It happens that when we begin an interaction with another person, we realize that we haven’t even had time to open our mouth, but the interlocutor already dislikes us. This happens if our counterpart’s attitude towards us is biased. What does bias mean, and can you change the situation in your favor? Albert Einstein said: “In this sad world it is easier to split an atom than to overcome prejudice.” However, you can try. This is exactly what will be discussed in the article.

What is Prejudice?

A biased attitude means that a person has made some conclusions about our personality even before we had time to express ourselves.

Such an attitude can be based on a variety of stereotypes or prejudices - for example, about nationality, gender, age, external data, profession, religion, education, social status, political views, behavior...

This attitude may be explained by ordinary psychological incompatibility or personal hostility, also by negative experiences in the past or the obsessive opinions of others. Sometimes even primitive incompatibility of tastes can lead to people treating each other negatively and stereotypically.

Some examples of showing bias:

• A middle-aged man listens to a young interlocutor with half an ear, because he is convinced in advance that he cannot say anything smart - he is too young. Although in reality it turns out that the “green” one is quite capable of giving a head start to the “gray-haired” one in wisdom and intelligence.
• A woman will not be able to lead a male team - she will not have enough strong-willed qualities and fortitude, she will not be able to gain authority. Although it may well be that the lady successfully coped with a similar task in the past.
• People around her believe that the beautiful girl is not distinguished by extraordinary mental abilities. And it’s the same as if she runs a research institute.
• People see a banker and think he is greedy; journalist - and they fall silent, believing that you can’t tell him anything, etc.
• The employer does not want to hire a woman after maternity leave because he is sure that she does not remember anything except recipes for milk porridges. But in fact, she could work every day of her maternity leave, thanks to which she not only did not lose, but also improved her professional qualities.
• A jury member judges a competition participant not by his achievements, but based on his personal opinion about the person himself.

Why is this important

To be prejudiced means to deprive a person of a chance completely undeservedly. For example, a chance to get a good job, develop a warm friendship or even a love relationship with him and create a wonderful family... Being biased, a person becomes an unfair, limited, uninteresting interlocutor. It’s not easy to believe, but it is a prejudiced attitude that is the first step to such terrible phenomena as intolerance, fanaticism, wars, genocides...

Few of us are able to please everyone - after all, we are not hundred dollar bills, we have our own characteristics, and are not compatible with everyone.

But if relationships with a person are important to us - for example, they are beneficial to us or simply desirable, we can still try to achieve objectivity. In several ways.

Find out the relationship

This is the simplest and boldest way to express your true self. If we see that a person has made some conclusions about us even before we had time to say a word, we can directly ask what is wrong, offer to ask direct questions about his personality, and if the interlocutor meets us halfway, we can answer as sincerely as possible. answer them.

• For example, a young man in a dirty T-shirt and the same shorts sees a girl on the embankment and wants to invite her for coffee. She, noticing the guy’s appearance, just wrinkles her nose and turns away. If you like the girl too much, it may make sense to directly ask whether her clothes are repelling her from the flirt, and explain her unsightly appearance - for example, a friend asked for help with moving. And then invite you to meet in the evening, promising to dress decently.
• Or, say, a university graduate comes for an interview and sees that the employer, having learned about the lack of experience, has already given up on him as a candidate. It makes sense to directly ask whether this worries the company representative, and tell them - even if there is no work experience, but they have excellent grades in their diploma, experience in internships, participation in social projects, an interesting topic for their thesis, energy, enthusiasm and the ability to learn at the speed of light.

Prove by deed

This is the surest way to dispel doubts about yourself - with the help of specific results.

If we are given such a chance, we can convey the truth to others not in verbal form, but in real deeds.

Actions towards people and achievements in a professional environment are much more revealing than inspired stories about yourself and your legendary qualities.

For example, if the boss believes that the employee is a real lazy person and incompetent, but the results of the annual performance assessment indicate that this is not at all the case, and he has far from the worst result in the department. Only a tyrant would argue with the conclusions - alas, there are many of them, but often objective indicators can still convince.

The third one is not superfluous

Sometimes, to overcome the bias of someone whose opinion is important to us, we need to call on others to help. For example, if the boss gave a low rating to our work, we can ask two or three more experts to provide their independent opinions, and based on them, contact the boss with a request to reconsider his own.

Of course, this does not apply to everyone - there are people who will only be angered by such antics. But there are also those who are wise enough to admit their mistake, if it really happened.

Call for diversity

It is not without reason that developed communities, including efficient companies, have adopted the so-called concept of flexibility and diversity. According to it, it is believed that the more people in a team or group who differ in a variety of parameters (gender, nationality, age, views, temperament, experience, skills), the better. Because these people are able to look at a problem from different angles, propose different solutions and find the optimal one among them.

You can appeal to this argument when trying to convey to a person - for example, a boss, the idea: just because you are different does not mean that one of you is bad. This, on the contrary, benefits all participants in the process.

Listen

They say there is no smoke without fire. According to this logic, if a person thinks badly of us, then there is definitely a rational grain in his opinion. Experience suggests that this is not always the case.

However, it still makes sense to pay attention. Maybe there really is something in our behavior that makes people think wrong about us?

Wave your hand

Alas, this tactic is often the only possible one. If you want to change the situation, but the person does not make contact and stubbornly refuses to be objective, you just have to stop paying attention and live with it in parallel. Because no one can transplant their own thoughts.

In addition, it is always useful to remember: there are people who like to gossip, slander, and humiliate. But this is their own business.

Frequently asked questions and answers

I am biased towards people, what should I do?

It is necessary to understand the reasons for this perception. Most often, this is done by those who are accustomed to thinking in stereotypes or classifying people. For example, when someone you know earns a huge amount of money and lives with a much younger spouse, you pre-impose a pattern on the situation. If you previously knew a person in prison who offended you, now you will see each of them as a threat. Fear and expectation of the worst will lead to fear and prejudice towards those sitting. Often the opinion is wrong. You cannot project your expectations onto the actions of others. You should analyze what kind of person is in front of you, what past experience he has and how he lives now. This will help you perceive reality more easily. It's best not to set expectations. Let the situation and relationships with people be built as they should be, without stereotypical thinking and prejudices. Reduce requests. Try to notice the best sides of people around you and not label them.

Unbiased attitude, how is that?

An unbiased attitude is built on trust in others. You don't expect anything in advance. You allow a person to open up and show their strengths. Of course, there are certain patterns of thinking, reactions, behavior, but sometimes people can surprise. Evaluate people, use your experience, but do not allow yourself to label a person in advance. An open-minded attitude is acceptance of a person. You don't blame him in advance.

Preconceived opinion, what is that?

Prejudice is an accusation or justification of other people, their actions, actions, reactions, social status. You can either overestimate something, or, conversely, underestimate it in advance. Typically, the assessment is based on previous experience. For example, you think that everyone who goes to work by subway is low-income people. Thus, you don’t even admit that the metro eliminates standing in traffic jams, saves travel time, or can be a favorite mode of transport. A preconceived opinion is based on a piece of information about something or someone. Because information is incomplete, biases often lead to mistakes, conflicts and disappointments.

What does the word "bias" mean?

Bias is a biased assessment of someone or something. It is based on prejudice, prejudice, previous experience, information obtained from unreliable sources or bias. It can overestimate and perceive something, or underestimate it.

Biased view, what is it?

This is a view of things that was formed in advance. A biased view can appear before meeting someone, visiting a place or institution, reading a book, watching a movie, or getting a job. You have not yet allowed the person to open up, but you have already formed an opinion about him. It can be both positive and negative. Preconception is a judgement.

Prejudice at work, what to do?

If you suffer from bias at work, you have the power to change it. A frank conversation with those who have formed an opinion about you in advance, time, and closer acquaintance can change the situation. For example, you can organize a party. Or invite those who have not yet gotten to know you better to your place. Getting closer, conversations, dialogue will help. If there was an incorrect assessment of you as an employee, prove the opposite. Take on the task and complete it, show that you are an expert and professional in your field. If you have a preconceived opinion about your colleague or boss, try changing your rating. Try to see the benefits. Accept the other person, evaluate him realistically, without starting from the information received about him earlier.

What kind of "unbiased person"?

An unbiased person is characterized by what he does not evaluate. He accepts the world around him as it is. Such a person looks at facts without being guided by past experience, information, prejudice, racial or other prejudices. His assessment is fair. He does not expect certain reactions, behavior or attitudes from a person. Finding himself in an environment that is foreign to him, an unbiased person sees the positive and negative sides equally and only then makes his assessment. Poor service in one of the restaurant chains does not mean that the situation will repeat itself in the same restaurant, only in Kyiv. The ability to take life lightly improves a person’s emotional state. An open-minded person is much less likely to be disappointed. He doesn't expect anything in advance.

What is a synonym for the phrase "bias"?

A synonym for a biased attitude is: prejudice, prejudice, assessment, judgment, verdict, expectation of something, subjective attitude or assessment, partiality, one-sidedness, limitation, biased perception.

What is the antonym for the word "biased"?

Antonyms for the word “biased” are: objectively, comprehensively, acceptance of something or someone, impartially, impartially, fairly, in accordance with merit, without evaluation.

The boss's biased attitude, what to do?

Often, even before your first day at work, your boss has already formed an opinion about you. It arose from someone’s warnings, from an analysis of your resume, level of education, work experience and even appearance. The boss's attitude can be either positive or vice versa. In both cases, it can harm your career. In the first weeks of work, show your best side. The boss's biased attitude will change. In which direction depends only on you. If it was based on the perception of your appearance, think about whether it’s worth changing. For example, you are tall, slender, dyed blonde. Do you like the way you look, but your boss or boss doesn’t perceive blondes positively, only brunettes? Then think about whether it’s worth adapting to their taste. If your rating is lower than you deserve, due to your style or makeup (overly flashy appearance, revealing outfits, “blue stocking” look), analyze how your colleagues go to work. Evaluate yourself from the outside. Change your style and your look. So the opinion about you will change literally immediately. Separate the bias between assessing you as a specialist, as a person, and assessing your appearance. The main thing in work is professionalism. Assessing personality traits (character, temperament, etc.) is important in building relationships with loved ones, friends, and relatives. And appearance is purely your business, if it is not neglected or, conversely, not too vulgar.

Positive bias, what is it?

Positive bias is built on a high pre-assessment. Even before meeting someone, visiting a place, or buying something, a positive opinion has already been formed. The problem is that disappointment from incorrect expectations can be painful. It will affect the assessment in the future. For example, based on the good recommendations of his comrades, the boss is preparing to hire an excellent specialist. Although, it turns out that he is undisciplined, received his education “for money” and humiliates his subordinates. To avoid making mistakes, you should perceive someone or something without judgment. Allow yourself to express yourself. Look at the situation objectively.

Prejudiced attitude towards women, what to do?

If a man has a prejudiced attitude towards women, one should analyze where it came from. This could be a bad marriage, a bad relationship with a mother or sister, or being raised by a father who was disappointed in women or saw them only as sex objects. Infidelity from ex-loved ones, lies, quarrels, and a negative past also have an impact. Only the man himself can change his attitude. He must learn to perceive women not as a whole, but as individuals, with their own character, experience, appearance, the right to decide and change. High or low expectations should be a thing of the past. Treat a woman as a person. Evaluate what she is like as a hostess, interlocutor, and friend. Sometimes a fat woman is not from a good appetite, but from hormonal therapy, and a redhead is not necessarily liberated. Try to understand her. Accept her for who she is.

Biased defense, what is it?

Biased defense doesn't necessarily have to do with lawyers. Often this is the attitude of a mother to a child, a boss to a pretty colleague, a wife to her husband. For example, a mother, knowing about her son’s cruelty, will justify him, even if he ends up in a pre-trial detention center. She will find excuses for his behavior, despite the facts. Or a wife defends her husband who beats her, seeing signs of love in his behavior. This is because everyone believes in what they want. Biased defense is formed on subjective perception. It seems to the person that his assessment is correct. He pushes away from her, ignoring reality. Such defense not only harms the biased person, but also what or who he is defending.

Conclusion

Conclusion

Prejudice is a very real problem that can lead to negative consequences, both in the life of the bearer of a biased opinion and its object. This attitude, if it has any significance, can be tried to change. This is not always possible, but trying, as they say, is not torture.

• Why is bias dangerous?

How often do we face unfair treatment from people who, in fact, know nothing about us? How often do we ourselves become blind hostages of bias? This happens all the time - we are all, to one degree or another, blessed with a lack of prejudice.

Bias is a biased opinion formed on the basis of stereotypes, a pre-made decision that is based not on specific facts and arguments, but on a personal emotional attitude. The antonym of bias is impartiality - the ability to make decisions based only on logic and expediency, without the participation of feelings, emotions and imposed cliches.

If we take prejudice apart, we come to the conclusion that it is not a pure product of human stupidity or depravity - rather, it should be called a side effect of logical processes. As already mentioned, bias is built on the basis of stereotypes (read “ What are stereotypes"), and they, in turn, follow from inductive conclusions: “The bus driver was rude to me - that means all bus drivers are boors.” This logical fallacy is based on the fact that inductive inferences are correct in no more than 80% of cases.

A prejudiced attitude towards a person can be based on a number of typical criteria - gender, age, physique, skin color, religion, wealth, etc. Let's remember a few stereotypes that gave rise to the monsters of prejudice:

• all blondes are stupid;
• all Muslims are terrorists;
• all old people don’t know how to use computers;
• all fat people are clumsy;
• all dark-skinned people need to beware;
• all rich people acquired their wealth by dishonest means;
• and many, many others.

As you understand, these statements are only partly true, since all people are different. There are Muslims who blow up planes, and there are loving husbands and fathers who speak out against violence. There are older programmers. And female PhDs with charming straw-colored hair. And even honest businessmen.

But how much trouble does bias based on these stereotypes bring us! How much hatred we can pour on a person just because he has a different skin color; how many ridiculous comments beautiful women endure regarding their professionalism; how decent men suffer from the mistrust of their offended girlfriends, who are sure that “men only need one thing” and “they are all scum.”

Why is bias dangerous?

• a biased person is not able to objectively assess the situation and make the right decisions;
• he does not know how to listen to others, does not accept other people's points of view and lives by the principle: there are two opinions - mine and the wrong one;
• he is selective in relation to facts: he accepts those that are beneficial to him, the rest he rejects;
• bias deprives flexibility of thinking, prevents you from opening up to new things and expanding your horizons. A typical example of a biased position: “Our ancestors did it this way, and we will do it too”;
• the result of a biased attitude is fatal mistakes in making important life and professional decisions.

Prejudices can be formed under the influence of a number of factors:

1. Public opinion

Public bias is based on stereotypes of a certain stratum and may not be supported by personal experience. For example, most men have a negative attitude towards women driving, even if they have not been involved in an accident or dangerous situation involving a female driver.

2. Personal experience

This type of bias, on the contrary, stems from one’s own conclusions drawn on the basis of experienced events. If a person once found himself involved in a conflict with a representative of another religion and now considers all carriers of that religion to be aggressive, this is personal bias.

3. Media, gossip, rumors

It often happens that a negative attitude towards a person or phenomenon is based solely on what a neighbor said or heard on television. In terms of the level of reliability of information, these two sources are almost equivalent - they mix truth and lies, without understanding who is right and who is wrong.

There is a joke about this: “I didn’t say hello to the grandmothers on the bench - that’s it, now I’m a drug addict!”

How does the third point differ from the first? Public opinion is based on real statistical conclusions, but does not take into account exceptions - there is a grain of truth in it, sometimes quite impressive. Opinions based on the media and gossip are often completely opposite to the truth.

Political forces often take advantage of this: it is enough to create a negative stereotype of a competitor, and he will never wash himself off, even if it is not true.

4. Fears and phobias, fear of failure

If a person is afraid of something, he will obviously have a negative attitude towards it and try to avoid it. When someone fears failure, they form false arguments against the need for a given action. As an example, a person does not change an unpleasant, low-paid job, fearing that he will not succeed in the new place. To justify himself, he begins to invent excuses that he himself believes in: “All advertisements offering higher pay are a scam.” All bosses are bad, but at least I know what to expect from mine.” Thus, a person creates a negative biased position, which he himself believes in.

5. Pride, confidence in one’s own infallibility

At some stage of professional or life growth, a person may find himself in the trap of self-confidence, which is expressed in one motto: “I can’t be wrong!” This causes prejudice against other people, a blind reluctance to listen to and understand the arguments of anyone other than oneself. Most often, managers suffer from this.

A lot of troubles are brought by an unshakable confidence in one’s rightness, which causes bias against logical arguments. Thus, an experienced designer may not listen to the fair arguments of a young specialist simply because of his age. Thus, he will endanger the lives of people who will use the bridge or airplane built according to his drawings.

Where do we most often encounter bias?

In fact, we encounter it all the time, but there are entire “breeding grounds” for this disease. These are any judicial systems (starting from beauty contests and ending, in fact, with the courts), employment, relations between the sexes, politics. Any field in which decisions are based on the opinions of certain people suffers from biases, because we are all subjective. Even if we don't want to admit it.

What is positive bias?

If before we talked about the negative attitude generated by prejudice, now it’s time to remember its second side - positive bias. She is driven by personal gain, desires, emotional preferences, sympathies.

A person can take a biased position if it is beneficial for him: a banal example is a bribe. He can make a decision in favor of a person only because he likes him outwardly. We will always take the side of the person we know, even if we don’t know him well enough.

Why is this bad? The fact that competent workers have to work under the supervision of narrow-minded nephews and dropout daughters of influential people. Officials who are appointed to positions through acquaintances do not always even really understand what they need to do. And even in the state management machine, the well-known “nepotism” flourishes. Of course, this negatively affects work.

Connections, patronage, cronyism - all these are offspring of positive bias based on personal gain: I’d rather help an acquaintance who will become my debtor than be objective and get nothing for it.

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Everyone suffers from bias - both its bearers and the objects at which it is directed. Lack of justice kills the desire to act. Bias gives rise to undeserved criticism and unfair connivance, fanaticism and favoritism; puts the lives and destinies of people and entire nations at risk. The Inquisition, the Crusades, genocide - these are the children of bias.

A biased person can be seen a mile away - thinking people will prefer not to mess with him. Therefore, we can safely say that the presence of prejudices distances their bearer from success; such baggage pulls its owner down.

How to deal with this? Cultivate a lack of bias and impartiality. To do this you need to learn a few rules:

• To pacify pride and accept the fact that we can make mistakes, and other people’s opinions can be more correct than ours.
• Calmly consider arguments and facts without thinking about who owns them.
• Don’t take everything they say for granted, check the information in primary sources.
• Feel free to open up to new things, without being afraid of fresh ideas and original views.
• Understand that there can be several points of view on one question, and each will have its own share of truth.

Of course, you shouldn’t go too far - people who are too impartial rightly cause public disapproval. After all, we are emotional and social beings, we do not have the right to abandon loved ones, humane values, love and compassion just because the arguments of reason dictate so. The golden mean between these two phenomena is sufficient objectivity for making important decisions, without prohibiting personal experiences and emotions. In this combination, they will become useful companions of our intellectual growth and professional activity.

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Ecology of consciousness. Psychology: When interacting with the world and people, we often do not even realize that we are controlled by stereotypes, which make up the body of human beliefs.

What is bias and prejudice

Bias– lack of impartiality, prejudice, initial inclination towards a certain position.

Bias is a method of psychological reaction that manifests itself in a deliberately negative attitude towards something or someone. This is prejudice and confidence in a negative result or in the negative qualities of a person (group of people), regardless of the circumstances. Such an opinion, as a rule, is formed in advance, based on false principles, attitudes and insufficiently verified information.

Bias is cold to logical arguments and indifferent to facts.. It is generated by stereotypes, and its origins lie in fear of change, laziness and inertia of thinking. She draws strength from pride and self-confidence.

The only one who acted wisely was my tailor. He took my measurements again every time he saw me, while everyone else came up to me with their old measurements, expecting me to fit them.

George Bernard Shaw

When interacting with the world and people, we often do not even realize that we are controlled by stereotypes, which make up the body of human beliefs. Each person has his own set of stereotypes, patterns, patterns, which determine his character. style of interaction with the world.

Being a hostage of his own mind, a person loses many opportunities. For example: it is unrealistic to be in the here and now, it is unrealistic to be even a little objective, it is unrealistic to get a high-quality result in anything, to be a master of your craft, it is impossible to love yourself and the world around you.There is no chance to become a creator in anything, including your life. There is no chance of building happy family relationships or forming a trusting relationship with a child if you are prone to bias.

Unfortunately, for most people, consciousness does not develop beyond the level of beliefs. In fact, all internal and external conflicts in a person’s life are the result of a conflict between his patterns, stereotypes and beliefs among themselves or when colliding with the patterns of other people.

People who are biased towards many things can be identified by a number of characteristics:

Any facts and information that contradict established stereotypes cause a number of doubts, prejudice and a nervous, sometimes aggressive reaction in a person;

A person avoids in every possible way what could deny the standards accepted for him, considering them to be unshakable established laws of life;

A biased individual does not allow the thought that his opinion may be erroneous or inaccurate - for him it is the only true one;

A prejudiced attitude is based on a negative attitude towards the object of discussion pre-established in a person’s subconscious;

A person tends to accept the only point of view that is correct for himself, completely ignoring other options;

A person who lives only according to established stereotypes, not recognizing any innovations and progressive approaches, over time begins to think rather narrowly, his development is limited, since progress moves forward, but he is still at the initial stage;

A person who is biased towards the opinions of other people cannot be called a free person. He lives strictly within established limits, relying on his limitations and limitations;

The individual loses his own opinion, which is based on an analysis of the current situation, he acts in one way or another because it is necessary, nothing more;

It is very difficult to convince a biased person, so many people simply step aside, not wanting to waste their energy and nerves on pointless arguments.

Do you recognize yourself at any point? Now remember your relationship with your family, loved ones, significant people, just people. that appear in your life.

What beliefs and patterns are your interaction with them based on? How often do you react the same way to events in your life? What labels do you attach to the people you interact with?

Try to answer these questions honestly. If it is difficult to answer right away, observe yourself for a while and consider your bias towards life in the actions of each day.There is no point in being scared or upset when you discover your own bias, there is a point in accepting it and observing how it manifests itself.

And one more question: does your bias make you a happy person or, on the contrary, ultimately brings suffering, anxiety, pain, resentment or fear?

Now decide, do you want to be happy and free from bias, or will you continue to be a victim of your own mind, or rather its games?

If you make a choice in favor of awareness and a happy life, then start by observing your thoughts, your emotional reactions, actions and actions.

Try to recognize every new day of your life as NEW, unfamiliar to you. Get to know him, his every moment. Look at it, savor it, get to know it. Enjoy life, and don’t spend it on realizing the stereotypes of your mind, and what’s even worse, the stereotypes imposed on you by someone.

Let each meeting you have with a person you already know carry the effect of novelty. Set yourself the task of finding something new every time, even in a person you have known for a long time. Let your attention and perception of a person be pure, devoid of patterns.

Have a beautiful interaction with your own life! published

What is bias

Bias, according to the etymology of the word, means prejudice towards something, shown in advance. This may concern assessments, conclusions, opinions, the consequence of which is a biased attitude towards a situation, event, phenomenon, person, etc. This attitude has both subjective and objective reasons.

Objective reasons for bias

Objective reasons are dictated by certain generally accepted norms, rules, and the current socio-political situation. For example, there is an etiquette rule: it is unacceptable for an applicant to be late for a pre-employment interview. Of course, this can be explained with a good reason. Some HR managers, in addition to interviews, attach great importance to a probationary period, where the employee can fully reveal himself. In such cases, despite the untoward incident, they hire the employee. But more than 50% of recruiters consider being late for an interview completely unacceptable. This is often dictated by the company's corporate culture. Of course, in such cases there will be a prejudiced attitude towards the candidacy of a latecomer as an unpunctual person.

Subjective reasons for bias

Subjective reasons for a biased attitude, for example, of a manager towards a subordinate, may be associated with the specifics of the approach to the individual. They depend on such properties as low self-esteem, fear of competition due to young age or strong leadership qualities, greater competence, and, finally, charisma, which will seem to the manager a potential reason for taking his position. Often at school, a teacher may develop a biased, negative, distrustful attitude towards a student who entered school from a disadvantaged family, or towards the children of immigrants who arrived from the former Soviet republics.

Bias and stereotypes

A prejudiced attitude is something that can be based on persistent prejudices, prevailing public opinion, and stereotypes. Not so long ago, there was an opinion in our country that a woman leader was less able to cope with the role of a boss than a man. It was more difficult for her to establish herself in leadership positions, especially when she joined a new, already established team. Life and socio-economic development change a lot. Nowadays, women often head companies, firms, or start their own businesses. In many regions, especially in the outback, preconceived notions about female leaders still remain.

Consequences of Bias

Prejudice, the meaning and consequences of which can be assessed as negative, leads to controversial situations. A conflict based on mistrust can arise within a team of employees, between a manager and subordinates, between students and a teacher, parents and a teacher, a coach and athletes, etc. In turn, this affects the image and work of the enterprise. No one is immune from difficult life situations related to interpersonal relationships. It is impossible to foresee them in advance. We must remember that there is always a way out. If it is difficult to find it yourself, you should turn to friends, relatives, or a professional psychologist.

Ecology of life, Psychology: Each of us at least once in our lives has encountered a prejudiced attitude towards ourselves - from teachers, bosses, work colleagues or other people with whom we are somehow forced to communicate. In this article we have collected advice from psychologists for those who are trying to cope with this problem:

Each of us at least once in our lives has encountered a prejudiced attitude towards ourselves - from teachers, bosses, work colleagues or other people with whom we are somehow forced to communicate. In this article we have collected advice from psychologists for those who are trying to cope with this problem:

1. It doesn't matter what other people think of you. This is your life and you live it - not them. Live your life the way you want.

2. If someone has a grudge against you out of the blue, don’t bother yourself and don’t try to “find the reason in yourself.” Behind a prejudiced attitude usually hides banal self-doubt, attempts to assert oneself and a bunch of other complexes. People tend to project their own shortcomings onto others - this is much easier than getting rid of them.

3. Agree, you also treated people with prejudice, and probably more than once. Try to remember several such situations - this way you will understand that it was not the person who provoked a disapproving attitude towards himself, but you invented something for yourself.

4. Being independent of other people's opinions is quite simple in words, but in reality everything turns out to be much more complicated. Sometimes it’s worth getting angry or offended in order to use this negative energy by directing it in a positive direction.

5. Demonizing ill-wishers is a simple and even pleasant approach, because in this case you act as a positive character, and those around you become evil and heartless monsters with whom you fight. However, it is worth remembering that in fact all these people are just victims of their own insecurities and subconscious fears, and no worse than others - you were simply unlucky to fall under the hot hand, or rather, the head.

6. There is a huge difference between constructive criticism and openly biased judgments. Sometimes it’s still worth listening to people who criticize you - perhaps they are just trying to help you. Our brain takes criticism hard and reacts equally painfully to any attacks from the outside, but if you calm down for a minute and think, you will easily find the above-mentioned difference. So if someone is trying to tell you something important, try to listen.

7. Don’t take it out on other people– this will still not make you feel any better, and there will only be more negativity in the world.

8. Malice is contagious. Save yourself the hassle: throw bad thoughts out of your head, accept the fact that you can’t control other people’s minds, and spend time in the company of people who are more pleasant to you.

9. The same caustic comment can come from someone who just got off on the wrong foot, or from someone who can't go a day without trampling someone into the dirt. If the latter is the case, then it’s worth remembering Tina Fey’s statement: “You shouldn’t waste your energy trying to dissuade people. It’s better to either not notice someone else’s opinion at all, or go ahead - when you stand at the top, opinions will change on their own. Or they won't change. What's the difference? Do what you want, and it doesn’t matter whether others like it or not.”

10. Or here’s another great quote from Tina: “If you have ever encountered disapproval, be it sexism, ageism, lookism, or even aggressive Buddhism, then simply ask yourself: “Could this person be stopping me from achieving what I want?” “If the answer is no, ignore it and move on. Invest your energy in your own affairs - this is how you will most quickly achieve success. If you become some kind of big boss, don’t hire people who treated you badly.”

11. People who are overly biased and pessimistic about everything, simply because they want it so much, will definitely turn into a big pain in the ass if you don’t distance yourself from them in time. Get rid of such people and avoid them in the future.

12. Understanding and empathy will come in handy where you least want to show it.. Sometimes with their help you can resolve even the most intractable conflict.

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13. Mental attitudes like “I’m better than them all” and “They treat me this way just because I’m better at my job than them” usually do more harm than good because they still have negative connotations. So just don't take other people into account. Yes, they may hurt you with a careless word, but the pain will go away quickly, and your life will become much easier if you simply stop considering these people as a significant factor in your mental comfort.

14. Even the most successful, confident and beloved people have had to deal with criticism.. If public disapproval stops you, then you are unlikely to succeed at all.

15. Bias will always exist as a phenomenon.- after all, we are people. On the other hand, when a person is too busy with his own life, other people's opinions simply stop bothering him. published