Overcoming difficulties in life: one good piece of advice. The myth of overcoming difficulties
Marina NikitinaIt is difficult to find a person who does not know what the difficulties of life are. But there are millions of people in the world who do not know how to overcome these difficulties. They lie to themselves, denying the existence of difficulties, give up, stopping any attempts to solve problems or understand them. What does this lead to? Nothing positive. A person falls into prolonged depression or develops nervous and mental illnesses.
If you are a strong-willed person, accustomed to facing the truth, then this information will not be useful to you. If you don’t have the courage to solve problems, work on yourself from today, because you have already taken a small step in this direction - you have decided to learn how to overcome difficulties.
Diagnosis of problems
To fight the enemy you need to know him by sight. Therefore, first we will determine the presence of difficulties and see which category they belong to. Life difficulties:
Serious problems from outside (loss of the most expensive property, a house burned down, a large sum of money was stolen, death of a loved one, incurable illness).
Difficulties of moderate complexity (you were kicked out of work, your wife is sick, you have no means of subsistence).
Difficulties in self-identification, psychological problems (feelings of inferiority or worthlessness, depression, panic).
Domestic difficulties (tired of cleaning, cooking, quarreling with my husband because of his carelessness, plumbing is out of order, not enough money, the phone is broken, difficulties in family life).
The problems described in the first two points are not necessarily the most difficult. The third type of problems - psychological - can be of any complexity. The subtle world called “psyche” is difficult to analyze, so to deal with this kind of problem, you have to try. Everyday difficulties from the last category are only at first glance inferior in complexity to the previous ones; they drag you into a pool of sadness, fear, sluggish, destructive hatred of yourself and the rest of the world. Therefore, any of the problems is serious, especially for the one who has it.
Making a strong-willed decision to fight
Giving a clear name is mandatory, because vague complaints like “I feel bad, my soul hurts, it’s hard, and I don’t know why” and “cure” are impossible.
After recognizing the problem, you already have a formulation. It’s not always easy to take even this step, but don’t think about it, do it in order, so to speak, in small steps. In this way you will go through the entire long, albeit difficult, path. Don't forget: “Great things start small.”
After looking your difficulty in the eye, the problem will already decrease in size. Now it will not pulsate in your exhausted brain every day or seem like a black bottomless abyss. No, after the bold step of identifying the problem, you have already seen your enemy and know its size. It turns out that this is not a bottomless abyss, although it is very deep in some particularly serious cases.
How often does it happen that a person knows a problem that has been bothering him for a long time, but does not want to fight, he is disappointed in life, does not believe in himself and walks around like a psychological corpse - Homo Sapiens lives, eats, breathes, but has lost interest in anything , life only by the fact of its existence is disgusting. What can I recommend?
Strange as it may sound, if it seems to you that the end has come for the person you previously saw in the mirror, this is good because there is nothing to lose in such a situation. All that remains is to make the decision to fight, to solve problems.
You may ask, what to do if it is completely unclear which direction to move? Should you do something even if you are not sure about the right path? Of course yes. Here's an example. Imagine that there is a small wooden box in front of you. It is filled with balls of the same size, but of different colors: first, a handful of black balls are poured, and the same amount of white balls is poured on top. The box is closed.
Now we draw parallels: one of the black balls is you. The ball lies at the bottom of the box, there are black balls around, there is also a large layer of balls on top and the situation seems completely hopeless, since there is no way to get up and the ways to solve the problem are unknown.
Now imagine that you pick up the box and start shaking it. Yes, at first glance you are doing things at random. You don’t know what’s going on inside, you know one thing - when you shake the box, at least something happens inside. Now let’s reveal the cards: in the process of such shaking, the balls in the box begin to mix. It happens chaotically, but everyone has heard the theory of probability.
So, according to this theory, the balls in the box will eventually return to their initial position with almost zero probability. So to do at least something is in a decadent mood. And then, you see, while shaking, you will understand in which direction you need to tilt the box and your ball will be pushed up by other balls.
Difficulties in a person's life
Imagine life without difficulties. It seemed like it could be better. You will be surprised, but it is the presence of difficulties that shows us how good life can be, gives us food for thought, and makes us, like the balls from the example above, move. If difficulties in a person’s life disappear, then there will be nothing to compare the rest of the events with; no one will even imagine what difficulties are, or what joyful events are. There won’t be any, since everything will be painfully the same.
To maintain vitality, to maintain self-control, you must always remember what was written on the ring of King Solomon. It said, “This too shall pass.” When he had, he looked at this inscription and calmed down, because there was an instruction that everything would pass. But he was in no hurry to rejoice too much, so as not to be upset later, because even in this case he looked at the inscription and was convinced that this too would pass, that everything in the world passes and passes.
Ways to overcome life's difficulties
Overcoming the difficulties of life is organized in many different ways. First way: follow the example of King Solomon. You can actually have your ring engraved in a jewelry store and always wear it on your finger. Another way to look at this wise expression is to make a beautiful sign that will hang in a prominent place in your home.
Let in your head not a picture of a sad development of events for you, but this useful phrase. In the meantime, you will begin to take any actions, at least to distract attention, then you will understand what to do to directly solve the problem.
Don’t be afraid to think about your enemy - about the problem that poisons your existence. It is better to take courage and analyze whether the grief is as great as its tortured brain imagines. Analyze this. Ask yourself: “Yes, I have a problem. And what follows from this? What are the consequences of an unresolved problem?” You need to present honestly: choose not only negative consequences, but also a positive outcome of events. After all, you must clearly understand that there are always several possible outcomes, and excluding positive ones, you leave yourself no chance to change anything.
Remember that you need to be sure to break the repetitive cycle of negative thinking. This is difficult because thinking patterns (the paths along which thoughts travel through the neurons of the brain) are already like well-trodden paths: the more they are followed, the larger they become. It’s already difficult to think differently, but you do it. All events in life move after your thoughts. That is, first you give an assessment of the event in your head, painting it in some color, and only then through the prism of your assessment you look at everything else. Throw away black colors from your palette of thoughts at least for a while. Any event for the universe has no emotional coloring, neither good nor bad. So for one person an event will be bad, but for another it will be good. Only people evaluate events, only you decide whether you will learn a lesson from what is happening or whether it will crush you with your own permission.
If your problem came from outside, for example, a loved one died or you were left homeless, then the positive thinking techniques described above will come to your aid. If the problem concerns your psyche and worldview, the “breaking the pattern” technique will help. The mechanism of the passage of thoughts (nerve impulses) through the neurons of the brain has already been described above. It is much easier for a lazy brain to let its thoughts follow already known paths - patterns of behavior. You will have to make a strong-willed effort to “pave” a new path.
In reality this method looks like this. Experiment with any thought (you don’t have to immediately think about the problem that’s bothering you). For this exercise, any statement that you don’t doubt at all and that is already firmly stuck in your brain is suitable. Usually it is from such thoughts and behavioral reactions that a pattern is formed.
Next, try to doubt this statement. This will be difficult to do, because it has already been established many years ago and it seems that there can be no other opinion. When you try to convince yourself that things that have been familiar for a long time may not be at all what they seem, you will feel a kind of resistance. It’s like cutting a path for yourself in the impenetrable jungle with a machete, sweating despite the fact that nearby there is a path already cut through the thickets.
If you work on yourself so regularly, you will definitely pave new paths. It cannot be otherwise, this is exactly how you once formed ideas about the world that you are now guided by, without subjecting them to analysis. But it is precisely for a conscious life, and not a semi-automatic one, that we are given the opportunity to become aware of ourselves, along with which we need to be responsible for our thoughts and actions.
There is another plus: when you look for new variations (logical connections), new connections are formed among billions of neurons in the brain, even if such thoughts seem fantastic at first - it doesn’t matter, the main thing is to cover the brain with a network of connections. Then one day a brilliant idea or an amazing solution to a problem will come to you, which you could not even think of before, because the overwhelming number of neurons are now connected to any of them, even a distant neuron (although the word “remote” does not fit the description of instantaneous neural connections ).
“If you cannot change your circumstances, change your attitude towards them” - stick to this rule.
March 23, 2014The strength of the human spirit lies in the ability to look with interest and optimism into an unpredictable future. This is the belief that there is a way out of any difficult situation, and that all disagreements can be resolved. Beckett Bernard
If you give up, don’t despair, there will definitely be something wonderful under your feet, don’t be afraid to raise it. If it becomes difficult and scary, it is important to feel how it becomes easy and clear for you what to do now. Serge Goodman
There is a force of aspiration in the human will that turns the fog within us into the sun. Gibran Kahlil Gibran
A person is like a brick; when burned, it becomes hard. George Bernard Shaw
Happy, thrice happy is the man who is strengthened by the adversities of life. Genre Fabre
A person only achieves something when he believes in his own strength. Andreas Feuerbach
The highest characteristic of a person is perseverance in overcoming the most severe obstacles. Ludwig van Beethoven
Avoid those who try to undermine your self-confidence. A great person, on the contrary, instills the feeling that you can become great. Mark Twain
The greatest test of a man's courage is to be defeated and not lose heart. Ralph Ingersoll
Only when a person’s spiritual strength leaps up is he truly alive for himself and for others; only when his soul is red-hot and blazing does it become a visible image. Stefan Zweig
I often tell myself when things are bad,
And there are obstacles along the way.
The road is not always smooth,
There are both stones and potholes on it.
That I can survive any troubles,
I am strong and tears suit me.
I'm not afraid of the vicissitudes of the weather,
I can overcome anything in the world.
Allow yourself to breathe deeply and don’t force yourself into limits. Strength belongs to those who believe in their own strength. Elchin Safarli
Fell face down in the mud? Stand up and convince everyone that it is healing.
I became strong because I was weak
I'm fearless because I was afraid
I am wise because I was a fool.
By admitting his weakness, a person becomes strong. Honore de Balzac
All our muscles are not a guarantee of strength, someday a day will come that will simply bring a person to his knees and the one who rises and continues to live and becomes even better - that’s the strong one!
I have me. We'll manage somehow.
Don't be afraid to face the truth - let it be afraid of you.
Don’t be afraid to not be perfect - have you met many ideal ones yourself?
Don't be afraid of criticism - this means NOT indifference,
Don't be afraid of the future - it has already arrived.
Even if it rains, tomorrow there will be sun. I will move forward as long as my heart beats. Max Lawrence
A person is what he believes in. Anton Pavlovich Chekhov
If you feel like you're broken,
You are truly broken.
If you think you don't dare,
So you won't dare.
If you want to win, but you think
That you can't
You will almost certainly lose.
You don't always win the battles of life
The strongest and the fastest
But sooner or later the one who wins
It turns out that those who considered themselves capable of it!
Are you concerned about the future? Build today. You can change everything. Grow a cedar forest on a barren plain. But it is important that you do not construct cedars, but plant seeds. Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Desire expresses the essence of a person. Benedict Spinoza
A person is driven primarily by motivations that cannot be seen with the eyes. A person is guided by the spirit. Apuleius
What is in a person is undoubtedly more important than what a person has. Arthur Schopenhauer
More than ten years ago
I decided to choose this path.
At first at random
But over the years, seeing the essence more deeply.
Who always goes forward
Even though sometimes the road is not easy,
Fortunately for him he will come,
Even if the chance is one in a hundred.
Without a shadow of a doubt
Without hiding my face,
Go towards your goal
Dear fighter.
Go till the end!
To end!
To move forward, a person must constantly have before him at the heights of glorious examples of courage... The future has several names. For a weak person, the name of the future is impossibility. For the faint-hearted - the unknown. For the thoughtful and valiant - an ideal. The need is urgent, the task is great, the time has come. Forward to the victory! Victor Marie Hugo
Human capabilities have not yet been measured. We cannot judge them based on previous experience - the person has not yet dared so much. Henry David Thoreau
If something is beyond your power, then do not decide that it is generally impossible for a person. But if something is possible for a person and is characteristic of him, then consider that it is also available to you. Marcus Aurelius
Man is created for happiness, like a bird is created for flight. Vladimir Galaktionovich Korolenko
When all roads come to a dead end, when all illusions are destroyed, when not a single ray of sun shines on the horizon, a spark of hope remains in the depths of the soul of every person. Delia Steinberg Guzman
I'm not a lady. Everything that was taught
It swept over me like the wind.
But adversity did not break me,
Let me seem tough at times.
I'm not a lady. I am a fearless warrior
The one who looks only forward
The one who knows so well the value of war,
But in the distance the sunrise is already flaring up.
I fought for him and will fight,
And I will never forget in my life:
The South lost its war ingloriously
And I won my victory equally.
Touching the cotton fields with my hand,
I look with faith into the days to come...
- What helped you? - they will ask, surprised,
- Strength of spirit, just bring it back and save it!
gone With the Wind
Difficulties give rise to the abilities necessary to overcome them. W. Phillips
We are people with a strong spirit and resourceful mind; we can build help from any intrigues and obstacles! Juliana Wilson
A purposeful person finds means, and when he cannot find them, he creates them. William Ellery Channing
We must look for our essence, our human origins, our inner strengths, our potentials. The height of a person does not depend on his physical height, but on the grandeur of his dreams. The horizons that open to him are outlined not by mountains, but by his self-confidence. He is young at heart; he is the bearer and keeper of hope, he has the eternal strength to remain optimistic, enthusiastic and maintain the ability to accomplish what he strives for. Jorge Angel Livraga
True defeat is the voluntary renunciation of one's rights. Jawaharlal Nehru
When you don't get the role you deserve, you have to write it yourself.
Fate brings strong people to their knees in order to prove to them that they can rise, but it does not touch the weak - they are already on their knees all their lives.
A soul that has never suffered cannot comprehend happiness! Overcoming difficulties makes you happier. George Sand
Strength of spirit makes a person invincible. Vasily Alexandrovich Sukhomlinsky
You are very strong. I'm just very tired. Remember your wings, remember that you can fly. It's hard to walk on earth if you can fly. Spread your wings and fly. Despite the difficulties and circumstances. And despite the fact that many hold your wings. YOU are stronger!!! You will fly!!! Just believe in yourself!!!
With experience I learned -
There are no easy paths in our life.
But what won't kill me -
Tomorrow will make me stronger!
In this world everyone is alone
Free to control your own destiny,
But from start to finish
You just need to be yourself!
When it becomes very difficult for you, and everything turns against you, and it seems that you have no strength to endure one more minute, do not retreat for anything - it is at such moments that the turning point in the struggle comes. Beecher Stowe
To be strong, you must be like water. There are no obstacles - it flows; the dam - it will stop; if the dam breaks, it will flow again; in a quadrangular vessel it is quadrangular; in the round - she is round. Because she is so compliant, she is needed most and stronger than anyone!
There is no need to be sad when fatigue controls the body, the spirit is always free. In the midst of the battle you are allowed to rest. Agni yoga
The Spirit alone, touching clay, creates Man from it. Saint-Exupery A.
The self-making spirit is tuned to the wave of the forces that control the world.
True man is not an external man, but a soul communicating with the Divine Spirit. Paracelsus
The quietest and most serene place where a person can retire is his soul... Allow yourself such solitude more often and draw new strength from it. Marcus Aurelius
Your determination not to give up will allow you not to break even when everything collapses.
The main thing is not the place where you are, but the state of mind in which you are. Anna Gavalda
The spirit is strong with joy. Lucretius
The joy of the spirit is a sign of its strength. Waldo Emerson
The mind is the eye of the soul, but not its strength; the strength of the soul is in the heart. Vauvenargues
Don't be afraid of your fate,
After all, everything is extremely simple:
In life you have to face a lot of different problems. It's an endless chain of ups and downs. It seems that in most cases the problem can be overcome, but not everyone quickly gets back on their feet after a serious failure. Sometimes it hurts too much. But keeping going is incredibly important. Here are five useful tips that will help you cope with a traumatic experience more easily and teach you to look forward to the future with confidence.
Remember the difficult moments in life
It may seem like a bad idea, but it's not that simple - thoughts of failure bring sadness, but at the same time they help you understand that you can cope with any difficulty. You were able to continue living. Usually it seems that the problem has ruined life forever, so remembering similar disasters is very important. You become stronger with every new experience. Allow yourself to draw strength from your past, it is your invaluable luggage. 
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Abstract yourself from the situation
It can be difficult to make rational decisions when you find yourself in the middle of a problem. Of course, you shouldn’t run away from difficulties either, but you also don’t need to plunge headlong into a difficult situation - this way you lose the ability to normally weigh all the arguments and sensibly assess your situation. This happens much more often than I would like to admit. Try to abstract yourself in every difficult situation and think about everything that is happening calmly. Take a break. If you have tense family members or colleagues around you, spend some time alone with yourself. Sometimes all that is needed to solve a problem is just a little respite and a break to think.
Remind yourself that you are not alone
It’s so easy to withdraw into yourself and feel completely alone, but remembering that someone who absolutely loves you is nearby is much more difficult. Sometimes that person isn't around in real life, but you can find support online. No matter who you are, there are people who care, who are ready to listen and support. Sometimes strangers can understand you better than you can understand yourself. They have also had similar problems, they understand your emotions. Perhaps someone is in the same situation as you right now. Just find this person. 
Accept the situation and become stronger
No matter how difficult it may be, you should accept the situation and come to terms with what happened - it’s still impossible to change the past. It doesn't matter who is to blame for what happened. Just accept what happened and move on. Now you have new experience that will help you deal with the same problem next time. You will be stronger and will not repeat your mistake. Life goes on, time never stands still, the main decision you can make is the decision to move on. Don't look back to the past, everything has already happened. Just consider that your character is now stronger and be proud of yourself. You went through a difficult moment, but it does not define you or your entire life. Learn a life lesson from it and don't dwell on that memory again. There is a completely new life ahead of you, not connected with this problem.
Life is not simple and not fair - it’s not for us to tell you about that.
“She was caught in a storm and when the wind was blowing in the other direction, she adjusted her sails to it.”
Elizabeth Edwards
Elizabeth Edwards is no stranger to life's struggles: she has battled breast cancer, suffered the infidelity of her husband (John Edwards, the 2004 vice presidential candidate), and faced repeated harassment from the press. Despite all this, she held on and saved face.
Elizabeth Edwards demonstrated an undeniable truth: we all experience internal struggles, and in some cases they can be terribly difficult.
We are all human and we learn from our mistakes, but only to a certain extent.
Any difficulty along the way can teach us something, and Elizabeth Edwards understood this even in her final days.
Harvard University Study
The Harvard University study on the formation and development of personality is considered one of the longest studies in history: it lasted as much as 75 years. Researchers tried to find an answer to the question: What is the secret to a happy and successful life? (Hint: it's not power or money).
George Vaillant, a psychiatrist who has led the study for the past 30 years, was able to reach a final conclusion based on a huge amount of evidence: the happiest people are those who can see the good even in the worst situations.
The ability to accept the negative things life throws at us has a significant effect on social support and overall well-being.
Keep a “test notebook”
Based on the research, Vaillant advises everyone to keep a notebook in which to write down all the trials and difficulties that you have encountered. Moreover, Mr. Vaillant argues that the happiest people always ask themselves certain questions when life presents them with difficulties.
Here are 4 questions you can ask yourself in any difficult situation:
What can this teach me?
It's easiest to see any difficulty as, at best, an annoyance, and at worst, as something that can break you. After we overcome another difficulty or solve a problem, it is important to ask ourselves: What can this situation teach me?
And no, the answer “nothing” is not accepted. No matter what the situation is, it can always teach you something new.
Let's imagine that you were fired from your job. Ask yourself: “Is this what I dreamed of?”, “Was this my calling?”, “What can I do better next time?”
Just answer honestly. You might surprise yourself.
Did it make me stronger?
Try to perceive the difficulties along your path as new opportunities. Whether you realize it or not, life's challenges make you stronger. If we are able to recognize this, we can not only cope with difficulties, but also discover hidden strengths and abilities within ourselves that we never knew existed.
How can this situation be beneficial for me?
Life's challenges can provide you with invaluable opportunities for personal development.
Let's imagine another situation: your children leave their parents' nest, go to study or somewhere far from home for the first time in their lives. Will you be sad? Definitely yes. You love your children and they will always be a part of you.
But if you look at the situation from the other side, you can understand how beautiful it is. For the first time in their lives, your children have a wonderful opportunity to see the world around them and find new adventures. You will have more free time, which you can devote to what you really like.
How can I use my experience to help others?
Here's another example: military wives who are experiencing long separations from their husbands.
Women whose husbands serve in the army, navy or marine use their experiences to help others, tell them how to cope with a long separation from a loved one and what to expect.
Again, a situation that at first glance seemed difficult and heartbreaking can become favorable.
If you haven't been through a particular challenge, you won't be able to help others cope with similar situations.
Being persistent does not mean being indifferent. You go through this test, you experience certain feelings, you fail and you experience pain. You fall, but nevertheless, you find the strength to get up and move on.
1) Negation.
This is the very moment when we do not want to live with our misfortune, we are afraid of tomorrow and accepting the obvious. Usually at this moment we have to enter into a completely different reality, not similar to the one that existed before. We do not recognize the existence of an insoluble (or very difficult to resolve) contradiction. This period lasts from a couple of minutes to several years. Realizing that trouble has happened and will one day make itself felt (or has already made itself felt), we live oppressed by constant fear and depression. What's important here? First of all, don’t bury your head in the sand. In addition, we should not confuse real trouble with a bunch of troubles or fears that our rich imagination throws at us. If trouble happens, it is not minor and sits in our soul as a huge thorn. If the trouble happened suddenly, but it is fixable, it is important to start solving the problem not immediately, when you are still in a state of shock, but at least a day later, when you spent the night with trouble.
2) Compensation and acknowledgment of what happened.
During this period, we ask for help and don’t understand how to continue living, we don’t want to think about the future and try to somehow distract ourselves. Having admitted grief, we experience very strong stress. At this time, everything is seething in us, but we are not capable of any action, since both the processes of excitation and inhibition are working in the body at the same time. Not every organism can withstand this, and the subconscious gets to work, looking for a way out, for example, drawing our attention to another area where there are no difficulties. The way out for negativity is in some conversations, chores, or just a walk. The subconscious thus displaces all the thoughts and questions that torment us. Here it is important to allow the subconscious to work, that is, to distract from the past: know that neurosis does not arise because of a difficult period in life, but because we overwhelm ourselves. But do not be distracted by artificial and strong irritants, that is, alcohol or drugs. In this case you will again get a vicious circle
3) Aggression.
What happens during this period? Trouble still sits like a thorn in our souls and controls us. And then we notice that everything is bad with us, but everyone around us is as before. This is where aggression is born. A person can direct it at himself, perceiving trouble as his own fault and becoming convinced of his own inferiority. This is how self-confidence is undermined. If self-esteem is high, a person lashes out at those around him, trying to lower their level of existence and make it worse for those who are doing well. The main thing is not to get stuck here. Analyze what happened, change yourself, whatever, just don’t get stuck in your aggression.
4) Reliving.
We begin to relive our misfortune, talk about it and share it with loved ones (or not so much. This is already recovery, and by reliving and telling, we make the grief less significant. If we talk about our misfortune several times, it no longer seems terrible. We also These moments we relieve ourselves of imaginary (or real) guilt for what happened.But you shouldn’t get stuck and put pressure on pity, otherwise you will turn into an energy vampire.
5) New birth.
We learn to live with our misfortune on our own. Our task is to turn our thorn into a new part of ourselves. Here you can say a lot of cliches about the fact that what does not kill us, and about the fact that we have become stronger after a difficult period. No, this is now for life and you build it without trouble. It’s just that the entire difficult period in life can be perceived as rebirth.
— How to learn to take difficulties lightly.
The essence of a simple attitude to any problem is as follows:
1)Rest assured, this is temporary. Nothing lasts forever, including difficulties. It won't always be like this!
2) Everything that happens in a person’s life, he is able to overcome. Cultivate self-confidence in your abilities. Over time, it will become your unshakable quality;
3) If you feel bad, help someone whose situation is even worse. Then you will understand how happy you are;
4) You can’t involve all sorts of emotions when you’re trying to solve a problem. It takes away energy and deprives you of strength. Learn to see only the essence of the problem, as well as ways to solve it. Determine your capabilities and gradually eliminate the consequences of the difficulties that arise.
5) There is no need to worry about future possible troubles. Anticipating possible difficulties, just be prepared to solve them. Do everything possible to prevent an unfavorable scenario from developing. Once you have done your job, be satisfied with your actions: it is impossible to predict everything. However, to a greater extent, you will be ready for any troubles and will easily cope with them;
6) Concentrate on the positive aspects of your life. Even when restoring a destroyed house, you can think not about your loss, but about the future new, even better house. Learn to enjoy life despite any adversity, be grateful for what you have. The feeling of well-being will not leave you if you learn to appreciate everything you have;
7) Be prepared for losses. This is an integral part of our life. While we lose something, we still gain something. You need to be able to see the positive, beneficial sides in any situation;
8) There is no use in being angry because difficulties have arisen. Just try to quickly cope with the situation, without wasting your strength, without complaining about fate. By mentally or out loud repeating your complaints, you attract more and more troubles;
9)Be active, work physically. Even a simple jog can remove heavy thoughts, making it easier to cope with a difficult situation;
10) Stop complaining and make an effort to overcome a difficult situation. Think, look for a way out, direct all the energy of your thoughts to find a solution and simply do the necessary work;
11) Having dealt with the problem, rejoice from the bottom of your heart! Capture a useful experience in your memory. Everything that does not kill us strengthens us. You have become stronger, more confident, wiser. 
There are really difficult situations in life, deep grief, when we lose loved ones, ability to work, our health, property. Then use these tips:
1) Repeat to yourself: “I will overcome this!” Ask God for help. If you don't believe in God, ask the Universe for strength. These forces will come, rest assured! We attract what we think about. When you ask the world for strength, you will certainly receive it.
2) Ask your loved ones for help if you feel like you can’t cope with the situation. Often human participation fills the soul with new strength, relieves tension, and negative emotions go away;
3) Choose the right thoughts: those that create, not destroy. After the storm there will always be sunshine. 
— 5 tips on how to cope with life’s difficulties and pain.
1) Remember the difficult moments in life.
It may seem like a bad idea, but it's not that simple - thoughts of failure bring sadness, but at the same time they help you understand that you can cope with any difficulty. You were able to continue living.
3)Abstract yourself from the situation.
It can be difficult to make rational decisions when you find yourself in the middle of a problem. Of course, you shouldn’t run away from difficulties either, but you also don’t need to plunge headlong into a difficult situation - this way you lose the ability to normally weigh all the arguments and sensibly assess your situation. Try to abstract yourself in every difficult situation and think about everything that is happening calmly. Take a break.
4)Remind yourself that you are not alone.
It’s so easy to withdraw into yourself and feel completely alone, but remembering that someone who absolutely loves you is nearby is much more difficult. Sometimes that person isn't around in real life, but you can find support online. No matter who you are, there are people who care, who are ready to listen and support. Sometimes strangers can understand you better than you can understand yourself. Just find this person.
5) Accept the situation and become stronger.
No matter how difficult it may be, you should accept the situation and come to terms with what happened - it’s still impossible to change the past. It doesn't matter who is to blame for what happened. Just accept what happened and move on. Now you have new experience that will help you deal with the same problem next time. You will be stronger and will not repeat your mistake. Life goes on, time never stands still, the main decision you can make is the decision to move on. Don't look back to the past, everything has already happened. There is a completely new life ahead of you, not connected with this problem. 
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