a person has still dared so little. Henry David Thoreau
If something is beyond your power, then do not decide yet that it is generally impossible for a person. But if something is possible for a person and is characteristic of him, then consider that it is also available to you. Marcus Aurelius
Man is created for happiness, like a bird for flight. Vladimir Galaktionovich Korolenko
When all roads come to a standstill, when all illusions are destroyed, when not a single ray of the sun shines on the horizon, a spark of hope remains in the depths of every person's soul. Delia Steinberg Guzman
I am not a lady. Everything that was taught
It swept like the wind over me.
But adversity did not break me,
Let me be tough sometimes.
I am not a lady. I am a fearless warrior
The one that looks only forward,
The one who knows the price of the military so well,
But in the distance, the sunrise is already flaring up.
I fought for him and I will fight,
And forever in my life I will not forget:
The South lost its war ingloriously
And I got my victory.
Cotton fields with hand touching,
I look to the future with faith...
- What helped you? - ask, surprised,
- Strength of the spirit, just return it and save it!
gone With the Wind
Difficulties generate in a person the abilities necessary to overcome them. W. Phillips
We are people with a strong spirit and a resourceful mind, from any intrigues and obstacles, we will be able to build a help! Juliana Wilson
A purposeful person finds means, and when he cannot find them, he creates them. William Ellery Channing
We must look for our essence, our human origins, our inner strengths, our potentials. The height of a person does not depend on his physical growth, but on the grandeur of his dreams. The horizons that open to him are outlined not by mountains, but by his faith in himself. He is young at heart; he is the bearer and keeper of hope, he has the eternal power to remain optimistic, enthusiastic and maintain the ability to fulfill what he aspires to. Jorge Angel Livraga
True defeat is the voluntary renunciation of one's rights. Jawaharlal Nehru
When you don't get the part you deserve, you have to write it yourself.
Fate puts strong people on their knees in order to prove to them that they can rise, but she does not touch the weak - they have been on their knees all their lives.
A soul that has never suffered cannot comprehend happiness! Overcoming difficulties, you become happier. George Sand
The strength of the spirit makes a person invincible. Vasily Aleksandrovich Sukhomlinsky
You are very strong. Just very tired. You remember your wings, remember that you can fly. It's hard to walk on the ground if you can fly. Spread your wings and fly. Despite the difficulties and circumstances. And despite the fact that many hold your wings. YOU are stronger!!! You will take off!!! Just believe in yourself!!!
With experience I have known
There are no easy ways in our life.
But what won't kill me
Tomorrow will make me stronger!
In this world, everyone
Free to control your own destiny
But from start to finish
You just need to be yourself!
When it becomes very difficult for you, and everything turns against you, and it seems that you have no strength to endure a single minute more, do not retreat for anything - it is at such moments that a turning point in the struggle occurs. Beecher Stowe
To be strong, you have to be like water. There are no obstacles - it flows; the dam - it will stop; the dam breaks - it will flow again; in a quadrangular vessel it is quadrangular; in the round - it is round. Because she is so compliant, she is most needed and strongest of all!
No need to be sad when fatigue takes over the body, the spirit is always free. In the midst of the battle, you are allowed to rest. Agni yoga
The Spirit alone, touching the clay, creates a Man out of it. Saint Exupery A.
The spirit that makes itself is attuned to the wave of forces that govern the world.
The true man is not an outward man, but a soul in communion with the Divine Spirit. Paracelsus
The quietest and most serene place where a person can retire is his soul... Allow yourself such solitude more often and draw new strength from it. Marcus Aurelius
Your determination not to give up will allow you not to break even when everything collapses.
The main thing is not the place where you are, but the state of mind in which you are. Anna Gavalda
The spirit is strong with joy. Lucretius
The joy of the spirit is a sign of its strength. Waldo Emerson
The mind is the eye of the soul, but not its power; the strength of the soul is in the heart. Vauvenarg
Don't be afraid of your fate
After all, everything is extremely simple:
In life you have to face a lot of different problems. It's an endless chain of ups and downs. It seems that in most cases the problem can be dealt with, but not everyone quickly gets back on their feet after a serious failure. Sometimes it hurts too much. But it's incredibly important to keep moving forward. Here are five helpful tips that will help you get through the traumatic experience more easily and teach you to look to the future with confidence.
Remember the hard times in life
It may seem like a bad idea, but everything is not so simple - the thought of failure evokes sadness, but at the same time it helps to understand that any difficulty can be overcome. You were able to move on with your life. It usually seems that the problem broke life forever, so remembering similar disasters is very important. You become stronger with each new experience. Allow yourself to draw strength from your past, this is your priceless baggage. 
Write or tell how you feel
Get away from the situation
It can be difficult to make rational decisions when you are in the middle of a problem. Of course, you shouldn’t run away from difficulties either, but you don’t need to plunge into a difficult situation with your head - this way you lose the ability to normally weigh all the arguments and sensibly assess your situation. This happens more often than you would like to admit. Try to abstract in every difficult situation, think about everything that happens calmly. Take a break. If you have tense relatives or colleagues around you, spend some time alone with yourself. Sometimes all it takes to solve a problem is just a little breather and a break for reflection.
Remind yourself that you are not alone
It's so easy to withdraw into yourself and feel completely alone, but remembering that someone who absolutely loves you is nearby is much more difficult. Sometimes such a person is not around in real life, but you can find support online. Whoever you are, there are people who care, who are ready to listen and support. Sometimes strangers can understand you better than you can. They also had similar problems, they understand your emotions. Maybe someone else is in the same situation as you right now. Just find this person. 
Accept the situation and become stronger
No matter how difficult it may be, you should accept the situation and come to terms with what happened - the past cannot be changed anyway. It doesn't matter who is to blame for what happened. Just accept what happened and move on. Now you have a new experience that will help you deal with the same problem next time. You will be stronger and will not repeat your mistake. Life goes on, time never stands still, the main decision you can make is the decision to move on. Don't look back, everything has already happened. Just consider that now your character has become stronger, and be proud of yourself. You have experienced a difficult moment, but it does not define you or your whole life. Take a life lesson out of it and don't dwell on that memory again. A whole new life awaits you ahead of you, not related to this problem.
Life is not simple and not fair - it's not for us to tell you about it.
“She got into a storm and when the wind blew the other way, she adjusted her sails to it”
Elizabeth Edwards
Elizabeth Edwards knows life's hardships better than anyone else: she battled breast cancer, suffered an infidelity with her husband (John Edwards, 2004 VP candidate) and faced repeated harassment from the press. Despite all this, she held on and kept her face.
Elizabeth Edwards demonstrated an undeniable truth: we all experience internal struggles, and in some cases it can be terribly difficult.
We are all human and learn from our mistakes, but only to a certain extent.
Any difficulty in our path can teach us something, and Elizabeth Edwards understood this even in her last days.
Harvard University study
The Harvard University study of the formation and development of personality is considered one of the longest studies in history: it lasted as much as 75 years. The researchers tried to find the answer to the question: What is the secret of a happy and successful life? (Hint: it's not power or money.)
George Vaillant, a psychiatrist who has led the study for the past 30 years, was able to come to the final conclusion based on a huge amount of evidence: the happiest people are those who can see the good even in the worst situations.
The ability to accept all the negative that life presents us has a significant effect on social support and well-being in general.
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Based on the results of the research, Vaillant advises everyone to keep a notebook in which to write down all the trials and difficulties that you have encountered. Moreover, Mr. Vaillant argues that the happiest people always ask themselves certain questions when life presents them with difficulties.
Here are 4 questions you can ask yourself in any difficult situation:
What can this teach me?
It's easiest to see any difficulty as an annoyance at best and as something that can break you down at worst. After we overcome the next difficulty or solve a problem, it is important to ask ourselves: What can this situation teach me?
And no, the answer "nothing" is not accepted. Whatever the situation is, it can always teach you something new.
Let's imagine that you were fired from your job. Ask yourself: “Is this what I dreamed of?”, “Was this my calling?”, “What can I do better next time?”.
Just answer honestly. Perhaps you will surprise yourself.
Did it make me stronger?
Try to perceive difficulties on your way as new opportunities. Whether you realize it or not, life's challenges make you stronger. If we are able to recognize this, we can not only cope with difficulties, but also discover hidden strengths and abilities in ourselves, the existence of which we did not suspect before.
How can this situation be beneficial for me?
Life trials can provide you with an invaluable opportunity for personal development.
Let's imagine another situation: your children leave the parental nest, go to school or somewhere far from home for the first time in their lives. Will you be sad? Definitely yes. You love your children and they will always be a part of you.
But if you look at the situation from the other side, you can understand how beautiful it is. For the first time in their lives, your children have a great opportunity to see the world around them and find new adventures. You will also have more free time, which you can devote to what you really like.
How can I use my experience to help others?
Here is another example: military wives who experience a long separation from their husbands.
Women whose husbands are in the army, navy or navy use their experiences to help others, how to cope with a long separation from a loved one and what to expect.
Again, a situation that at first seemed difficult and heartbreaking can become favorable.
If you haven't gone through a certain test, you won't be able to help others cope in similar situations.
Being persistent does not mean being indifferent. You go through this test, you experience certain feelings, you fail and you experience pain. You fall, but nevertheless, find the strength to rise and move on.
1) Negation.
This is the very moment when we do not want to live with our misfortune, we are afraid of tomorrow and accepting the obvious. Usually at this moment we have to enter into a completely different reality, not like the one that was before. We do not recognize the existence of an unresolvable (or very difficult to resolve) contradiction. This period lasts from a couple of minutes to several years. Realizing that trouble has happened and one day it will noticeably make itself felt (or has already made itself known), we live, oppressed by constant fear and depression. What is important here? First of all, do not hide your head in the sand. In addition, do not confuse real trouble with a bunch of troubles or fears that a rich fantasy throws at us. If trouble happened, it is not small and sits in our soul as a huge splinter. If the trouble happened suddenly, but it is fixable, it is important to start solving the problem not immediately, when you are still in a state of shock, but at least a day later, when you spent the night with trouble.
2) Compensation and recognition of what happened.
During this period, we ask for help and do not understand how to continue to live, do not want to think about the future and try to somehow distract ourselves. When we acknowledge grief, we experience a lot of stress. At this time, everything is seething in us, but we are not capable of any actions, since the processes of excitation and inhibition are simultaneously working in the body. Not every organism can withstand this, and the subconscious mind takes over the work, which is looking for a way out, for example, draws our attention to another area where there are no difficulties. The way out of negativity is in some kind of conversation, chores or just a walk. The subconscious thus displaces all the thoughts and questions that torment us. Here it is important to allow the subconscious to work, that is, to distract from the past: know that neurosis does not arise because of a difficult period in life, but because we wind ourselves up. But do not be distracted by artificial and strong stimuli, that is, alcohol or drugs. In this case, you will again get a vicious circle
3) Aggression.
What happens during this period? The trouble still sits in the soul as a splinter and controls us. And then we notice that everything is bad with us, and everything around is the same as before. This is where aggression comes in. A person can direct it at himself, perceiving trouble as his own fault and convinced of his inferiority. This is how self-confidence is undermined. If self-esteem is high, a person breaks down on others, trying to lower their level of existence and make it worse for those who are all right. The main thing is not to get stuck here. Analyze what happened, change yourself, anything, just don't get stuck in your aggression.
4) Reliving.
We begin to relive our misfortune, retell it and share it with loved ones (or not so much. This is already a recovery, and by reliving and telling, we make grief not so significant. If we talk about our misfortune several times, it no longer seems terrible. We are also in these moments we remove from ourselves the imaginary (or real) guilt for what happened.But do not get stuck and put pressure on pity, otherwise you will turn into an energy vampire.
5) New birth.
We learn to live with our misfortune on our own. Our task is to turn our thorn into a new part of ourselves. Here you can say a lot of clichés about the fact that what does not kill us, and about the fact that we have become stronger after a difficult period. No, it is now for life and you build it without trouble. Just the whole difficult period in life can be perceived as a rebirth.
How to learn to deal with difficulties easily.
The essence of a simple attitude to any problem is as follows:
1)Rest assured this is temporary. Nothing lasts forever, including difficulties. It won't always be like this!
2) Everything that happens in a person's life, he is able to overcome. Cultivate confidence in your abilities. Over time, it will become your unshakable quality;
3) If you feel bad, help someone whose situation is even worse. Then you will understand how happy you are;
4) You can not connect all sorts of emotions when trying to solve a problem. It takes away energy, deprives of strength. Learn to see only the essence of the problem, as well as ways to solve it. Decide on your capabilities and gradually eliminate the consequences of the difficulties that have arisen.
5) Do not worry about future possible troubles. Anticipating possible difficulties, just be prepared to solve them. Do everything possible to prevent an unfavorable development of the scenario. Having done your job, be satisfied with your actions: it is impossible to predict everything. However, to a greater extent, you will already be ready for any troubles, and you can easily cope with them;
6) Focus on the positive things in your life. Even restoring a destroyed house, you can think not about your loss, but about the future new, even better house. Learn to enjoy life in spite of any adversity, be grateful for what you have. The feeling of well-being will not leave you if you learn to appreciate everything that you have;
7) Be prepared for losses. It is an integral part of our life. When we lose something, we still gain something. You need to be able to see the positive, beneficial aspects in any situation;
8) It is useless to be angry because difficulties have arisen. Just try to quickly cope with the situation, without spraying your strength, without complaining about fate. Mentally or aloud repeating your complaints, you attract more and more trouble;
9)Be active, work physically. Even a simple run can remove difficult thoughts, it will become easier to cope with a difficult situation;
10) Stop complaining and make an effort to overcome a difficult situation. Think, look for a way out, direct all the energy of thoughts to finding a solution and just do the necessary work;
11) Having coped with the problem, rejoice from the bottom of your heart! Fix useful experiences in your memory. Whatever doesn't kill us strengthens us. You have become stronger, more confident, wiser. 
There are really difficult situations in life, deep grief, when we lose loved ones, our ability to work, our health, property. Then use these tips:
1) Repeat to yourself: “I will overcome this!” Ask God for help. If you do not believe in God, ask the Universe for strength. These forces will come, rest assured! We attract what we think. Asking the world for strength, you will certainly receive it.
2) Ask for help from loved ones if you feel that you are not coping with the situation. Often human participation fills the soul with new strength, relieves tension, negative emotions go away;
3) Choose the right thoughts: those that create, not destroy. After the storm there will always be sunshine. 
- 5 tips on how to cope with life's difficulties and pain.
1) Think back to difficult times in your life.
It may seem like a bad idea, but it's not so simple - the thought of failure evokes sadness, but at the same time it helps to understand that any difficulty can be overcome. You were able to move on with your life.
3)Disengage from the situation.
It can be difficult to make rational decisions when you are in the middle of a problem. Of course, you shouldn’t run away from difficulties either, but you don’t need to plunge headlong into a difficult situation - this way you lose the ability to normally weigh all the arguments and assess your situation sensibly. Try to abstract in every difficult situation, think about everything that happens calmly. Take a break.
4)Remind yourself that you are not alone.
It's so easy to withdraw into yourself and feel completely alone, but remembering that someone who absolutely loves you is nearby is much more difficult. Sometimes such a person is not around in real life, but you can find support online. Whoever you are, there are people who care, who are ready to listen and support. Sometimes strangers can understand you better than you can. Just find this person.
5) Accept the situation and become stronger.
No matter how difficult it may be, you should accept the situation and come to terms with what happened - the past cannot be changed anyway. It doesn't matter who is to blame for what happened. Just accept what happened and move on. Now you have a new experience that will help you deal with the same problem next time. You will be stronger and will not repeat your mistake. Life goes on, time never stands still, the main decision you can make is the decision to move on. Don't look back, everything has already happened. A whole new life awaits you ahead of you, not related to this problem. 
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