How to become an interesting person. How to be weird

A modern person dreams that others will pay attention to him as an individual. The ability to maintain a conversation on any topic, practical advice that is listened to by acquaintances and friends, incendiary humor - all this is an integral part of the life of a successful and interesting person. People are usually drawn to such people, they are respected, and everyone wants to get acquainted with such individuals. The question of how to become more interesting to others worries many people of all ages.

Many people, due to low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence, consider themselves uninteresting and boring people. And such an approach is absolutely wrong, every person has his own zest and individuality, here it is important to reveal unique and positive qualities in yourself. Even a seemingly boring person, who is characterized in society as constrained and uptight, can actually turn out to be a real find. Usually a person is especially demanding of himself; anyone can find some kind of flaw in themselves that will interfere with an objective assessment. Therefore, it is so necessary to know all your character traits, especially the pros and cons.

Most of us can think for a long time about how we can change ourselves, but in reality there are several effective ways to raise our self-esteem and fuel interest in our person from others. These methods are very easy:

try to study something innovative and interesting more often;
share new knowledge with others;
identify the best qualities in yourself and try to develop them;
always listen to your interlocutor;
treat your shortcomings and oddities with condescension;
always remain yourself, don’t run headlong after the crowd;
say goodbye to your fears;
minimize communication with whiners and bores;
Use your sense of humor, others will definitely appreciate it.

What should an interesting person be like?

It’s quite easy to be an interesting person, you just need to start being interested in something unusual and interesting. Boring people are usually not interested in any area of life, they don’t care what happens around them, so start traveling, expand your horizons. Be interested in the latest in show business, politics, culture, achievements of science and technology. Reading educational books will help you seriously enrich your intellect. When you set a goal to become an interesting person, be sure to acquire your own hobby, it can be anything - satin stitch or cross stitch, collecting cars or postcards, all this will help you express yourself and become more self-confident. Passionate people are always of interest to others; they devote all their free time to their favorite pastime, which over time can develop into a lifelong endeavor. A person who has a passion lives in harmony with himself and has general recognition, regardless of what he realizes himself in.

It is important not only to know a lot of interesting and useful things, it is important to be able to present such information to others so that they listen in fascination with their mouths open. Interesting information can be gleaned from various sources:

Internet;
television;
periodicals;
various books.

By learning to correctly voice your thoughts, you can attract a large audience of listeners. This is where public speaking lessons can come in handy, which can easily be found online or at local cultural centers.

Most people consider themselves uninteresting individuals and doubt their capabilities. Take a closer look at yourself from the outside, and determine your best qualities, reveal your talents and abilities; for someone, every person is of interest. Magnify all your positive qualities, and some shortcomings can easily be converted into advantages by presenting them as part of your image.

To do this, you need to not only be a good conversationalist, the main thing that attracts people is the ability to listen. The ability to listen and ask the right questions characterizes the interlocutor as an extraordinary person. By giving other people the opportunity to talk about themselves and express their thoughts, a person demonstrates genuine interest in the conversation and respect for the interlocutor. A person who is only busy with his own person and does not allow others to get a word in is boring in the eyes of others.

Each of us has our own oddities and quirks, so you shouldn’t be shy or hide them, it’s these qualities that make us unique and interesting. If a person is not like others, this does not make him worse, but, on the contrary, emphasizes his interest to society. You don’t have to do anything super-outstanding; just a few phrases or a charming look are enough to attract people’s attention.

Always remain yourself, you need to defend your opinion, and not meekly follow the crowd. People who are confident in their decisions and can prove they are right are of interest. Do not succumb to outside influence; when making decisions, rely only on your needs and desires.

Buy clothes not only following fashion trends, but also based on factors such as convenience and comfort. You should also listen to music not just like everyone else, for company, but exactly the music you like. You should always act as you think is necessary, not paying attention to the intrigues of envious people, in this way you can achieve great respect and authority in society. All these rules do not mean at all that you need to do everything the other way around; perhaps, somewhere you need to listen to other people’s advice. But in order to do so, you need to create something of your own and go your own way.

To attract the interest of people around you, you need to become brave. It is this quality of courage that many people often lack when making important decisions. And even though some decisions were made incorrectly, and the path chosen was the wrong one, it provides rich life experience, and people with extensive life experience are very interesting people and interlocutors. Therefore, you need to dare, leaving behind all your fears and doubts.

Usually bores and whiners poison the lives of those around them; they are the ones who consider boredom an interesting activity. Such people constantly cry into the vests of those around them that everything is bad for them and nothing is working out, although they could do everything. They are offended that others succeed in all their endeavors, but they do not. Long-term communication with such individuals leads to a spoiled mood and loss of strength. Therefore, all contacts with whiners should be kept to a minimum, otherwise you may find yourself under their influence, fall into deep depression and consider yourself a failure.

The most interesting people are considered to be those with an excellent sense of humor. In society, it is much more pleasant to listen to a person who tells funny stories from life or anecdotes than someone who will tediously talk about how spaceships plow the expanses of our Universe, although this can be told in a fascinating and even funny way. Describing an interesting person with a sense of humor, they say that he is cool. Such people are welcome to be seen in any company; their fiery smile and infectious laughter can work wonders. The easiest way to be interesting in a company is to learn interesting jokes and then, on occasion, tell them; this greatly helps to defuse the situation, especially in an unfamiliar company.

How not to gain the interest of others

A person who has authority and status in society can also be considered interesting. However, often such interest in famous personalities is purely selfish. Therefore, you should not seek the interest of others at the expense of your capabilities; in such cases, it is very difficult to determine whether the interest is truly sincere or just for the sake of meeting a celebrity.

Conclusion

An interesting person is someone to whom people are drawn, with whom you want to be around as often as possible. You can think many times about how to become more interesting, or you can just read the advice of psychologists once and go towards your dream. Interesting people are usually not just pleasant to talk to, they are self-sufficient and successful individuals. Such people rarely have mood swings, and almost never experience depression - they simply do not have time for this. They live to the fullest and take everything from life, you can recharge yourself with positivity from them, and they will always lend a helping hand. You can count on such people in everything, because they are interesting, and they happily give their uniqueness to others.

The authors of the book “The Rules”, Ellen Fein and Sherry Schneider, revolutionized America when they demanded that women once and for all forget about meeting men first, calling themselves, making dates. The main idea of the book can be expressed very briefly by one of those very famous rules: “Let the man lead.” Today we are publishing the part that concerns already existing relationships.

Rule #26: Even if you're engaged or married, you still need "rules."

Ideally, we should follow the “Rules” from the minute we first meet a man until the moment he says he loves and wants to get married. But if you were unlucky enough to know about "The Rules" before reading this book, we offer you the best thing you can do right now. It's better to follow the "Rules" now than never follow them.

But if you've never heard of The Rules, don't feel like you need to completely change your relationship with your fiancé or husband. For example, if you initiated the relationship, called him, asked him out on a date, and did other things to make the relationship work, he will always expect something like that from you. He doesn't have to worry about marriage - he knows he has you. After all, you tell him this with every word and gesture. And the man gets used to taking you for granted. You may have made things worse by initiating sex and/or romantic dinners. You asked him about his feelings, asked him to spend less time at work or with friends and more time with you. Sometimes it even seems to you that he is having an affair.

If you have not followed the "Rules" from the very beginning of your relationship, then your husband may not pay attention to you, be rude or treat you poorly. You're guessing:

— Is his behavior the result of poor upbringing or is it related to his past?

Perhaps this is true. But we believe that everything is your fault. You didn't follow the "Rules". A man has never had to treat you like the girl of his dreams. A man who is absolutely indifferent to his wife or girlfriend changes dramatically when he meets a woman who follows the “Rules.”

In a relationship according to the “Rules” there is no place for violence, it was difficult to win you, the man had to work hard, and now he considers you the most beautiful and beautiful woman in the world, even if this is not the case. For him, you are a real jewel.

Do not despair. Start following the "Rules" immediately and he will surely notice changes in your behavior. And then he will want you more.

Here are five suggestions

Don't call him at work so often. Calls should be short and business-like. (“What time is the movie?”). Don't call to say you're bored and want to have sex in the evening. He should be the one calling you to say something like this.
Don't initiate sex, even if you really want it. Let him be the man and the aggressor in the bedroom. Biologically, it is the man who should pursue the woman. If you initiate sex, you will deprive a man of his masculinity. Act like a "Rules" girl on the first date. Be flirty. Flirt when he tries to kiss you or bite your neck. And this will turn him into a tiger.
Dress better and sexier. Men don't like to see a woman in a robe at home. Wear skinny jeans, miniskirts, and bright, low-cut shirts. Wear perfume, do makeup. Wash your hair often. Pretend you're on a date.
Behave independently. Always come or go. Don't sit on the couch waiting for him to return. Do not burden him with stories about the events of the day, your problems and pain. Make plans with friends, children and neighbors. Go to the movies and shopping centers. Just walk. And this will make him dream of how to snatch at least a minute of your precious time. He'll want to kiss you in the kitchen if he feels like you're about to sneak away. He will go crazy when you talk on the phone in his presence - he will want you to belong entirely to him. This is what happens when you start following the "Rules". He will feel that he will never get enough of you. He will start calling you from work to arrange dinner at a restaurant or a weekend trip. This is what you need. Men love independent women because they give them freedom. They like to pursue busy women. It's interesting and exciting.
Find yourself a hobby. Most men prefer to spend Sunday watching TV with beer. Some people take their work home and sit at the computer all day. Women feel lonely when their men do not include them in their plans and do not pay attention to them. You shouldn't nag a man and demand that he give up his hobbies, friends and work just because you're bored. You will get more attention if you are busier than him. Play with your children, go for a run in the park, buy a membership to a fitness club. Not only will it keep you busy, but it will also help you stay fit and more attractive. He will wonder what other men will think when they see you in a swimsuit. This is very beneficial for relationships. This will make a man turn off the TV or computer and spend time with you. You can do charity work, read a book or play sports.

Find something to do! The main thing is independence and employment. And then you won't hang around a man complaining that he doesn't pay attention to you.

Unfortunately, following the “Rules” sometimes means being alone (even if you are married and have children). Be glad that this is not forever!

Constantly explore new places, learn new ideas and opinions. Bored people often stop being interested in new things.

Share what you learn

Be generous in everything. Not everyone strives for new knowledge like you. So let them at least learn something new and interesting from you.

Do something. Anything!

Dance. Speak. Build. Play. Help. Create. It doesn’t matter what you do, the main thing is to do something all the time. Sitting around endlessly complaining about life is not considered “something”; it is not something worth doing.

Embrace your quirks

Each of us has our own quirks, individual characteristics and our own “cockroaches in the head.” Don't hide them, because they are what make you an interesting and unique person.

Don't be indifferent

If you don't give a damn about everything, then you won't be indifferent to others.

Minimize arrogance

An inflated ego hinders the advancement of ideas. If your arrogance is more obvious than your experience, then be prepared to be avoided.

Allow yourself to shoot

Play with a new idea. Do something weird. Leave your “comfort zone”; this is the only way you can grow and achieve significant success.

Don't follow the crowd

If everyone is already doing it, then you're already late to the party. Start your own business, and others will follow you. Besides, it is much more interesting to steer yourself than to be driven.

Be bolder!

Courage is required in order to have an opinion that contradicts the opinions of others, or to take an unexpected path. If you don't have the courage for this, then you will still be wandering around the office water cooler, discussing the guy who had it.

10. Ignore the bores

It’s safe to be bored, and you will be reminded of this more than once. The bores could have, would have done, should have done... But they didn’t! And now they are indignant because you succeed!

These tips will help those who want to develop creativity, learn to take risks and trust their talents and abilities. They will also be useful in your career and in everyday life.

1. Explore

Explore new ideas, places and opinions. Listening only to yourself is the lot of unbearably boring people.

Disconnect. Without a map, you can find places that are not marked there. By turning off your phone, you can talk to someone you meet along the way. Skip the next batch of updates on social networks and look within yourself. Gadgets tie you to a familiar world. Turn them off and plunge into the unknown.
Take a vacation every day. Even if not for long. Walk around the city at sunrise. Drop a letter into an unfamiliar mailbox. Read a magazine someone left at a bus stop. Take a walk in the rain. Order hot chocolate in an unfamiliar cafe. Use any free minute.
Keep asking “why?” Parents hate it when their children torment them with questions. Why? Because. Why? Because. Why? Because. And again and again. But try it yourself. And you will be surprised how behind a simple “why?” the most interesting “because...” will follow.

2. Share your finds

Be generous. Not everyone can go with you. Let them have the same adventures as you.

Be proactive. Don't put it off until tomorrow. Speak and act immediately, now. Go where you need to be. Don't wait for an invitation - invite yourself. Don't sit by the phone - call. Spread the word. Click on the buttons. Buy tickets and enjoy the show.
State the obvious (to you). What you know is often a sealed secret for others. What is as old as the world to you may seem like a fresh idea to someone else. For you the task is simple, for others it is an insurmountable obstacle. Your mind is full of treasures that no one else can see. Bring them out into the light. When you share ideas, they don't disappear. On the contrary, they only multiply.
Be the connector, not the end point. Don't just talk. Don't just listen. Meet people. Help strangers. Share what you know. This is how an idea grows like a snowball and eventually turns into an event. Be the core around which the whole community is created.

3. Do something. Anything

Dance. Write. Build. Communicate. Play. Help. Create. It doesn't matter what exactly you do, as long as you do something. Yes, just in case: this does not apply to “sit and whine.”

Make a choice. Any. Can't decide exactly how to manage the current day? With your life? Career? To be honest, it doesn't matter. Even carefully laid plans fall apart. And rushing around in indecision from one option to another is a surefire way to never accomplish anything in your entire life. Flip a coin. Spin the bottle. Trust your intuition. And go ahead!
Throw away the trash. Not every business is worth doing. Not every unpleasant job has to be done. Avoid what torments you. If there's something you can't avoid (doing laundry or filing a tax return), enjoy doing it—and once you've done it, put it out of your mind. Make room for what really matters. And really interesting.
Stake out your territory. Whatever you do, love what you do. Accept it. Get better at it. Own it. This is the only way to combine a sense of freedom with a sense of security.

4. Embrace your weirdness

There are no “normal” people in the world. Each has its own characteristics and unique views. Don't hide them from others - this is what makes you an interesting person.

Be yourself in public. When you leave the house, be yourself. Be yourself at work. Wear your individuality proudly. Don't censor your skills. Don't hide your unique traits. To stand out, you need to have personality. Only the one who does not hide it from others remains himself.
Stop apologizing. There's nothing wrong with being unique. There is nothing wrong with being different from others. You don't have to apologize for being an interesting person.
Capitalize on your features. What makes you interesting adds value to you. Only you can express what you know, do what you do, and know what you know. And you don’t need a huge niche - just a piece of land to stick your flag.

5. Live meaningfully

If you don't care, no one will care about you.

Spend your money on the right things. Who do you pay? Who pays you? What people and companies are you associated with? Do you agree with their policies, practices and behavior? Are they satisfied with you? If not, you can always change things up by starting to spend your money on something else.
Strive for the maximum. Ask yourself: is this the best it can be? If not, what is it? And get busy achieving the best.
Get things in order. Give the most important things the highest priority. Everything else will organize itself.

6. Keep it simple

Ego gets in the way of ideas. If your arrogance is more noticeable than your experience, people will avoid you.

Imagine how much you don't know. Everything you will ever know will be just a microscopic grain of sand compared to the vast, vast information of the universe. Let this sobering fact reassure you.
Not everyone needs what you have. Your greatest achievement, no matter how impressive it may seem to you, is a terrible nightmare for someone else. Your most valuable possession is just tasteless trash to someone else. Brag carefully!
Think about how lucky you are. Do you deserve what you have? Perhaps, partly. What about what you don't have? Probably not. Recognize the role that coincidences, accidents, systemic processes (and luck, of course) play in our world.

7. Try it

Try it. Try new ideas. Do something unusual. You won't grow until you leave your comfort zone.

Acknowledge your desires. To deny a dream means to kill it in the bud. You shouldn't feel guilty about striving for something. There's nothing wrong with wanting something. Save the guilt for when you don't give yourself a chance to at least try.
Go beyond your boundaries. Just because you haven't been somewhere doesn't mean you won't like it. Just because something isn't your responsibility doesn't mean you can't do it. It's up to you to decide which league to play in.
Take on difficult things. Know that obstacles will deter most of your competitors. In addition, as a rule, solving the most difficult problems brings the greatest satisfaction in the end.

8. Get off the wrong track

You shouldn’t do what everyone else is already doing - this train has left without you. Come up with something of your own, then admirers will be drawn to you And.

Squeeze into the niche. The narrower the niche, the less room there is for imitators. If you want to be interesting, do something special, not ordinary.
Don't go after everything that is universal. If something is found everywhere, it is not necessarily worthy of praise or participation.
Get noticed. To be successful, you don't have to become world famous or filthy rich. You just have to do what you do best.

9. Take courage

It takes courage to have your own opinion and take the untrodden path. If you don't have enough courage, all you have to do is hang around the cooler and discuss those who have it in abundance.

Start a riot. If you suddenly realize that you are working on something pointless or fruitless, stop immediately. You shouldn't fight for something you don't see value in. You will be surprised how many people will support your protest.
Avoid authorities. Authorities, as a rule, fetter, restrain and limit freedom. Get rid of them whenever possible.
Don't be afraid of friction. You don't want to impose. You don't like to make waves. You don't dare ask for what you need. But you will have to get over yourself.

10. Ignore the swearing

It's safe to be boring. When you become interesting, you will often hear angry “behave yourselves.” Those who scold you also “could”, “would like”, “would have done”. But they didn't. And that's why they are infuriated by your willingness to adventure.

Don't put yourself down. Is that nasty little voice in your head criticizing and putting you down? Silence him with actions that will prove him wrong. Warning: This may take years.
Learn from everyone. You can learn how not to live your life from the scumbags you encounter. You can learn how to live from people you respect and love. Consider this all a scientific study of human behavior.
Don't confuse ridicule and criticism. Only that which can be used for self-improvement is constructive.

People often wonder why they cannot sufficiently interest their interlocutor, or are forced to remain silent in a large company. Such mental anguish is sometimes justified - after all, not in every environment there is an opportunity for this or that person to open up in communication, to interest individuals or the entire team. But how to become an interesting person to others , if you feel a lack of certain skills or character qualities? Let's look at some simple ways.

Start playing sports. A strong and healthy body is an essential attribute of attractiveness. Smooth shoulders and slender posture are always much more attractive than a tight, constrained body. When playing sports, not only does muscle training occur and endurance increases, which in itself leads to improved appearance. The volitional efforts that have to be made during physical activity help to increase self-esteem. Neural connections formed in the brain during stress are destroyed due to increased production of serotonin and dopamine. Having become physically attractive, it is much easier to captivate others with the rich content of your inner world.
Good way be interesting for others– find something special in yourself that will reflect your individuality. People, especially young people, often strive to be like movie stars, TV presenters and other celebrities. The reason for the attractiveness of these celebrities is the unique images that they skillfully embody. Therefore, in order to become an interesting person for others, you need to reveal your own “zest”. Perhaps it will be a special hairstyle, style of clothing, sense of humor, or the ability to maintain a conversation on a certain topic. Advantages do not necessarily have to be such a distinctive feature. For example, there is an opinion that the secret of the charm of French women is the ability to present even flaws in appearance as if they were advantages. If a true French woman has a mole on her face, she will not make every effort to disguise it or get rid of the blemish. On the contrary, she will perceive this mole as a feature, a certain element of individuality and a source of charm.
Don't be afraid to imitate your idols. As has been said, celebrities often become objects of adoration. But if such imitation were destructive, it is unlikely that this method of self-expression would be so popular. Make a list of those people who have always admired you. Perhaps these will not even be movie stars, but scientists, writers or artists, and political leaders. What qualities do you most admire? Try to develop these same qualities in yourself. There is a law of achieving success - in order to achieve what you want, you must act the way successful people in this field act. Taking the beaten path often means making it much easier for yourself to achieve success in any endeavor, including in matters of personal growth.
Developing the ability to understand someone else's point of view. How to become an interesting person to others , causing the desire to communicate with yourself again and again? To do this, you can use the technique of the ancient Greek philosophers - “Argument with yourself.” Its essence is very simple: in order to master this technique, you need to choose a thesis that interests you and begin to give arguments in favor of this thesis. To start, you can choose something simple, such as the statement “Working in an office is better than working on a farm.” Give as many arguments as possible in favor of this statement - as if you want to convince the most furious opponent of this. And after that, start doing exactly the opposite - proving to your imaginary interlocutor (this process can be carried out in front of a mirror) that working on a farm, on the contrary, is much better than working in a stuffy and dull office.

This exercise will help develop the ability to look at problems from different angles, and even empathy.

Being an attractive person means being able to express yourself in society, while also showing interest in others. Use these methods and you will be able to develop aspects of your personality in a way that will make it much easier to interest others.