Why does a child sleep only in his arms? The child sleeps only in his arms, but when he puts it down he wakes up: a problem or not. A safe place to sleep.

What to do if the child sleeps only in his arms? How to wean a child from this habit? How to transfer a baby to a crib? Is it always possible for a baby to sleep in his arms? How can a baby be taught to sleep in a crib and how does sleeping in a crib affect the quality of sleep of all family members? In this article, we invite you to understand these issues.

A baby appeared in the house. A young family prepares for this bright event in advance - they buy a “dowry” - diapers, baby vests, toys, pacifiers, a stroller, and, of course, a crib. A loving mother tries to create comfort in the baby’s “nest”, so she arranges the cradle - selecting beautiful bedding, bumpers and the cutest mobile phones.

And this is the first night at home. Mom wants to put her sleeping baby in his cozy crib, but as soon as she brings the baby to her, he wakes up and starts crying. Mom calms him down, gives him breastfeeding, rocks him to sleep again and makes a second attempt. This attempt ends in the same way - only now the child cries even longer and even more intensely. Then mom calls to help dad. Dad walks around the room for a long, long time with the tired baby, rocking him. Finally, the baby fell asleep. Whispering, the parents, barely breathing, carefully try to put the child to sleep in the crib. And now, we almost succeeded! But as soon as dad removes his hand from the crib, crying is heard.

Desperate, mom invites dad to take the baby into bed with them and then a miracle happens - the baby falls asleep instantly, getting to his mother’s side.

The next day, the young parents make a new attempt to teach their child to sleep in their beautiful crib. But all the numerous shifts end in the same thing - the baby’s crying and his instant awakening after he is put in his crib.

On the third day, the mother no longer even makes attempts to put the baby in bed: “the baby doesn’t like the crib,” “no matter what I do, it’s useless.”

After some time, the crib becomes filled with clothes, some children's things, and then it ends up being put away in another room as unnecessary.

The parents concluded that the crib was apparently unsuitable. Since the baby really doesn’t want to sleep in it, we decided to wait until the baby is ready for it. Then it will be possible to make a second attempt to teach the child to sleep in a crib, and not just in the parent’s or in the arms. Common situation?

Sleeping only in your arms?

What to do in the case when the baby does not agree to sleep in a crib and sleeps only in his arms, and at what age can he start sleeping differently?

A child is born completely dependent on his mother and not at all adapted to life in this world; he still needs his mother’s help in everything. This also applies to sleep issues.

In order to help the baby fall asleep, the best thing a mother can do is to reproduce the “conditions of the uterus,” the conditions in which the baby was most recently. To do this, mom can:

that is, to create a slight crowding,
hug you, take you in your arms
shake

After all, before the baby was in exactly these conditions: constant movement, dim light, cramped conditions, noise. And it is precisely such conditions that will associatively help him calm down. Therefore, falling asleep and sleeping a child in your arms for up to 3-4 months is quite acceptable as long as the so-called fourth trimester of “gestation” continues.

The most important thing for parents in the period up to three months is to equip the baby’s sleeping place safely!

A safe place to sleep.

This is a place where a baby cannot suffocate, burying his nose in soft bedding, where there is a fairly hard mattress and a complete absence of any unnecessary objects. After all, the crib should be associated with sleep, not with games.

A safe bed is an empty bed!

A crib without soft bumpers, pillows and blankets.
Instead of a blanket, it is better to use a sleeping bag.
Hard mattress
Lack of toys
Location of the crib: not near the window or radiator, but close to the parent’s.

The location of the crib is the very moment from which you need to teach your child to get used to the crib. Until the age of 6 months, a crib without a side is suitable for a baby. Thus, on the one hand, the mother and baby will have a single space, but on the other, the child will still be in his own safe territory.

How to transfer a baby to a crib?

But how can you transfer a baby to a crib if, when you transfer it from your arms, he immediately wakes up?

Up to 3-4 months, the baby still needs help from his mother when falling asleep, so falling asleep in his arms is normal at this age.

It is better to shift the baby in a diaper or in a diaper -. This way, it will be easier for the baby not to feel the temperature difference between the arm and the crib.

Use when falling asleep

By the time you finish, try to keep your movements as smooth and calm as possible, close to a static position so that it is easier for the baby to get used to the static position of the crib.

Do not transfer the baby from your arms right away, wait until the breathing becomes deeper

At the moment of sleep, stay close to the baby and the crib, shush, quietly sing a song, touch your baby. This is important because the presence of a mother is very calming.

Gradually help your baby learn to fall asleep on his own

A certain distance from the mother when the baby is sleeping in the crib is one of the reasons for restless sleep in the crib, and if you let the baby feel his mother’s presence, his sleep will be more peaceful.

Starting from 5-6 months of the baby, you can reduce your assistance. One of the main aspects of sleep training is sleeping in a crib. In order for a child to sleep peacefully in a crib, after mom or dad puts him there, he must see and “be aware” of the place in which he finds himself. In this case, waking up will not cause anxiety (“Where am I?”), and the child will have much more opportunities to fall asleep without active mother’s help.

The baby sleeps only in his arms, because he simply does not know that he can fall asleep any other way. The task of parents is to gently and carefully give the baby a new experience of falling asleep.

The expression “The child does not like the crib” is not a correct statement. Kids in general are very conservative and “love” what is familiar and familiar to them. If a child is used to sleeping in his arms, he will love to sleep like this. If his parents helped him get used to not sleeping in his arms, but in a crib, he will love the crib, and not sleep in his arms.

The most important point in teaching a baby in a crib is the sequence of his actions. Consistency is their predictability and repetition from day to day. If parents act differently, it is much more difficult for the child to understand what they want from him.

And the most important thing in the parents’ mood is their inner calm, which is undoubtedly transmitted to the baby, helping him to sleep peacefully.

The child refuses to sleep in his own crib, protesting in every possible way against being placed in a cradle. He cries, is capricious, screams, causing irritation and a feeling of helplessness in his parents.

Why does a baby fall into a sweet sleep only in his mother’s arms? Doesn't this indicate certain violations? What to do if an infant falls asleep only in your arms? There are quite a lot of questions, which is why a separate article is worth devoting to the problem of a “tame” baby.

The high need of a newborn baby for feeding and sleep is well known. The baby can spend up to 20 hours a day in a “sleeping” state. However, babies fall asleep differently.

Some children are immersed in the “embrace of Morpheus” as soon as they drink their mother’s milk, while others have to be lulled to sleep, rocked in their arms until they deign to close their eyes.

Thus, the process of putting a newborn or an older baby to bed begins to turn not into a pleasant ritual, but into daily hard labor. Moreover, problems happen both day and night.

The main signs of sleep problems are: in the following way:

a newborn baby categorically does not want to fall asleep on his own, so the mother has to come up with some tricks - for example, rocking him to sleep for a long time;
a baby can fall asleep in his arms almost instantly, but always wakes up as soon as his mother tries to put him in his own bed;
the newborn seems to fall asleep, but only when he feels the close presence of his mother, as soon as she moves away, he instantly awakens.

In especially severe cases, mothers are forced to doze in a sitting position, holding their baby in their arms. There is no talk of proper rest, since women are afraid of dropping the child and injuring him.

To understand how to wean a child from falling asleep in your arms, you need to understand the background of such behavior. Usually, the reasons for not wanting to go to bed are common to many children.

Why does a child sleep in his arms?

The underlying, one might even say fundamental, reason for this behavior is the child’s desire to be close to his mother. Having been born, the baby finds himself in a world alien to him, replete with unfamiliar aromas, sounds and objects.

Both a newborn and even an infant at 2 or 3 months feels a certain discomfort and fear while outside the mother’s womb. Calm comes only if his mother holds him close to her, and he has the opportunity to hear her heart beating.

According to psychologists, a constant sense of maternal presence allows a child to grow up more self-sufficient and self-confident. From early childhood, he develops basic trust in the world, a sense of security and high self-esteem.

The psychology of children at 2 or 3 months is such that when they close their eyes, they cease to perceive the world around them. And along with reality, not only objects disappear, but also the mother - the closest person to the baby on earth.

The result of such psychological characteristics of babies is the following that worries some mothers: patterns:

the child closes his eyes → the world around him disappears → the baby begins to feel fear → smells and embraces his mother → the fear goes away;
the baby is lying in the crib → the mother is standing nearby → he is fighting sleep on a subconscious level so as not to lose his mother → the eyes close, the mother disappears → the child cries, attracting attention to himself.

In addition, the desire to fall asleep exclusively in mother's arms can be caused by a banal malaise - colic, increased gas production, a cold. All this leads to increased child anxiety and the desire to be close to the mother.

You can often come across advice that, they say, stop following the lead of infants. You just need to put the child in the crib, and then boldly leave the room and not listen to loud screams and roars, because this is just a child’s whim.

This opinion is not entirely correct. A baby of 2 or 3 months is an extremely dependent creature on its mother, not only physiologically, but also psychologically. A two-month-old child is not yet able to understand that his mother, who has gone into the next room, will return in 5 to 10 minutes.

His instincts make him “think” that he is left alone. Even a 3-year-old child, having let his mother out of his eyes in a store or on the beach, will begin to cry, since this event is extremely traumatic for him. What can we say about a three-month-old toddler?

However, there is another extreme - at the very first squeak of a child, parents rush to the crib, pull out the child and begin to frantically rock him to sleep, trying to achieve his complete calm.

Such parental reactions are also not always adequate to the situation, since children's crying is completely natural and, moreover, the only way to communicate with the outside world. Perhaps the baby just raised his voice, showing that he was uncomfortable, but would calm down very soon.

It is necessary to subtly feel your child, his cry, since the motive for crying can be different. Some people really only cry in “emergency” situations and needs. Others, from a young age, become manipulators, forcing their mother to come at the first peep.

What should a mother do if the child sleeps only in her arms? Focus on it peculiarities:

If he screams loudly and for a long time, you need to take him in your arms, talk gently, and gently rock him. Such actions are sure to calm even the most restless baby;
If he falls asleep in your arms, but tolerates being placed in a crib quite well, you need to sing lullabies to him more often so that he feels maternal closeness.

How to stop a child from falling asleep in your arms?

What should a mother do in this case? Will she really have to give up other household chores and responsibilities in order to constantly lull the baby to sleep and not let him out of her arms? Agree, this is extremely difficult, especially since the baby is gradually gaining body weight.

In order for the baby to fall asleep peacefully in the crib, it is necessary to satisfy his need for contact with his mother during the day (and at night) by any means. Experienced mothers and specialists bring a few recommendations:

To constantly feel the mother's body, you can carry the baby in a sling. This device will also help relieve stress from your back and free your hands to do housework.
Another effective method is co-sleeping. In the first weeks of a child’s life, experts advise placing a baby crib next to the parent’s bed so that the baby feels maternal closeness and feels comfortable and safe.
It is better to swaddle a newborn before falling asleep. The position with the arms and legs pressed to the body is similar to the intrauterine state, and this creates a feeling of security in the baby. In this case, the child falls asleep much faster and wakes up less often.
If at night, exhausting your mother with constant whims and crying, you can change the routine. You should not put your baby to bed during the day; in this case, he will fall asleep more likely in the evening. It’s just important not to overdo it with daily activity.

You should also worry about purchasing a comfortable crib with bedding that is pleasant to the touch. And so that the child can quickly get used to his personal furniture, you can put his mother’s thing in it. The baby will feel a familiar aroma and fall asleep faster.

To teach your baby to fall asleep on his own, you need to create a habit of darkness in your baby. For example, during the day the windows in the room are tightly curtained. As a result, the child develops a reflex - it’s dark, which means he needs to fall asleep.

But motion sickness should be treated with extreme caution. The baby may get used to such movements and generally stop sleeping without first rocking.

If a child at both 3 and 6 months continues to scream when put to bed and asks to be held back in his mother’s arms, and none of the methods described above work, you should seek psychological help.

Among the most popular advice from experts are: Some useful tips:

You should not sharply deny your baby affection by rejecting his request to be held in your arms. As already mentioned, tactile contact has a positive effect on the development of children.
It is necessary to improve children's curiosity and thinking by tilting the baby over various objects and bringing it, for example, to shelves. In this case, the child will cease to be interested exclusively in the mother’s hands.
It is important to demonstrate love and tenderness not just with hugs, but also with gentle massage, kisses, touches and other stroking movements.
Day after day, it is necessary to learn to distinguish manipulative crying from tears that are caused by completely objective reasons (hunger, wet diapers, fear, etc.).
If a sleeping baby suddenly cries and screams, you should not immediately pick him up. Most likely, he will calm down on his own after two or three minutes.
Try to establish a clear daily routine that will form a good “tradition” of falling asleep at a strictly defined time. To do this, it is useful to bathe the baby and give him a massage before falling asleep.
Long walks in the fresh air are especially beneficial. Despite the fact that it is too early to talk about high activity, new experiences will help the baby fall asleep faster and without motion sickness.

When trying to saturate your child’s day with information and physical activity as much as possible, it is important not to overdo it. Otherwise, the baby may become overexcited and not close his eyes at all. That is why it is necessary to give up noisy games a couple of hours before bedtime.

How to transfer a baby to a crib?

It often happens that children seem to have already fallen asleep in their mother’s arms, but when they try to put them in bed, they suddenly wake up. At the same time, some babies do not cry, but simply carefully examine the tired mother and the surrounding environment.

It will be useful for parents to know how to teach their child. The psychologist will tell you what training methods exist and how to avoid common mistakes.

before you lull the child in your arms, you need to slip a diaper under his cheek so that he can cover part of his face, his shoulder, and one side of his stomach;
When the baby closes his eyes, you need to sit with him for about 5 - 10 minutes. He is probably not sleeping yet, but only dozing, so you should wait until his sleep is more sound;
Once you are convinced of the baby’s “serious intentions,” you need to transfer him to the cradle along with the diaper in such a way that his head continues to be on the fabric with his cheek, as when rocking to sleep.

Don't forget to swaddle your babies at night. When the mother holds the baby in her arms, he is in a cramped and confined space, and when he puts him to bed, the child feels excessive freedom. The upper and lower limbs begin to move, as a result of which the baby awakens even against his will.

As a conclusion

Of course, regularly holding a bottle in your arms is very tiring, since the baby becomes even more plump every day. That is why it is necessary to ensure a close connection between mother and child in other, less burdensome ways.

Experts recommend holding your baby close to you more often. For example, at night you can put him in a crib located next to his parents’ bed, or wear him in a sling. In this case, after going to bed, the babies sleep more peacefully and do not wake up as often.

Such measures allow parents to use pens less often in order to “force” the child to fall asleep. The baby, having had enough of interacting with his mother during the day, quickly closes his eyes, without fear of being left without her warmth and smell.

Well, it’s also important to understand that falling asleep in your arms is not forever. Very soon the child will outgrow this habit, and the mother will begin to remember with nostalgia that her baby once clung tightly to her, and did not run away, trying to become more independent and independent.

The main activities of a newborn baby are eating and sleeping. Both of these processes require the participation of the mother, and if with food everything is more or less simple, then sleep sometimes becomes a real problem. Sometimes the sleep of a beloved baby begins to disturb the mother, when the child falls asleep and sleeps only in her arms, and as soon as you try to put the baby in a crib (or stroller), he immediately wakes up and has to be rocked to sleep again. Mom is forced to either sleep half-sitting, for fear of dropping the baby, or not sleep at all. There are understandable reasons for this child’s behavior, without understanding which it is impossible to “untie” the mother’s hands. We will talk about them.

Why does he sleep in his arms

The need for constant physical contact with the mother for the baby is undeniable. Being in the arms and feeling the mother's warmth, the newborn baby calms down and feels safe. Psychologists studying issues of attachment between mother and child have found that children who have the opportunity to endlessly enjoy their mother’s touch grow up more successful, self-confident, and strong. They learn the postulate from birth “This world needs me, they love me here”.

Sleep for a child is a special state. Children live "Here and now". The child closes his eyes - and the world ceases to exist for him, and the world for him is, first of all, his mother. Therefore, the situation of falling asleep in itself is already alarming for the baby. The desire not only to fall asleep in your arms, but also to remain there for the entire duration of sleep, can be caused by various reasons: poor health, emotional overexcitement, or encountering some kind of traumatic situation (quarrels at home, tension between family members). The reasons may be completely different, but they have a common root: the child experiences severe anxiety and does not feel safe even in his sleep.

There is an opinion that you can get used to sleeping in your arms if you often take the baby in your arms in the first weeks of life and rock him (Cm ). Out of fear of hand training, some mothers ignore the baby's crying and restlessness, leaving the baby to fall asleep alone in the crib, exhausted by long cries. After a while, such children actually begin to fall asleep on their own and calmly agree to sleep separately (sometimes even in a separate room), however, there is nothing good about this. The child resigns himself to the fact that he cannot receive mother’s warmth, and the baby can no longer form a reliable, secure attachment to his mother.

8 ways to put your baby to sleep

By following a few simple steps, you can help your baby finally relax and fall asleep.

What should mom do?

However, no matter how natural the child’s desires may be, for a mother a baby sleeping only in her arms is very difficult, and trying to wean the baby from this habit means going against nature. How to be? The best way is not to separate the child from your arms (Cm ), but try to satiate this need for contact in other ways so that the child becomes ready to sleep in the crib.

Try to hold your baby in your arms as often as possible while awake. It turns out to be very useful for this purpose. In a sling, the baby is pressed against the mother with his whole body, feels her warmth and is aware of all events. At the same time, the mother does not experience enormous stress and inconvenience, as if the child was in her arms.
Don't give up co-sleeping with your baby. If you practice co-sleeping from birth, the child will have no fear of separation from his mother, because from the first days he will feel that his mother is nearby. In this case, the need to be and even sleep in your arms will not be so painful (Link to the article about when to teach a baby to sleep separately above).
If co-sleeping is unacceptable for you, try to properly organize your baby's sleeping place. Instead of a spacious one that is disproportionate to the baby’s body, buy a cradle, and don’t give up swaddling for sleep. Of course, all these measures will not replace mother’s hands, but in such conditions the child will be much calmer and more comfortable. The fact is that safety for the baby is associated with its presence in the mother’s belly: the mother’s womb tightly hugs the baby, its arms and legs are pressed to the body. In a crib and without a diaper, the child does not feel the boundaries around him, this intensifies his fears and discomfort, he has difficulty falling asleep and sleeps restlessly, constantly demanding his mother’s attention (read).
Babies are very sensitive to odors, so you can put some of your mother’s clothes next to your sleeping baby. Familiar smells will lull the baby's vigilance.

Swaddling and how to put your baby to sleep

All these measures are unlikely to be able to completely relieve the mother of the need to rock and sleep the baby in her arms, but they can make the “tame” period easier for the mother and give her the opportunity to sometimes rest. Sleeping in arms will remain only for cases of increased need to be close to mommy, and will cease to be a constant occurrence in the life of the family.

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(in his crib)

Sleep is a natural need of the body, and this process is of great importance, especially for children's health. Many mothers are concerned about whether their child is getting enough rest, because it is known that lack of sleep can negatively affect his development and overall health. But at the same time, it is harmful to sleep for a large amount of time. Of course, each baby has its own physical and mental characteristics, but today there are generally accepted sleep standards for children, according to which at a certain age a child should rest the required number of hours a day. So how much do children sleep at 3 months, and how to accustom little fidgets to a routine?

As the child grows, the baby's needs change, including the need for rest. But how much should a baby sleep at three months?

Sleep standards for a 3 month old baby

At the age of 3 months, the child usually already has a daily routine with alternating sleep and wakefulness. Mom should be guided by these hours in order to stick to the schedule in the future. A three-month-old baby already falls asleep and wakes up at the same time, and at night his sleep is more sound and restful, and during the day the baby begins to rest less often.

The figures given are average values and slight deviations from these parameters are allowed. The following sleep indicators are typical for an infant aged 3 months:

total rest time per day – 14-16 hours;
at night – 10-12 hours;
during the day – 4-5 hours. At the same time, the baby sleeps twice a day for 1-2 hours and twice for half an hour or 40 minutes.

There is no need to worry if your child sleeps a little more or, conversely, less, because everyone has individual needs. The main guidelines for the mother are the health of the baby, his activity during the day and his mood.

Despite the fact that some parents believe that there is no need to adhere to any norms, and the child should sleep as much as he wants, many scientists and doctors, including Komarovsky, argue that every parent is obliged to know these norms. This is necessary in order to:

the newborn did not have hyperfatigue or, conversely, manifestations of hyperactivity;
there was no feeling of overwork;
the baby was not capricious during the day and was in a good mood;
parents knew for sure that the child rested for a sufficient number of hours, as this affects his development and general well-being.

Healthy sleep is very important for a child, since the lack of necessary rest or its untimeliness immediately affects the baby’s well-being

Sample daily routine

The child's daily routine can be determined at the discretion of his parents. The recommendations below will help you create the most appropriate schedule, taking into account the individual physical characteristics and character of the baby. As we can see from the table, the schedule is calculated based on the fact that the baby wakes up at the most comfortable time for the mother - at 8 o’clock in the morning.

What should your nap be like during the day?

A child aged 3 months rests much less than a month-old baby. During this period, on average, he spends from 40 minutes to 90 minutes on rest. Sometimes during the day he can sleep up to 2-4 hours, although in general three hours of sleep will be more than enough. This time will be enough to restore your strength and, upon waking up, again explore the world around you.

While the baby is sleeping during the day, mom can have time to do household chores or just relax by taking a walk in the park

How can parents tell when it's time for their children to rest during the day? You need to look at the behavior: if the child becomes less active, begins to be capricious, cry, yawn and rub his eyes with his hands, then this indicates his fatigue and desire to sleep. First of all, at this moment the parent needs to calm the child, rock him in her arms, feed him or give him a pacifier.

During the warm season, you need to spend as much time as possible outside with your child. At the same time, daytime naps during a walk are very useful for the baby. He falls asleep faster, rests fully and calmly. To sleep in the fresh air, it is not at all necessary to go for a walk in the yard; if possible, you can simply take the stroller out onto the balcony and rock the baby there, and when he falls asleep, go about your business. The most important thing is to cover the stroller with a light mesh so that the baby’s sleep is not disturbed by insects, and protect him from direct sunlight.

How much sleep does a three month old baby need at night?

Every mother should know that regular sleep plays an important role in the baby’s proper rest, so you should always put your baby to bed at the same time.

The most suitable time to prepare for a night's sleep is considered to be from nine in the evening to half past nine. If the child goes to bed later, he will fall asleep for a long time, his sleep may be restless, and in the morning the baby may wake up in a broken state and be capricious during the day. It is for this reason that even when the baby is extremely active in the evening and does not want to go to bed at all, the mother must calm him down and put him to sleep. This usually takes about half an hour.

A three-month-old baby still needs a lot of sleep, but the time for sleep, based on the individual characteristics of the child and the daily routine chosen by the mother, is different for everyone

It is important to know that a 3-month-old baby needs to sleep at least 10-12 hours at night. This means that the morning rise will be early - about 6-7 hours. In order for the baby to rest fully, it is necessary to maintain the temperature in the room and ventilate the room immediately before putting the baby to bed. As Dr. Komarovsky advises, the room temperature should be no lower than 18-20 degrees, humidity – 50-70%.

Also, for a child to fall asleep quickly and have a restful sleep, a comfortable environment is necessary. He will feel safe if the environment is quiet and there are no bright lights shining in his eyes and waking him up. Many experts recommend not even turning on a lamp at night, because if your baby suddenly wakes up in the middle of the night, it will be more difficult for him to fall asleep even in low light. Mom should turn on the night light only when necessary.

You need to remember that your baby can wake up several times during the night. Sometimes he sleeps restlessly because he is hungry (more details in the article:). Other common causes are stuffiness or cold in the room, insects in the room, and extraneous noise. Once these stimuli are eliminated, the baby will go back to sleep. This way he will get used to regular long rests at night.

Reasons why a child does not want to fall asleep

At three months old, a baby already shows interest in the surrounding reality: he loves to communicate with his mother, look at objects in the room, and pick up toys hanging above the crib. If your baby has had a lot of new experiences during the day, it will be more difficult for him to fall asleep at night or during the day. In addition, there are other serious reasons why a child may have difficulty falling asleep and then wake up frequently.

Does your baby sleep poorly and is capricious (more details in the article:)? Perhaps he is not feeling well. The mother needs to analyze the baby’s behavior and, if necessary, call a doctor.

Why does a child have difficulty falling asleep?

The microclimate in the room has a great impact on the quality of a baby's sleep. If the room is cold, hot, or has not been ventilated immediately before your baby rests, he will likely have trouble sleeping.
The child does not feel well. After 3 months, as a rule, the baby no longer suffers from intestinal colic, and teeth appear extremely rarely at such an early age, so anything can be the cause of poor health. Your baby may act restless because he is experiencing discomfort or pain. If the mother cannot cope with the baby’s nervousness, rock him to sleep and put him to sleep, several factors need to be analyzed. First of all, remember how long the child slept last night and during the day, whether he woke up often or not, and whether the baby has a good appetite. If it is discovered that the child has a fever or the first signs of a cold have appeared, you need to contact a pediatrician as soon as possible, who will make an accurate diagnosis and prescribe treatment.
The atmosphere in the home greatly influences the quality of a child's sleep. The little family member reacts sharply to everything that happens around him. Negative emotions affect the baby’s psyche and his state, and if love dominates the house, peace and quiet is maintained, the baby will feel safe and quickly fall asleep.
The baby will not be able to sleep sweetly and for a long time if he is hungry, so the mother must feed her child before bedtime or evening sleep.

Even for an adult it is difficult to fall asleep hungry, and even more so for a baby. Therefore, it is important to monitor your child’s food needs. In addition, breastfeeding calms the baby, and he falls asleep faster

How to get your baby to sleep

Here are some tips to help moms improve their baby's sleep:

No one else knows their child as well as a mother. She understands how important it is to calm the baby and get him to sleep. To do this, you can bathe the baby in a bath with medicinal herbs, tell or read him a good fairy tale, or sing a lullaby. Over time, the baby will develop the habit of not only going to bed at the same time, but also by certain actions of the mother to determine that the rest period has begun.
It is necessary to create conditions for a relaxing holiday. The clothes in which the child sleeps also play an important role. He shouldn't be hot or cold. In the summer, if the window opens, you must hang a mosquito net and prevent flies and mosquitoes from flying into the house.
It is necessary to adhere to the established daily routine. If sleep, feeding, and wakefulness are carried out at the same time every day, the child will get used to the schedule and will fall asleep much faster.
It is not recommended to accustom a child to sleep in his mother's arms. Otherwise, he will have trouble falling asleep on his own in a crib.
From an early age, a child must be taught to distinguish between day and night. He must understand that day is a time of wakefulness, when everyone is minding their own business, and night is a time of rest, when darkness sets in outside the window, silence is observed in the house, and the whole world rests.

No specialist can give a clear answer to how long a 3-month-old baby should sleep day and night (more details in the article:). Personality, activity level and other individual characteristics affect how much rest a baby gets. The main task of parents is to create all the necessary conditions for proper rest of the little person during the daytime.

Co-sleeping between baby and mother

Sleeping together between mother and child has both advantages and disadvantages. The choice whether to sleep with the baby or not remains with the parents.

Pediatric doctors and pediatric sleep specialists have differing opinions on whether a mother can sleep with her baby and why it is important to do so. Some say that such rest is extremely necessary, others argue that it can be harmful. There are both advantages and disadvantages of mother and baby sharing daytime and nighttime rest. We will present some of them below.

Why co-sleeping is so important:

firstly, the baby thus gets used to his mother, gets to know her better, and develops a sense of trust in her;
secondly, a child feels safe next to an adult and, first of all, with a parent, he is much warmer and more comfortable;
thirdly, close physical contact between the baby, who is 3 months old, and the mother contributes to better production of breast milk.

Cons of co-sleeping:

if a mother always sleeps with her baby, then he will often ask for the breast and, as a result, will begin to overeat;
the mother may be afraid that, having fallen asleep, she will crush the child or not notice how he falls out of bed;
Due to frequent feeding while sleeping together, the baby may have digestive problems and develop obesity.

For this reason, experts recommend that if you decide to put your three-month-old baby to sleep separately, teach him to fall asleep on his own. How to ensure healthy sleep for your child is described above. By following the recommendations, you can teach your child to sleep at the same time, and proper rest will have a positive effect on his development and well-being.